Im so sick of typecasting

[older-and-wiser]

heres my situation:

My ex who i have been in love with for 8 years, we dated for about 3 months after she decided i was good enough i guess, tells me she wants to go off and have a bunch of other relationships, and that i should too.
she went to her formal with a gay guy (nothing against gay people but its different when ur dating and they go with them) and waits until the last minit with no warning to tell me this, so she went to her formal, got wasted at the after party and probly woke up in some random guys bed, a week after we split up :o

so after a few days of getting my head around that, i went to a party for the first time in ages, all of 20-30 people, all wasted, all doing drugs and smoking, i drink but i refuse drugs and smoking, and because of that im typecast, and outcast.
nobody accepts that i wont do drugs,
im not on the same level as people my age, i cant explain it but im alot older in my mind than i am in my body and i think differently to them.

I dont know what to do or where to go from here, nothing makes sense, i did everything i was taught was right by society, but in the end im worse off for listining to them all, it confuses me.

Im angry, im confused, im hurt, and im tired of trying to fit in with people who only have fun when the doped up!!!!!!!!

[The Batman]

Then don't try anymore just throw your own party and invite people who won't do drugs and start drinking. Just don't put yourself in this type of situation anymore.

[Oblivion]

Keep being an outcast if thats what it takes.

Drugs are horrible, and you should be proud of yourself for not doing them.

My advice:
Forget about people that want you to do drugs. If they are real friends, they won't force you to do anything. If you still want to go to their parties, i would say just have fun, but stay safe.

And i really don't know about your ex girlfriend-
No offense but she sounds kind of bitchy.
Going to a formal with another guy right after she dumps you, then tell you about it right before. Find someone special who really likes you and then you will be happy.

Good Luck!
-Nick

[byee]

8 years is a long time to love someone, your loss must be really hard. Give yourself some time to heal, this might take some time. In the mean time, try not to be too hard on yourself or her.

Her going to the prom with a gay guy might suggest she, too, needs some time to heal, and what better way to go to a social thing than with someone who you know won't hit on you or otherwise pressure or expect something sexual? It's easy in your state of mind to assume that she's out cavorting, but in reality she might be pulling back. Don't let your sense of loss and disappointment lead to these worse case, jealous thoughts. Remember, she also loved you for a long time, and unless you really misjudged her, she's probably feeling this, too. She's just dealing with it differently.

I also have to agree with Nick (13, huh?), and Thomas here about drugs. It's really unfortunate that they're such a 'normal' part of our culture, but there are good people out there who don't really rely on them for entertainemnt or determining someone's membership in the group. Maybe you just fell into a group that does, an now you have to do the work to find a new group.