Friends hate me now (a little long)

[Sugaree]

So as you all know, I moved to this new neighborhood and I left the only home I really knew for about 11 years and away from the greatest friend I had.

I made a new friend two years after moving here, we'll call him John. Well we met in May last year. To show a symbol of our friendship I gave him a turtle nexklace that I got in Honolulu that represented good luck.

Well, it's all gone down hill for the past few days. He hangs with a new crowd now. Hanging with 16 year olds (he's 11) and other people older then him. Now when he hangs around them he always pick on me. throwing mulch at me and his football. I know have little scratch marks and a big red spot that shows how hard he threw the football at me. Then he acts like nothing happens.

A few days ago after cutting the grass, I accidentally got his football stuck in the tree in my front yard. My dad helped me get it down and he's still fucking pissed at me for it and won't let me near the ball unless I say I won't throw it in a tree.

Then my other friend, who we'll call jack, has been my friend for the same time. We've had a strained friendship sinle last June/July you could say. We get in fights by arguing. He'll complain that he's tired and he wants to go back home and play XBox and Rock Band and all that and I say "Well why did you even come out to play?" and he'll just say "Yeah, well, fuck you" (he's also 11) The last time this happened was in July when he gave me the finger. I saw him this March and we're fine now.

Yesterday we were talking and he was talking about some kid in his class that goes out with a secondgrader (yeah stupid I know) and I say "Just shut up man. Just don't pay attention" so then john says "He may be bi since jack says he's gay too" and then to confide this secret sexuality I have I say "Well..did you know I'm bi?"

They both look at me and just burst out saying "eeeew gross! He likes boys!" and just to shut them up I say "I'm just kidding guys. Hahahaha"

I feel awful. Not just because my friends are more of a love/hate relationship, now I can't even come out of this secret I have. I don't know what to do.

[Gumleaf]

i wouldn't really consider people who behave like that as friends. they sound like real bastards to me. just remember the problem isn't with you, it with those other "friends".

[Nihilus]

They seem like bastards to me. They seem to treat you badly and if they do they are not your friends.

[Zephyr]

Those arn't friends.
Those are jerks.
Don't let them cut you down like that,
It's not worth it to let them be like that.
You're so much better than them,
Theyr'e not worth your time if they're going to be little jackasses.
If they can't accept you for who you are (meaning being bisexual)
Then they arn't very good friends.
A true friend, (as corny as it sounds), knows everything about you and still likes you anyway.
Seeing as they are a couple of years younger,
Of course their maturity level isn't going to be the greatest.
Perhaps they will grow out of it,
Maybe not.
Chin up though, I'm sure you can make some even better friends than those two = )

[Electric Cheese]

you say they're both 11, and their reaction probably signifies that they're not mature enough to realize that being bi doesn't just mean that you like men.

and by the sounds of it, they're just being childish. Don't let it get to you, and like steph said, if they dont accept you, then they're not good friends.

[Sugaree]

I know. But the problem is, i've lost my other friends that I used to know. The last major friend I had, I saw in January. His mom won't respond to e-mails and I'm not sure what to think.

[kerry]

to me they do not seem your friends. if they are 11 and hoooooooooorrible i wouldnt class them as my friends neither should you

[Sugaree]

Hey you can't tell me what to do ok

[Φρανκομβριτ]

If I were you, which I'm not, I wouldn't take shit from them. They're supposed to be you're suportive environment, and it'll make you feel like shit if the people you hang around with are mean to you. I say find new friends, and slowly merge groups.

[Sugaree]

Ever since I moved to this neighborhood they are my only friends I have. The other kids don't know me, so they don't care. I've made another friend who's about the same age as me and he treats me with respect.

I think it's because my original friend is getting influenced from the older kids to do that stuff to me. Should I talk to him about it? B/C I don't want to just say "You've bee na good friend now scram and don't talk to me again"

[notsure101]

they dont seem like friends to me try meeting other people like for instance i put one person on my friends list on myspace 5 other people requested me who were on her friends list

[byee]

What constitutes 'friends' changes as you get older, and eventhough these guys might have been buddies in the past, that's in the past. there's a huge difference between the emotional develoment of eleven year olds and yourself, at thirteen. You've outgrown them, they no longer understand you and where you are, they cannot give you what you now need as a teenager. This isn't a criticism of either they or you, just a biological fact. It's not just the body, the stuff you can see that changes during puberty, it's the stuff you cannot, but feel nonetheless.

Move on, find new friends who are your age, and share your experience of things. It's time to let go.

[teenagerughhpuberty]

look man friends come and go. those "friends of urs" r not even considerably friends. and as for ur old friends if they dont respond its probably a distance issue though they still should talk to u regardless. ur going to meet a lot of people in life try to pic out the best ones for u.