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[themanwhoneverwould]

I'm not sure on anything atm

i really want to be straight. but im not sure i am.
its just, i feel emotionally attracted to girls. (well im a bit of a flirter =P )
But i cant help but look at men, and i am sexually attracted to men. I am so confused as i dont know how i feel
and people where i am from dont really liek gays. which makes everything even worse.

so please t/b.

[kitkat92]

How old are you? If your still going through puberty it could just be a phase. If you have always felt like it and have gone through puberty you could be bi. Don't worry about what other people think aslong as your happy it doesn't matter.

[themanwhoneverwould]

im 14 in 18 days

but ive felt like this for months (almost a year now) do you think a faze lasts this long?
If it istn a faze, would this make me bisexual, pansexual or what?

[kitkat92]

Urm well i guess it could be. I used to think I was bi (for bout a year) but now i've kinda stop having the feelings I used to, even tho i still feel that way about girls sometimes. Anyway jus give it time and you will find out what you definatly want. But if you are bi dont worry bout wot peple say.

[byee]

Well, only you know what this might mean. but, I'd encourage you not to jump to any conclusions based on your first year or so in puberty. Everything suddenly becomes sexual, so it's harder to determine if what you're experiencing is a 'phase' (temporary, caused by the newness and intensity of puberty), or if it indicates something else.

Although this is hard to hear, i think it might be best to just wait and see and as you get older it will become clearer. Sit with the ambivalence/confusion. it's better than jumping to a wrong conclusion.

[kitkat92]

Yh i agree

[notsure101]

It could be hormones but you may be Bi

[Antares]

Boys Puberty :arrow: Teen Sexuality

[Requin]

You would most likely to be gay if you are both emotionally and physically attracted to men. Since you say your not, you might not be gay. But how can you tell, your only 14, like me, hormones are everywhere in your body, so don't rush to a decision just yet, be patient and enjoy being young:-)
Oh, don't wish yourself to be straight, you can't be what your not.

[Mr. Smithers]

Yes I agree with AxLr. When I first realized that I was gay, I had thoughts of wanting to be straight. But then I came to conclusion that I should be proud for who I am. Whether your Straight, Bi, Gay whatever, just be yourself. Try not to wish to be something else. Its ok to hide it for a while but don't hope to be straight. You are who you are.

[LifeIsMyJoke]

Bro if you are gay (and from your description, you aren't) then there is nothing you can do to change it. You need to accept it, and move on in life. If other people don't like it, thats their loss.

And you are only 13 man ... You are still going through puberty, possibly in its earliest and most confusing stages, so this is almost entirely a phase I think.

You are curious about men, and even should you experiment with another man (which I don't recommend unless you are 100% comfortable and so are they) you may find its not for you, and you are wiser for the experience.

Like I said, its not something you can help, but at the age of 13, I wouldn't worry about it too much champ, I'd say its just a phase, and you will probably be straight. However, very few people are 100% straight, myself included, and you may become part of this majority, who knows??

Either way you are perfectly normal, and will most likely lead a very normal life.

I hope this helps a little!

[Nihilus]

It may be hormones since you are going through puberty.

[kerry]

You could be curious...it maybe ur hormones....you maybe bi
Also you are only 13 and cant really say what your sexuality is at that age

[Ryandel]

You're still at a young age. But the way you explain it being you've been having these feelings for over a year now, does affect the circumstances. But you're mind is still going through a lot of development. Don't stress over this matter too much.

Hmm I was like you, I kept telling myself I wanted to be straight. And like you, people in my family don't generally like bi's. When I was around 13 I had the same feelings, but I thought it was also a phase. Now I'l older, I'm glad on who I am. Don;t worry what people say, because in the end it won't really matter. Be proud of who you are, don't be something you don't want.