Girls help please.

[thenewguy728]

Okay, I know this is the girls forum, but I need some help.
-I've been with my girlfriend for a long time now, and we were talking/planning about doing something. She said head maybe.
--The thing is I don't think I'm ready yet, and I know it might ruin the relationship.
---So, what way do you think I can tell her without her feeling rejected by me, hurt, or think I'm a wimp?

Thank you.

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

You're not a wimp, and I don't think she'll think so. If you're not ready, you're not ready, and she needs to respect that. She wouldn't want you to pressure her into anything she didn't want to do, so she shouldn't pressure you (mention that fact if she does). As for how to tell her, when the topic starts to come up again just say it. Something like, "I know you want to do this, but I'm not sure I'm ready yet and right now I'd rather wait." Let her know you do care about her, and that's part of the reason you can't do this unless you're sure the relationship won't suffer. Make sure she knows she's not doing anything wrong, and that she doesn't think she's just unattractive to you. She should respect your decision, and will probably leave it to you to bring it up again if/when you're ready.

[Antares]

Girls Puberty :arrow: Relationships and Dating

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

Oh, you moved it. I was just about to after responding and it said I didn't have access, I got confused. *phew* Good to know my modding powers haven't been revoked.

[kerry]

like jessi said your not a wimp..... talk to her and say i need time to think about it

[sabotaged111]

Youre not a wimp for wanting to stay in a relationship that you enjoy and im sure she wont think so either. Just come clean to her. :D GOOD LUCK

[DarkWingedAngel]

it depends what does she want to do with u and how old r u

[AshMar_Fray]

to your whole situation,
i think if youre not ready,
the only thing you can do is
be honest about it. if she really
cares about you and she wants
to consider your feelings, she will
understand. its no fair for you to be
pressured into anything.


good luck, :D

[Mr. Smithers]

You have to use your words for this one. You have to say it in a way in which you mean it but you are not trying to put her down or anything. Try explaining it to her and explain how unhealthy it might be right now. She will come to reason I am sure she will. If she doesn't right then and there, then I know she will understand sooner or later. You guys should care for each other to the point where you can explain things like this.