LifeIsMyJoke
June 10th, 2008, 05:24 AM
* Beware, long post *
Hey all!
Some of you may have seen a few of my posts around the place since I joined, and everyone here has been really helpful, so I have decided to post one of the reasons I joined the site.
I'm 17, and have two siblings: a 15 year old sister, and a brother who just turned 12. I'll leave my sister out of this post.
I dont wanna sound like I have dibs on myself, but the biggest problem in my family (which isnt major, I just want to share it with you guys, see what you think) is that in my family, there is my little brother, Michael, and my two parents (leaving my sister out). My Mum works for the Australian Government in Quarantine services, and my Dad is a Doctor; General Practitioner. They are often busy, most days of the week. They are both great people, but they are rarely around. So the biggest problem is that my parents are largely too busy making money for the family to look after the emotional needs of their youngest child.
My little bro's problem is that he's trying to live in my footsteps. My parents always jokingly tell him that I got the brains and sporting abilities, and he got the looks, and he just laughs along with it, even when they tell him they're joking.
The thing is, I share a bedroom with my little brother, and he tells me some nights that he doesn't think he will be as good as me. He also asks me why everyone says mean things about him all the time. I tell him that he shouldn't compare, and what did I have that was so special anyways? I'm working in a convenience store before Uni, and playing 1 sport representatively, which is 1 less than him. And that people who say things about him are intellectually challenged morons, and dont know him like I do. He says thanks, but never seems satisfied. This is where I need YOUR help, where possible.
He's also picked on alot at school, which makes me sad in a way. He's one of the youngest in his year (just started Year 7) and is small for his age. Kids bully him by calling him a late bloomer, and harsh things like "get some pubes you little fuck." He sometimes cries at night while he tells me this, and I hug him and tell him its OK, that they don't know what they're talking about, and that he is fine how he is.
My sister doesn't particularly help, always calling him small, and things like that. He doesn't seem affected by them at first, but the thing that makes me sad is how everyone seems to pick on him, except me.
He is trying to live in his Big Brothers footsteps (and I'm not saying thats a good thing) and I would rather he be individual. He even watched a video of me bowling (cricket) and tried to copy my action. He was sad when he didn't beat any old Year 7 Athletics records I set in my time when I was actually athletic.
Sorry to give you my life story, but if you have read all this, as I hope some of you have, my problem I am getting at is that, at 17, I almost feel like a parent. I was raised in an almost perfect childhood, never bullied at school, parents were very helpful, etc. But it almost seems like they're worn out, they're nice to him, etc etc.
But its the times that people that aren't nice to him that really upsets him. And this bullying happens alot. I'm too young to be his parent, but he seems to want to base his life on mine. I look after him the most out of anyone, drive him to his sports when my Dad is too busy, and even coach his soccer team.
The bullying (which I never received, and couldnt believe at first) is both verbal, and on the occasion, physical, and he has come home a few times with ripped sleeves, blood on his face and legs, and bruises on his body, all of which I usually tend to while I ask him whats happening.
Am I doing the best I can? I know its not my job, and my parents are pretty helpful to him too when they have the time, but I feel almost guiltily responsible for him!
The thing is, how do I tell him to try and live individually? Because his sadness makes me want to cry. He is too young to be interested in girls, and hasn't yet started puberty. That is why I would rather change him before its too late.
Also, how can I further help him about being bullied about his size? He even told me the other day how an older kid called him "a queer little shit who loves cock" - I was devastated for him. He is a very cute young man (I mean that in a brotherly way), very athletic and fairly smart. It seems that his conformity to follow me in life is letting him down.
And when he cries to me at night, as he does on occasions, what can I often say to comfort him?
I know I'm too young to be a parent, but as I didn't have any childhood problems, and he does, I almost feel guilty.
I hope this was the right place to post this - please help me get my little bro's life back on track, I love him dearly, and don't want to see or hear about anything else too bad happening to him.
Thanks alot VT!
Hey all!
Some of you may have seen a few of my posts around the place since I joined, and everyone here has been really helpful, so I have decided to post one of the reasons I joined the site.
I'm 17, and have two siblings: a 15 year old sister, and a brother who just turned 12. I'll leave my sister out of this post.
I dont wanna sound like I have dibs on myself, but the biggest problem in my family (which isnt major, I just want to share it with you guys, see what you think) is that in my family, there is my little brother, Michael, and my two parents (leaving my sister out). My Mum works for the Australian Government in Quarantine services, and my Dad is a Doctor; General Practitioner. They are often busy, most days of the week. They are both great people, but they are rarely around. So the biggest problem is that my parents are largely too busy making money for the family to look after the emotional needs of their youngest child.
My little bro's problem is that he's trying to live in my footsteps. My parents always jokingly tell him that I got the brains and sporting abilities, and he got the looks, and he just laughs along with it, even when they tell him they're joking.
The thing is, I share a bedroom with my little brother, and he tells me some nights that he doesn't think he will be as good as me. He also asks me why everyone says mean things about him all the time. I tell him that he shouldn't compare, and what did I have that was so special anyways? I'm working in a convenience store before Uni, and playing 1 sport representatively, which is 1 less than him. And that people who say things about him are intellectually challenged morons, and dont know him like I do. He says thanks, but never seems satisfied. This is where I need YOUR help, where possible.
He's also picked on alot at school, which makes me sad in a way. He's one of the youngest in his year (just started Year 7) and is small for his age. Kids bully him by calling him a late bloomer, and harsh things like "get some pubes you little fuck." He sometimes cries at night while he tells me this, and I hug him and tell him its OK, that they don't know what they're talking about, and that he is fine how he is.
My sister doesn't particularly help, always calling him small, and things like that. He doesn't seem affected by them at first, but the thing that makes me sad is how everyone seems to pick on him, except me.
He is trying to live in his Big Brothers footsteps (and I'm not saying thats a good thing) and I would rather he be individual. He even watched a video of me bowling (cricket) and tried to copy my action. He was sad when he didn't beat any old Year 7 Athletics records I set in my time when I was actually athletic.
Sorry to give you my life story, but if you have read all this, as I hope some of you have, my problem I am getting at is that, at 17, I almost feel like a parent. I was raised in an almost perfect childhood, never bullied at school, parents were very helpful, etc. But it almost seems like they're worn out, they're nice to him, etc etc.
But its the times that people that aren't nice to him that really upsets him. And this bullying happens alot. I'm too young to be his parent, but he seems to want to base his life on mine. I look after him the most out of anyone, drive him to his sports when my Dad is too busy, and even coach his soccer team.
The bullying (which I never received, and couldnt believe at first) is both verbal, and on the occasion, physical, and he has come home a few times with ripped sleeves, blood on his face and legs, and bruises on his body, all of which I usually tend to while I ask him whats happening.
Am I doing the best I can? I know its not my job, and my parents are pretty helpful to him too when they have the time, but I feel almost guiltily responsible for him!
The thing is, how do I tell him to try and live individually? Because his sadness makes me want to cry. He is too young to be interested in girls, and hasn't yet started puberty. That is why I would rather change him before its too late.
Also, how can I further help him about being bullied about his size? He even told me the other day how an older kid called him "a queer little shit who loves cock" - I was devastated for him. He is a very cute young man (I mean that in a brotherly way), very athletic and fairly smart. It seems that his conformity to follow me in life is letting him down.
And when he cries to me at night, as he does on occasions, what can I often say to comfort him?
I know I'm too young to be a parent, but as I didn't have any childhood problems, and he does, I almost feel guilty.
I hope this was the right place to post this - please help me get my little bro's life back on track, I love him dearly, and don't want to see or hear about anything else too bad happening to him.
Thanks alot VT!