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[Fiending_the_freedom]

Im not trying to be rude or anything, jsut, ive never been abused by a parent, but for those that this applies to, why do some people put up with getting hit by there parents even when they are bigger than them and could physicaly stop it

[ShatteredWings]

yeeeessss....a five year old is bigger than their mom?

sorry, had to say that..

well ..i dont think it could be explained in rational terms

maybe someone who's a bit better with words can explain... =/
gar..i had an explination, then i forgot it

[Bobby]

I think it's because parents are bigger in a mental stance. They put you into this world (in most cases), they provide for you (in most cases).

[Rutherford The Brave]

Because apparently when I did live with my step mom I was nothing but a slave and whatever she said went even if It was that I couldnt see my friends for a year because I called her a bitch...

[Nihilus]

Maybe because they love their parents even if they go though with being abused. Its just a theory (shrug).

[Callwaiting]

You can't do shit without your parents, they can well and truly screw you up no matter how big you are. As long as you're under 18 they have complete control over you.

Also it's not so much being hit as verbal abuse that really hurts. It can progress you to a level where you feel you deserve it, no matter how bad.

[BlackenedSilver]

It might because they love their parents and somehow thinks that by hitting them.. their parents are just trying help. Because thats what they have believed their whole lives.
But its just an idea.. so dunno

[Hyper]

You can't do shit without your parents, they can well and truly screw you up no matter how big you are. As long as you're under 18 they have complete control over you.

Also it's not so much being hit as verbal abuse that really hurts. It can progress you to a level where you feel you deserve it, no matter how bad.

I don't think most people imagine what their parents in worst malicious intents can do to them or that people who are being abused by their parents think about it much..

And its rather because it always starts when the parents are bigger and when you were small you couldn't physically fight back and after awhile you'd indeed problably start feeling like you are dirt

[The Batman]

It's because they feel as if they deserve it. As a child all you want to do is make mommy or daddy proud, but when it doesn't happen you feel guilty. When they abuse you sometimes you feel as if you deserve it. It takes a while before you actually realize that you don't deserve it but until then you just take it without question.

[ShatteredWings]

i take it nobody cares this is a bump, as hyper is a ward mod? alright.

anyways i think i have a better explinaion. Thomas made my brain work (thanks). Every kid wants their parents or whoemever is incharge of them to be happy. when you punish them, the kid knows "I've been bad". That mentality isn't exactly easy to loose.

When the kid's older, they still have that feeling that maybe they can never be good. disclamer: i'm not sayin everyone who's shy and afraid of failing is abused So, it's sorta hard to fight back if you think you deserve it

[Sapphire]

I do think the whole "I deserve this" mentality plays a role in it. Love for the parent(s) who are supposed to look after them can create a contradictory environment for the child if the parents abuse them too. It's like being caught in a major emotional catch 22.

[TannerE]

Because, you just put up with it... You keep playing over and over in your mind "There my parents, I must deserve this.." and you just don't have it in you to strike back or stop it... I know.

[Callwaiting]

Because, you just put up with it... You keep playing over and over in your mind "There my parents, I must deserve this.." and you just don't have it in you to strike back or stop it... I know.

Argh, and every time afterward you're like "I'm gonna stop it next time, I won't take this any more" but it stays exactly the same..

[cranberry]

basically need the financial support, the rides to school, the academic advises, the need to be like other kids to finish college without failing school by working fulltime to support mysefl. that need is maybe what keeps peopel at an abusive home because there is not other way to accomplish that goal?, ( I sometimes cause fights to happent). I'm an adult right now but I'm unwilling to move out and give away all these privileges I have liek computers etc. I don't know maybe people are more unfortunate then me, but Im still not moving out yet or ever until I get a real job like at age 21? we don't get into socail work troubel on this site right? I guess since I'm an adultl I.... I may never come back to this site, so don't email or write me anything. This is a really hard to remember sites.

[Fusion]

i love my parents though they do never hit me a lot i could never say anything to the police about them only if my dad had bashed me up or something like that. I love them and i don't want to loose them they have looked after me for 17 years and i don't want anything to become in the way

[Barelythere]

In my experience it is because of the programming, by abusing you they are teaching and hence programming you into believing that you are bad and evil and deserve it, and that they are just doing what is best for you, and what you deserve, that programming is extreamly difficult to overcome, especially without professional help, plus they are you parents, you are supposed to love them no matter what right?