Can Asexuals be Harassed?

[run turtle run]

I'm just wondering, because I sorta "came out" (for lack of a better phrase) to a Bisexual girl. I do, one hundred percent, believe I'm Asexual. I won't really go into much detail, but I just don't believe that it's just "because 'you' haven't found the right person'.

Anywho.

I told her one time and she just stared before stating "no, you're just practicing abstinence."

Then I sorta explain how I just can't, for the life of me, find myself in a sexual relationship. I can't put myself in any sort of fantasy atmosphere. And, really, I don't find pleasure in, er, masturbating. At. All. Nothing comes from any of it. I just don't care enough. Yes, I want to be in a relationship with a guy. But that's a different discussion entirely.

Her reply was "whatever. You're just joking. Everyone has a sex drive."

I wanted to scream. >> Another guy said this. Every single one of my friends has told me this. My mum told me this on passing. I asked her if, by chance, if I ever found myself asexual--and I was cut off about there. She just said "you're fourteen. You don't know sex, and you haven't found the right person."

Argh.

I don't think so. Not when I don't want it. I find sex absolutely pointless to me. I don't want kids. Kids, to me, are just... annoying. And loud. And I don't find pleasure in even masturbating. Also, sexual fluids irk me. In more than enough ways.

Everyone keeps telling me that I'm just practicing abstinence. Or I haven't found the right person. Or I'm full of crap.

So, technically, can Asexuals actually be harassed? Or, are they technically just practicing Abstinence? I don't want to call it verbal abuse or anything... >>

Also, nice to meet you all. ^^ I'm new here.

[MoveAlong]

welcome to the site!

first I can say that anybody, no matter what they are, can be harassed. It's always possible.

and then I want to say that girl is just intolerant and probably hasn't heard of anything like being asexual before. It's no big deal really, and it doesn't matter what she thinks if it goes against your beliefs. You are who you are, so don't worry about it

[run turtle run]

welcome to the site!

first I can say that anybody, no matter what they are, can be harassed. It's always possible.

and then I want to say that girl is just intolerant and probably hasn't heard of anything like being asexual before. It's no big deal really, and it doesn't matter what she thinks if it goes against your beliefs. You are who you are, so don't worry about it

=/ Well, yes, I know anyone can be harassed but, I mean, it's like... I dunno if Asexuals can really be harassed for being asexual.

I think a lot into what people say. I have about... five friends. None of them believe me. It's awfully discouraging.

[MoveAlong]

=/ Well, yes, I know anyone can be harassed but, I mean, it's like... I dunno if Asexuals can really be harassed for being asexual.

yes that's what I said

[Oblivion]

She means can be you be harassed for being asexual.

Answer: Yes
Because: A lot of people like to find so called 'faults' in others and make themselves feel better and more powerful by picking on other because of those 'faults'
If you are ever physically or verbally harassed you can always report it and that should make it go away. if not, try to ignore it, because they don't know what they're talking about if they are harassing you for being asexual

[The Batman]

Yes you can be harrassed but most likely you won't be because asexuality isn't as common as homosexuality and not that many people know that it even exists. If your friends and family don't believe that you are asexual then just keep living your life and they'll find out soon.

[byee]

Someone E mailed and asked me to respond to this, so I'll jump on and give you some thoughts here. I'll have to come back later to respond to others.

First, Zachary is correct (as usual) that anyone can be harassed. Unfortunately, there doesn't need to be much of a reason for someone to harass another, anything that makes someone different is fair game. We don't quite yet live in a culture that is open and unbiased when it comes to accepting others without judgement. *sigh*.

So, I think it might be best for you to be careful with whom you trust this info with. It shouldn't have to be this way, but it's best to play it safe and protect yourself from being misunderstood or hurt. It might also be a good idea to find someone, preferably a professional or other *stable* adult who can tolerate your experience without judging it, so that you can best understand it, where it comes from, and what it means (and will mean) to you in the future.

[notsure101]

welcome to the site

yes asexual's can be harasses