I need some real help guys please?

[The Batman]

Ok so I want to come out to a friend of mine on msn but I don't know how to do it or where to start off to see if he would be cool with it, I'm extremely confused and scared and I don't want to end up being outed to the whole town. What makes it worse is that I have a major crush on him and if he rejects our friendship then I don't know if I could take it. Please guys help?!

[foof1]

if the guy is not like you you might want to keep it to yourself. but its your life and i cant tell you what to do with it

[curiousteen]

if u want to tell him that is if u feel comfortable wit telling him, im sure he would understand.

[Gavin]

Well, is this friend of yours really trustworthy not to tell other people about you coming out to him, do you trust him with information of that kind?

[richard001]

well if hes your friends, then it shouldnt matter at the end of the day, but it may be an idea not to over whelm him, just come out and then after a bit tell him that you find him attractive

[byee]

Thomas, 'coming out' is something you really need to give a lot of thought to, as the consequences can be rather unpleasant if you've misjudged. The key, i think, is to focus more on an accurate assesment of how trustworthy your friend is, how well he'll take this info and what he'll likely do with it/feel about it (and you), rather than you're need to tell him, or your feelings about him. Think carefully about the likely consequences, try to forget about just yor perspective or needs here.

Typically, though, i think whatever the issue is, whatever the self disclosure is, when people need to ask others for advice, when they;re unsure about the reaction they might receive, what they're really saying is that there's enough uncertainty to NOT share just yet.

[The Batman]

I've decided not to say anything because I think he might be smidge homophobic.

[MoveAlong]

Ouch, it sounds like you shouldn't!
If anything, I think you should come out to a girl first, there's just too many problems with telling this guy :P
Sorry for being a little late, but I'm glad you're not going to follow through with it, for the sake of your safety

[notsure101]

Mabey you should ask him to keep it quite but you shouldnt care about wat other people think Go for it!