Should I try or not.

[The Batman]

Ok this is a problem. There is this girl who I have a crush on that I think likes me because she always flirts with me and gives me those looks where she would smile real big and look into my eyes, but there is a problem she just dumped her boyfriend who is a close friend of mine infact we met through her and he's really pissed about this I'm trying to help him out but he's acting like he doesn't want to talk to me. Another thing is a guy in my class just walks up to me and says that she has a crush on me even though she was with her now ex boyfriend. I'm really confused I just sent her a message on facebook asking for her number, cause 1. I want to know why they broke up and 2. I like her. I do know I'm just confused please help

[Gumleaf]

maybe you should ask your friend if he would support you if you went out with his ex? if he won't support you, you need to decide whats more important, your friendship or a possible relationship with this girl? good luck thomas.

[The Batman]

I wish he would have dumped her this would be a lot easier, whats weird is that I didn't ask her about the break up she messaged me and told me after I sent her a message about school and she asked me to call her now ex-boyfriend and cheer him up a bit. I'm just gonna wade it out a bit and see how she feels about me and tell her about what the guy at school said about her liking me and see if that stirs anything up I don't want to wait to long or I might lose my chance.

[Zephyr]

I would give it some time so that your friend will be over her,
It'll give you some time to think it over, if she's really who you want.
Then ask him if he would be okay with you two dating if you were to ask her if you still feel the same about her.

[The Batman]

That's exactly what the sensitive voice in my head is saying just wait and ask him if it's ok but that small voice in my head keeps saying "Go for it, You'll probably never see him again." But the biggest thing that comes to mind would have to be Is it worth risking a friendship over a girl? and those same two voices are saying yes and no.(the voices are just similes and not real) I've had a crush on her for quite some time now and I'm thinking this is finally my chance but I really don't want to hurt him because he is a nice person that has never done anything wrong to me and here comes the headache.

[Zephyr]

Aw, I just hate those 'Angel and Devil' moments!!!
Just give yourself some time to figure out what is right for you.

[richard001]

A Friend of mine is in a simular situation, she is practicly in love her her best friends ex, she hasnt told her friend yet, but had told the boy, she is gonna tell the friend, before she gets wif him or even makes a move, so that wht i would sujest, if he is a friend then he wouldnt mine and he would support you..!

[Willie Wonka]

I had your probleme. I chose the girl, and talked tto my frieind, he should be happy...

My friend, underdtood, he was mad, but he got what I was saying. I toold him i have liked her for a long time, and I wntned to aask her and, even if he said no, i was going to anyway... I also said, if this get inbetween our frriendship, then we cant be friends.. Because reeal friend would be hppy to see there other fiiend happy.

[richard001]

Your friends will understand, he may be mad at first, wont he will get ova it..!

[Tyme]

Dude, dont every ask about past relationships, just do what you would normally do. Asking for her number on facebook is just ..., try not to talk with her online for more than 5 mins. That way excitment of the relationship will always be there. She will think your more interesting. If your the type of person that is on msn all day then she will think your boring. Always look like your doing something or that your always busy!

Good luck buddy, and just play around with this girl to see how things go.

[The Batman]

Quick Update: I talked to Jo(the girl) and she said that the reason her and Dennis(the boy) broke up is because he was to clingy and now it's even worse cause he calls her more, and now he wants to hang out with me. He's taking the breakup really hard though he sent me a text telling me that he is real depressed about it, and now I'm stuck with being alone because there is no way I could even try and date her without possibly killing him.

[Close102]

ha same thing with me exept for the guy. my best advice would be to talk to Dennis first and then ask her out. or just go for it and hope for the best. good lucck

[The Batman]

Ok slight problem he doesn't want me to talk on the phone with her I could tell because yesterday we were riding around and we stopped to get some gas while he was on the phone with her so he hands me the phone and stays in the car staring at me and I talk to her and she's telling things about him that you can tell she's making up and I'm laughing and he is still staring at me so i cover the phone and ask him can he hear her and he grabs the phone and listens to the last thing she says and then gets up out of the car and pumps the gas while he is still on the phone with her. When I was talking to her she told me that he's scared if we talk that we might start dating. I was talking to her on facebook for a few minutes today and she told me that she doesn't want to go back out with him. It seems as if the more I talk to her the more I become attracted to her. I really like him and I don't want to hurt him but I feel like if I don't even try then I might not have another chance to be happy with someone.

[notsure101]

Heyits ur choice i hate those kinda a chocies ugg lol wat ever u want or feel is better

[byee]

Hey Thomas, let me make this real easy for you. Who do you feel more loyal to?

If you feel more loyal to Dennis, if that's the relationship you value more, then you shouldn't go out with Jo.

If you feel more loyal to Jo, and/or your desire is strong enough to risk losing Dennis, then you go out with Jo. There's that little complication, of course, but if you're kind and nice (which you are anyway), then you can manage Dennis' reaction. IF your loyalty is more for Jo, then it's not your responsibility to take care of him and deny yourself the pleasure of Jo's companionship. It IS your responsibility to do this with the kindness and sensitivity to minimize his distress.

It's about loyality.