my parents ......

[redfox]

:mad: i have come out to all of my friends and classmates but i cant talk to adults some one help metell my parents and other adults :confused::yeah:

[Brandon639]

What I would do is write a letter or email. Works for me whenever I can't say something but need to tell my parents something. :cool:

[kerry]

write a letter or just sit them down . but before you sit them think of what you would say .... or write an e-mail to them and try and explain ..........

[Sugaree]

Well, for most times it's hard to tell parents about your sexuality.

I would say just write a letter or e-mail and tell them or get them in a private spot like a bedroom and tell them. It's hard for most teens do to this, but I'm sure that at some point you'll come over your fear and tell them.

We can't help that much, but it's the least we can do :).

[Mr. Smithers]

Well not that a letter or email isn't a great idea because it is.

But at your age, it might sound funny, but I would just keep it in for a little while until you are a little older. Because at the age you are at now they won't question your sexuality.

But if you really want to tell them, do I what I did to come out.

I told my Dad, lets go to Starbucks I have to tell you something important. And I didn't actually say, "Dad, I'm Gay", I just put it in similar words. He accepted me for who I was. He said as long as I wasn't a serial killer, you can be whoever you want to be.

[redfox]

thanx guys all good ideas :P

[byee]

Well, telling your folks would be a pretty big event, so it's understandable why it would be difficult!

Although I'm not gay, I try to understand the issue as one where you're telling something very personal and very meaningful about who you are, and potentially very upsetting to others, too, so for me, the real issue is what you're hoping to accomplish, what the goal is. I know wanting to share something this important about yourself to your folks is a way of just being honest, maybe wanting some support and approval, too, but I really, really think at 13 you need to spend some time thinking about your goals here based not just on your needs and feelings, but an accurate assessment of what your parents likely reation will be. You'll have to live with that for some time to come, and unless your family is very open minded and tolerant (and maybe even a little suspecting of your sexuality), instead of getting something off your chest, you might actually be dropping the atom bomb.

Give it some thought, maybe talk with some people and get some input and support before you do this. You want it to work out for you, not cause a major problem.

[kolte]

*shudders* I would hate to tell my parents. They aren't exactly the most understanding, forgiving people. And my 3 brothers, I shudder to think how they may take it. I know my mom would be shocked, but not depressed. My dad, I don't think I will ever tell him, he would seriously, and I mean seriously, disown me. You haven't met this guy, he is really traditional, not to mention schizophrenic. One of my brothers probably figured it out a while back by looking at this site, but I can't say for sure, I just think he saw it. I used to live here you know. My other brothers, eh, they talk a-lot. NOPE! I won't be telling anybody anytime soon. One person knows that I consider a dear friend. And even I haven't told them, "i am gay", I just figure they know.

Well, might not be helpful, but I feel better lol.

[elegant egotist]

adults will only judge you, friends and classmates can relate to your problem
it's either that or I'm just scared to be :whip::whip:

[notsure101]

Try writting them a note before bed and leave it on the table for them for them to read

[ssgliberty]

i`d agree with fezzie i`m bi and 13 and havent told them yet because i think thay wont except me but i think fezzie gave a really REALLY good idea :D:)

[curiousteen]

im surprised some ppl could actually tell there parents that they r not str8, cause i wont be able to do that cause would get furious, but the thing i would is to get them together and start talkin about it.

[Cormac]

I say you don't. Why does it matter? What seperates you form them? Do you tell your parents you're straight? No... So just continue on the way things are. If they find out? They find out. Nothing more can be done. Keep it "secret". It's probably better that way and alot less awkward than sitting down with them and having them ask you loads a questions about "what went wrong?".
I dunno. I'm just trying to say what I think (and do) and take the advice if you want.