Need some help for a friend

[SocKs]

Well first of all hey guys, I haven't been here in a while, but I've got somthing to ask.

The other day I found out my friend is bulimic...she told me shes going to stop and shes not. I promised her I woulden't tell anybody, and I'm not going to. But she really needs to stop before it becomes a habit for her body. She said shes been doing it since 8th grade, and shes a sophomore now. She said it isnt a thing that her body makes her do yet, just out of habit...I find that hard to beleive after 3 years of her doing it that its not a habbit. Does anybody have any ways that I can help her quit doing it, or anything to help her? I really love her and she really needs to stop. Any ideas will appreciated. Anything to get my friend to quit killing herself like this.

[kolte]

tell her mother. I know that she will resent you for it, but once she gets better, she will figure out why you did it and love you for helping her quit. But please do, tell her mother. it will only help her.

[Whisper]

.....i unno it could drive her into a depression forcing her to keep everything inside with nobody to trust to talk to

If I was u i'd either phone or have her phone an annonomys help line....no strings, no worrys


tread lightly man

[SocKs]

Her mother...sadly, wont do anything but tell her shes crazy.

shes afraid shes fat, shes not, but ever since she started shes gotten heavier...But I've gotta go for now, I'll update when I get back from my classes.

Ok...she said ever since she started shes gained weight instead of loosing weight, so I asked her like what time of the day she throws up and when she eats. It turns out she doesnt throw up right after she eats, so instead of her body just digesting the food, it stores it for when she throws up so it has somthing to use. Since shes doing it wrong, and her body is actulay making fat because shes throwing up a few hours after she eats. So I find myself in a pickle. Do I tell her this to get her to stop so she doesnt think she will be fat if she stops? Or might she than eat and throw up right away and continue to do it since she knows why it wasnt working?

[Whisper]

Do:

Let the person know you are concerned about him or her. Reassure the person often that you love him or her for who he or she is.
Tell the person why you are concerned. Describe specifically what you have seen or heard is his or her behavior that concerns you. He or she can deny generalities, but will be less likely to deny specific dates, times, and behaviors you have observed.
Tell the person that food and weight are only part of the problem.
Become informed. Get information for yourself about signs, symptoms, and local resources and share it with him or her.
If the person is a classmate who won't get help; recruit others to talk to him or her. Enlist the aid of his or her parents, other family members, boyfriend/girlfriend, school counselor, etc. The person will probably get mad at you temporarily, but may later thank you for getting him or her help when he or she couldn't get it for him or herself.
If the person is your child and is younger than 18, get medical and psychological help immediately. People can die from eating disorders.
If the person is your child and older than 18, encourage him or her to talk to a therapist, counselor, or physician. Because he or she is a legal adult at age 18, the decision to accept or reject help will be his or hers.
When the person does decide to get help, provide moral support. If he/she wants you to, sit with him/her when he/she makes the first appointment, or go to the appointment with him/her.
Let the person know you have faith in him/her.

Don't:

Don't nag, argue, plead, or bribe to get the person to discontinue the behavior.
Don't ignore the problem
Don't collude with the person by helping him/her cover up the behavior.
Don't hide food or stop buying food that others enjoy to prevent the person from bingeing.
Don't let tears, temper tantrums, or promises keep you from helping the person to get the help he/she needs.
Don't suggest weight loss or exercise programs.
Avoid describing food or eating habits in terms of good or bad.
Don't encourage perfectionism.
Don't put the needs of the individual with an eating disorder above your own.

I got this off RYL

[Oath]

Why did he or she tell you? Wouldnt the person expect u to do something about it. if she doesnt like her weight ask her to get helther and not through the food up.

[SocKs]

she says shes on a diet, then goes and eats half a quart of icecream. it pisses me off cause we've been going out to dinner, nice places, and she just goes up and throws it up.

[Oath]

thats not 2 good

[Whisper]

she says shes on a diet, then goes and eats half a quart of icecream. it pisses me off cause we've been going out to dinner, nice places, and she just goes up and throws it up.

OMFG your mad about the money its costing!
Fuck the cash
You just bought this extremly expensive car so I know you can afford a nice resturant

I'm betting your extremly worried bout her
i'd tell a counciler
Her parents
etc..

Get her help so she dosent die