my best friend and her bf

[Fiending_the_freedom]

ok so...where to start...

My best friend laila has been dating my boyfriends friend for the last 8 months, and well i love the guy, hes my friend, or at least he was before he started dating her.
I've always been very influental to her, because it pisses me off to see how he controlls her and kinda has her whipped. he blamed me for the time they broke up, he blames me when she ditches him. they are together 24/7! he sleeps over at her house EVERYDAY so why cant i have ehr soemtimes?
he calls me a whore and a dumb slut when im nto around and laila talks about going to my house. thats not even why im mad. last night we were drinking togehter (me and laila) and ok well i previously dated this guy who wasnt good for me, adn laila said that if she had been my friend when i was dating him, she wouldnt have let that happen, she would have said something. so i broguht that up and told her i was doing that for her. I asked if hes ever hit her, she said he's slapped her once (once is already too many timnes) because they were fight and he called her an ugly whore walrus (shes not fat) so she said shut up you smalled dick prick. so he slapped her. THATS NOT FUCKING RIGHT, i started crying when she told me this, so did she. i cant get that out of my mind now. i want to tell her to get himn to change, but shes been trying to change him for the last 8 months because he always fights with her ovfer everything. if they break up hes going to blame me (at this point i dont even care) i dont think i can be ncie to him when i see him anymore!

i have so many thoughts going on in my mind.

[Rutherford The Brave]

If you care for your friend tell a parent or someone or higher authority (the Police) cause, Im pretty sure this falls under the pretences of domestic abuse. So tell someone don't wait any longer!

[Fiending_the_freedom]

it wwas just one slap, like its seriouse, but not parent and police seriouse, because like, shes drop kicked him in the balls before (he deserved it). but i jsut i need to find a way to get her not to put up with this anymore. shes not that type of person

[Rutherford The Brave]

well you have to do something and thats all I got for suggestions.

[byee]

You know, the more of your stuff i read, the more I like you. You have a good heart, eventhough your name completely doesn't fit. Just MHO, FWIW.

OK, I think one of things you might do to keep your own sanity here is to recognize that there are real limits on what you cn accomplish with all that goodness and awareness you obviously have. Sure, she's in a less tha ideal relationship, but for whatever reason, you cannot instill in her your sense of things or your judgements on what so should do, eventhough, again, your absolutley corrrect with your sense of things and your recs.

You might try to tell her 1) What your thoughts/opinions/assessments are of her current sitution, and 2) Ask her what would be helpful from you, what she'd like to hear and what would be useful to her. Let her provide some guidance here, it's hard, i know, when you really do have the right perspective, but being right isn't always what works.

[Fiending_the_freedom]

thats perfect, great advice=]

[notsure101]

if ur really her friend go tell parent, police, Etc. pls and its not ur fault :)

[Hyper]

if ur really her friend go tell parent, police, Etc. pls and its not ur fault :)

Go to the police because he slapped her?.. Right....


Anyway goodluck following SAM's advice.