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[Natoja12]

I'm scared of sex. I'm 13 and im terrified of having sex with a guy. i dont want to lick a guys dick and im scared it wont fit in my vagina.

I'm starting to think im going to be a lesbian when im older because im feeling mroe comfotale having sex with them cause then i wont have those problems.

Could anyone help me?

[BeautifulSilence]

First things first, calm down hun.

You're still very young and shouldn't be thinking about indulging in sexual activities anyway. These thoughts are just a way to prove to you that mentally, you are definitely NOT ready to have sex.

You're not going to turn into a lesbian just because you think that you're vagina is too small for a penis - a lesbian is a female who is emotionally and physically attracted to other females, and not to men.

I'm guessing you're friends have put thoughts into your mind about having sex or sexually performing. If so, it's nothing to do with them! When you know that you feel emotionally / mentally ready, is the time to start thinking about having sex. But even then you should wait for the right person and you should be certain that you're in love and your relationship is stable enough to handle any problems that could occur during / after sex (pregnancy, etc).

Hope that helps :D

[kerry]

First things first, calm down hun.

You're still very young and shouldn't be thinking about indulging in sexual activities anyway. These thoughts are just a way to prove to you that mentally, you are definitely NOT ready to have sex.

You're not going to turn into a lesbian just because you think that you're vagina is too small for a penis - a lesbian is a female who is emotionally and physically attracted to other females, and not to men.

I'm guessing you're friends have put thoughts into your mind about having sex or sexually performing. If so, it's nothing to do with them! When you know that you feel emotionally / mentally ready, is the time to start thinking about having sex. But even then you should wait for the right person and you should be certain that you're in love and your relationship is stable enough to handle any problems that could occur during / after sex (pregnancy, etc).

Hope that helps :D

thats it Rep +

[Zephyr]

Laura pretty much hit the nail on the head = )

To put a couple of things straight though...

The vagina i a very accomodating part of the body...
It stretches as needed, even if it may be painful for some.
And don't feel complled to touch a penis,
If you don't want to, then by all means, don't.

[Sugaree]

Lauren I must say that what you just posted was the hammer that hit the nail. Great job and Rep + :D

For the OP question. Well, you are only thirteen. You shouldn't really worry about having sex, expecially at this young age. Don't be scared. Sex is something that you should wait for until you're ready. No, just becaue you are afraid of sex does NOT mean you will become a lesbian.

Another thing is worrying about if the penis will fit in your vagina or not. You are young and still have plenty of time to grow. Plus, the vaginal opening is very elastic so there's a big chance that a penis of any size can fit in there with no problem.

So there's nothing to worry about right now ;).

[ThatCanadianGuy]

Plus, the vaginal opening is very elastic so there's a big chance that a penis of any size can fit in there with no problem.

... and just remember; your body was designed to have a BABY out of there... much much bigger and wider than any penis! So don't worry, when you actually ARE ready for sex you should have nothing of THIS kind to worry about. :yeah:

[Rutherford The Brave]

Yeah it is true it will strech but its possible that your first or second time will break your hymn (sp?) or "pop your cherry." Which can be painful, but after that it will feel alot better as your vagina will begin to strech to accomodate the penis.

[Techno Monster]

You will stretch out, and it is fine if you don't want to lick anything.

[Close102]

calm down i still think that you are a little young to worry about it. also you dont have to lick a guys dick and i dout anyones dick is big enough that it wont fit into your vagina unless yours is extreely small. and finally, when you find someone you REALLY REALLY like you will want to have sex with them.

[My_Toes_Are_Cold]

I've turned down sex because I felt nervous about it, and because I knew I wasn't ready.

You'll have sex when you're ready. Definitely not when you're 13 - and don't let anyone try to coerce you otherwise. If a guy (or girl, even) is asking you to sexually perform and you feel really nervous, don't do it.

[BeautifulSilence]

Wow, I've got so much REP+ for that post, thanks!

[To OP] All of the above posts should have definitely helped you - do we get a reply? I'd just like your thoughts on the comments, also anything that you don't fully understand that we could expand?

[notsure101]

If your not ready dont do it and dont be scared omg i had the longest talk last night about this kind of stuff to

[sabotaged111]

Its stretchy :D You were designed to have a baby and god thats bigger than any penis lol, As for the licking thing you dont have to likc what you dont want to.

[Random_oso06]

First things first, calm down hun.

You're still very young and shouldn't be thinking about indulging in sexual activities anyway. These thoughts are just a way to prove to you that mentally, you are definitely NOT ready to have sex.

You're not going to turn into a lesbian just because you think that you're vagina is too small for a penis - a lesbian is a female who is emotionally and physically attracted to other females, and not to men.

I'm guessing you're friends have put thoughts into your mind about having sex or sexually performing. If so, it's nothing to do with them! When you know that you feel emotionally / mentally ready, is the time to start thinking about having sex. But even then you should wait for the right person and you should be certain that you're in love and your relationship is stable enough to handle any problems that could occur during / after sex (pregnancy, etc).

Hope that helps :D

like plenty of people said hit the nail on the head rep +

[Insane0011]

its gonna be hard to beat Laura but ill try to give some good points

1. dont get involved in things you dont want to to fit in, real freinds would care about your feelings

2.it may not seem like a penis will not fit b/c you are still a virgin and still have that wall of flesh

3. oral sex is totally optional, no one should ever be forced to do something sexually that they do not want to

4. if you do find a good guy that loves you, he will respect your feelings and not force you do anything you dont want to

5. just calm down, dont think about it, a guy will come


hope this helped a little


and reaper that was stupid

[DarkWingedAngel]

sex is nothing to be scared of i mean u get worried on will i scdrew up or is his dick to big and will it fit inside me but realy your vagina is realy strechey if it can fit i baby comig out then heck yes it can fit any size dick ok and plus u r to young to have sex at age 13 me i made the mistake and here i thought i was pregnant thank god im not but seriousley when the time is right u will not be scared anymore!!

[iceyfresh]

its nothing to be scared of you will over come your fear in time mostlikely