It feels right, but they say it is wrong

[curiousashley87]

Okay here is my problem: Ever since I was six I've been having baths and taking showers with my older sister, who is now 21, and we are still doing this. She is twenty-one and I am fourteen and we still shower and bathe together, wash each other, and even talk about sex and she helps me with my problems in what I like to call our "special time" and she has no qualm or problem with it. But recently I've bene hearing it is wrong and we should stop and I do not know what to do. My sister says there is no problem with it and we are still doing our "special time" together. Could anyone help me to clarify this please?

[Sugaree]

Well, I think it's right if you go to your older sister to ask for advice or help about puberty. But, I think it's wrong if you shower with her and wash her.

I'm not sure if it would be seriously wrong, but I think it's a bit abnormal. If you don't want to do this with her anymore then just tell her if it's ok if you don't shower together anymore.

[Nihilus]

Its not wrong

[ThatCanadianGuy]

Um... what exactly IS your "special time". It really depends on exactly WHAT your doing to determine wether it's wrong or not. I think bathing together etc. is a bit uncommon like they said, but I don't think that in itself is bad. Talking about sex while doing it... starting to get a bit fishy there. Is your special time ONLY talking?

[BeautifulSilence]

My and my two sisters used to bathe together ALL the time, but then there was not enough room, besides we started to hate each other.

My personal thoughts are that if it's something you're used to, and you enjoy it and, it feels right than you should carry on doing it. No, not everybody does it, but I'm sure you're not the only people who do. As long as it is just talking and bathing, with absolutely NO sexually intended contact, then I say it's ok for you to carry on.

Most people will say it's wrong because of the age difference and because she's considered an adult and you're not. But if you're used to it and it helps you bond, then what other people think shouldn't really bother you too much. Just think of it this way, if you two were doing this as twins, people wouldn't find anything wrong with it.

[NextToNormal]

Just think of it this way, if you two were doing this as twins, people wouldn't find anything wrong with it.
i dont really know about that. i do have a twin sister and the last time i took a shower with her, we were like 6 and even then we didnt like it.

but, if this is something that both of you are very comfortable with and it helps you somehow, keep doing it. personally, i like taking a shower by myself. but hey, you do you. as long as things arent getting like all weird with your sister in the shower, i dont exactly see a problem with it.

[Gumleaf]

i personally think its ok if its something you have always done and you don't feel uncomfortable doing it. as long as you are only talking about sexual stuff and not doing sexual stuff, i still think its ok. i would find washing eachother to be a little strange though, but thats just my opinion.

[byee]

I'll assume you're a girl, my response is based on that.

"Special time" sounds important and meaningful for you, esp. since you've always been doing this. However, you have to ask yourself, at 14 and 21, is the bathing part of it necessary? Do you need to be naked together for it to be 'Special'? Or is the specialness an emotional quality? if it is, then you might want to reevaluate those parts of it which you might have outgrown, while maintaining those parts that are truly 'Special'.

[foof1]

There is nothing wrong with it. You are family.

[Zephyr]

Personally, nothing sounds wrong with this.
My sister and I bathed together until she hit puberty.
As strange as it is, all sisters bond in different ways,
You and your sister just happen to do it in an unconventional way,
Special time is special time... period.
Some sisters shop,
Some sisters fight,
My sister and I have open conversations of any sort,
You and your sister bathe together.
Unless you guys are molesting each other in the shower,
There's nothing wrong with it = )