A lot of problems - one is about mastubation - didnt know where to put the other prob

[SDragon]

Hello, I would like to remain anonymous. I am 17 years old.
I didn’t know where to put this because I have a lot of problems.
The first question was of masturbation so I thought this forum was the best place to put it in.

- My first major problem is that I think I am addicted to masturbation. I am so addicted that I don’t even look at girls or boys. I don’t think I’m gay but sometimes I have gay thoughts. I have never had sex before; I haven’t even had a kiss. I was told about sex from my sisters at a young age. I have been masturbating almost everyday for the past 3 years. I don’t feel sexually attracted to anyone.

- Another thing is that I don’t like talking to anyone. When someone says “what’s up” I just say “hi,” which makes me sound dumb. Some people even think I'm gay at school because I never talk. People try to get me to talk to them I just don’t feel like talking at school and I want them to go away. Girls even come up to me and sit next to me but I just don’t talk to them. I do respond to them but I just sound stupid.

- Another problem is that I think I am a little depressed. I have had thought about killing myself before. I feel that I have no life. I also have no friends because I don’t like to talk to people. I just can’t function like a normal person, so why should I live?

- The past couple of weeks at school, ever since I got a “C” in math, I haven’t really cared about my grades any more. I use to try really hard to do my best and get an “A” but after I got the low grade in math I just can’t seem to do it any more.

- When I was young my teacher thought I had an attention deficit disorder and told my parents. My parents put me on Ritalin and after of about two weeks took me off because I started crying over little things like not wearing a certain shirt and stuff like that. I don’t really remember any of this.

- I have a bad memory. I can’t remember a lot of things that should have been important in my life. I can’t remember almost all of my family vacations or any of my birthdays. When I have a memory test in school, I will most likely fail it (like memorize the periodic table or something). I don’t know if this is a problem or not.

I know I shouldn’t think like this and that’s why I am trying to get help. My parents don’t know about any of these problems and I would rather not tell them. They do know about me not being able to talk at school, but that is about it.

[bigsack13]

it does not mind if you are addicted to masturbating. the thing is: it enlarges your penis when you masturbate very much during puberty. you see, indentical twin bros of which one side rarely masturbates and the other does it all the time, the one who does it all the time often has a bigger penis.

[Gumleaf]

it does not mind if you are addicted to masturbating. the thing is: it enlarges your penis when you masturbate very much during puberty. you see, indentical twin bros of which one side rarely masturbates and the other does it all the time, the one who does it all the time often has a bigger penis.

where did you find that information??? from research i have done, masturbating has NO affect on your penis size, it doesn't make it bigger and it doesn't make it smaller. anything to the contrary would simply be a coincidence.

[bigsack13]

where did you find that information??? from research i have done, masturbating has NO affect on your penis size, it doesn't make it bigger and it doesn't make it smaller. anything to the contrary would simply be a coincidence.

I saw it on tv. some sexualogy specialist said that boys who play with their penises a lot get bigger penises. She said that because the penis swells and turns flaccid again during masturbating, each time it happens to grow a little bit. and that people who masturbate regulary have therefore got penises just a little bigger then people who do not.

[iJack]

I saw it on tv. some sexualogy specialist said that boys who play with their penises a lot get bigger penises. She said that because the penis swells and turns flaccid again during masturbating, each time it happens to grow a little bit. and that people who masturbate regulary have therefore got penises just a little bigger then people who do not.

It sounds like it could be true, but its not,

Don't believe everything you find on tv

[Aηdy]

I saw it on tv. some sexualogy specialist said that boys who play with their penises a lot get bigger penises. She said that because the penis swells and turns flaccid again during masturbating, each time it happens to grow a little bit. and that people who masturbate regulary have therefore got penises just a little bigger then people who do not.

Completely wrong. It's a known FACT that it has no affect on penis size what-so-ever.

[Requin]

I saw it on tv. some sexualogy specialist said that boys who play with their penises a lot get bigger penises. She said that because the penis swells and turns flaccid again during masturbating, each time it happens to grow a little bit. and that people who masturbate regulary have therefore got penises just a little bigger then people who do not.

SOrry but that's total bullshit. The sexualogy 'specialist' is wrong, as they said don't beleive everything on TV. BTW If masturbation makes your penis bigger then almost everyone would have big penis'...won't they!!
-Anyway, back to the question, your adiction to masturbation is normal, people are addicted to masturbation but it isn't wrong in any way, only when it effects your normal life such as school or work then it's a problem.
-Being depressed is part of being a teenager i'm afraid, i get boughts of it, but it goes eventually, if you are still depressed by the time your older you should go to the doctors, get checked out.
-Maybe your are just naturally shy, lots of people are, you8 just need confidence in yourself, look up different things to try and boost your confidence, i can't think of any but there are loads.
-Just becuase you slipped to a 'C' in a test isn't the end of the world, don't give up on your grades, if you do badly you'll be even more depressed so please try. Think about the people who would love to get a C and can't, they try hard and can't get one and yet as soon as you slip you give up. It was probably just a freak test that you did crap on, i do them all the time and i just ignore them. SO as i said please try.
-There's nothing wrong with a bad memory either, i can't remember much if anything from when i was younger so there's nothing to be ashamed at, maybe you could get those brain training things that keep your brain working, they might help.
-On the suicide thing- please don't do it, think about your life and all those people caught up in the Burma flood and the China earthquake, there in a much worse position than yourself so feel gratefull, this will be a start to feeling happy and yourself again.
BTW - Final word but this took me ages so please read it, i know it's long but i hope it will help. lol

[byee]

Well, there are at least three people out there who care enough about you to take the time to e mail me and ask that I take a look at this post. I'm not sure why they chose this post (or me, frankly), but you seem to need a good answer, so here goes.

First, let's dispell this myth that masturbation has any affect on the size of the penis. It doesn't. The penis is not a muscle, so working it out thru masturbation can't make it bigger. If it could, most guys would be carrying around the Empire State Building between their legs, right? Whatever it is you've read that says otherwise is purely junk science. When you're thru with puberty (at around age 20 or so), you'll be about 6" or thereabouts, regardless of your size now, and regardless of the frequency of masturbation.

Onto the OP's issues.

First, it sounds like you're worried about a lot of things about yourself, and certainly if you've entertained thoughts of depression and suicide, it's probably a very good idea to get to a doctor and let him assess these and treat them. Most of the complaints you have (the poor memory, the lack of interest in things, the social isolation and withdrawal, etc.) are symptoms of something being wrong, perhaps an untreated depression (although daily masturbation is NOT abnormal!). There's no reason to feel poorly, and there's certainly no reason to miss out on a lot of the things being 17 offer, there are effective treatments for depression (if that's what you've got), and these things usually don't go away by themselves. I'm not sure why you haven't shared your distress with your folks, but it sounds like they've been pretty responsive in the past, eventhough the Ritalin might not have helped, at least they took you to a doctor. Please consider telling them how you feel and let them parent you by taking you to the person who can help make you feel better.

[Willie Wonka]

First.. Who cares if your addicted to j/o... Atleast its not drugs or something...

Second... I have a boy in myclass who dosnt talk at all... But oover the years I wouldsk him questions, and make small convorsations.. It boosted his confedence alot. What I am saying is, just be your self, have confedence.


Third.. You could have dislexia.. I have it.. But im not shroe if it can affect memory..

[Coesistere]

you see, indentical twin bros of which one side rarely masturbates and the other does it all the time, the one who does it all the time often has a bigger penis.

Umm, i must disagress considering the fact that im a identical twin and my brother never masterbates and i dont do it all the time...well mabye its due to the fact my brother cant do it because of his ceribal palsy. But the awnser some of the problems, it sounds like a you have a minor case of depression, depression can cause lack of interest in thing you used to do
(like grades ) and also could be causing the lack in interacting with people and of coarse your suicidal thoughts. other than those problems that could possibly be caused by depression im not quite sure on anwsers. If any of my info wrong please correct me ( o and my spelling is horrible)

[SDragon]

I knew I was depressed and that thoughts of killing myself are bad. I just don’t really understand why I don’t like girls or boys. If its part of the depression then that would mean I have been depressed all of my life. I have never really felt sexually attracted to anything. I thought that masturbating all the time would cause this, but I have read that this is not the case. I felt really sad when I wrote the first post, and I think I would never really kill myself. Thanks for trying to help me with my problems, you guys are great!

[Random_oso06]

yes masterbation doesn't enlarge your penis that's bs what i think

[SDragon]

I never thought that masturbation would enlarge my penis.

[byee]

I knew I was depressed and that thoughts of killing myself are bad. I just don’t really understand why I don’t like girls or boys. If its part of the depression then that would mean I have been depressed all of my life. I have never really felt sexually attracted to anything. I thought that masturbating all the time would cause this, but I have read that this is not the case. I felt really sad when I wrote the first post, and I think I would never really kill myself. Thanks for trying to help me with my problems, you guys are great!


A lack of interest is often a symptom of depression, so maybe your lack of interest is the result of this? Masturbation might soothe you, it might feel good because it reduces sexual tension, but masturbation cannot increase desire. The desire might be absent because something is getting in the way.

Again, there's enough going on for you to justify a trip to the doctor. Why don't you talk with your folks about this?

[SDragon]

I don’t really like getting help on these kinds of things from people I know. I don’t want my parents to think different of me because I have some problems. Even if I went to the doctor he would probably just put me on some pills and say everything is better now.

[byee]

Ask yourself this: Which is better for you, to continue feeling the way you are, or to get some therapy and feel better.

You're judging things in a way to justify not doing anything. If you want to feel better, you might need to take some risks here and try something different. Maybe your folks won't think what you're fearing, and maybe the therapist will do more than medicate you.

[The Batman]

The thing about parents is that most of the time they know when something is wrong but they don't approach you they wait for you to approach them. Maybe your parents are just waiting for you walk up and tell them what's wrong.

[bloo ppl]

well the only one i can relate to is ur secound "prodlem" i never talk to anyone either and ppl call me "emo , goth, ect''for that, oh and gay, but if u dont wanna talk then dont its wut i do and its worked all my life

[silentc0re]

Lol dude u cant get addicted to masturbation (at least i think) but about the talking thing this is the only place i talk irl i barely talk to anyone too so i think its normal you sound like you might be a bit depressed ( i feel i am and i have the same symptoms but i dont tell anyone because i dont want any meds) but if you ever need anyone to talk to pm ill be glad to talk.

[The Batman]

Yes you can get addicted to masturbation or even sex why do you think they have Sex Addicts Anonymous.
(http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&ct=res&cd=3&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.saa-recovery.org%2Findex.htm&ei=iRsvSNKQCKX2iAHurcTBAQ&usg=AFQjCNGAdWHzffrVtxzqsCuDiDMDlCRdYQ&sig2=DQmlwyISdZaFf1Xm20a0Cw)

[iJack]

Lol dude u cant get addicted to masturbation (at least i think) but about the talking thing this is the only place i talk irl i barely talk to anyone too so i think its normal you sound like you might be a bit depressed ( i feel i am and i have the same symptoms but i dont tell anyone because i dont want any meds) but if you ever need anyone to talk to pm ill be glad to talk.

You can get addicted to anything, even masturbation.

[chucknorrisrules]

Don't put yourself down about this, addiction to masturbation is possible (i think), but I doubt that even thought you masturbate every day, you're addicted. Just because people at school think you're gay because you don't talk and what not, I'm guessing you're still in grammar school. I hope that soon you will be graduating and be hanging with a much more mature crowd. Once you come to high school, you will, as they always say, find yourself (it's true, I found myself just my freshman year, and i'm glad i did early :D ). Anyways, don't kills yourself, it's not worth it, you will grow up, find the perfect person for you, or, if you dont want to, you dont have to.