coming out

[bloo ppl]

ok first off im not gay im bi. and i want to tell some of my friends but im kinda scared. i kno they'll accept me since like a few of them (girls not the guys) r bi too, but im scared they will start telling everyone then everyone including ppl i dont kno will kno. but i just want to tell someone b/c keeping it "bottled up inside" is geting on my nerves. waht should i do?

[Jesse]

Just tell a couple of your close friends to not tell anyone about your sexuality. If they are truly your friend and they respect you, then they will not tell anyone. I have come out to about 20 of my very close friends and so far (That I know of) they haven't told anyone. I was scared at first too, I just pulled one of my friends off to the side one day and told him "I have to tell you something really personal that I don't want you telling anyone". He agreed not to tell anyone. After I got over that fear of telling people, I told the rest of my close friends.

[Mr. Smithers]

Yes I agree with Jesse.

If your friends don't accept you for who you are, then they really weren't your friends to begin with.

And about the thing about them telling everyone about your sexuality, you should be proud of who you are. You shouldn't have to hide or pretend to be something that you are not around your friends. Coming out to your parents is a whole different story but when you are around your friends and you worry that if you tell them that you are bi-sexual, that they will tell the whole world about it, then you should confront them saying that I'm proud of who I am.

[bloo ppl]

ok well i'll probably tell my girlfriend first i kno i can trust her. thanx for the advice

[george]

I'm going to do the same thing as you and tell my friend who's lesbian that I'm bi. You just have to make sure that they aren't going to tell anyone.

[Mr. Smithers]

This is just my perspective, but why do we have to make sure that nobody know s about it.

The way I deal with it is, if someone finds out, so what. Call me every name in the book. You don't know my life. You don't know what I go through. Most importantly, I'm proud to be who I am. And if you can't accept me for that, then you are obviously not the kind of person that I want to play a game of scrabble with.

[curiousteen]

for me its really hard cause the skool i go to ppl like to gossip so i really cant tell anyone and its also getting on my nerves that im the only one who knows im bi. but i ask my friends wut would they do if i were gay or bi and sum of the gave me negative feedback and some gave me positive feedback. i really cant trust anyone yet ill have 2 wait and see

[mr.sexy_bomb]

well i had that problem but 1 of my friends let the cat out of the bag but it was 4 the best

[Mirataku]

yeah just keep it with a few close friends :)

[notsure101]

keep it to urself if u think its really goin to hurt ur reputation