God i hate this

[iJack]

I just have to vent

You all know my mom died when i was a kid, now that we have that established, here it goes.

The absolute worst thing to say at a funeral is: "i know what you are feeling" No you dont! Someone in my family just died! I will never see them again. Then you begin to remember that you had a fight the day/week/last time you met and you will never be able to say you are sorry.

Fires it dose not sink in what happned, then it really hits you, for the rest of your life, for ever, they will never be there to talk to, to laugh with, to cry with, to hug, nothing.

Ok, im done venting, sorry if you didn't get it, it kind of came out weird

[Nihilus]

ya i did come out weird but Ive lost cats, dogs, and all my grandmothers. sometimes i have to vent to.

[Oblivion]

I don't think it came out weird at all.

But maybe this will make you feel better- I really don't understand how you must feel, but i do understand that its such a horrible thing to go through, and something that no one should have to go through. Also I'm glad that your still a great person and wanting to help even after your mom died. If my mom ever died... I don't know what i would do.

[iJack]

I don't think it came out weird at all.

But maybe this will make you feel better- I really don't understand how you must feel, but i do understand that its such a horrible thing to go through, and something that no one should have to go through. Also I'm glad that your still a great person and wanting to help even after your mom died. If my mom ever died... I don't know what i would do.

Thank you:);)

[Oblivion]

No problem anytime...

I really mean it too lol :)

[iJack]

No problem anytime...

I really mean it too lol :)

Im sure you do(not supposed to sound sarcastic)

[Random_oso06]

i guess just like yoda said most of us don't know how it it feels but it's good to vent don't keep it init's bad and it wasn't weird

[thesphinx]

I'm so sorry about your mom :hug: if you ever need to talk feel free.

[iJack]

I'm so sorry about your mom :hug: if you ever need to talk feel free.

Thanks, i will

[Techno Monster]

I lost my aunt a couple months back, of course, we wern`t as close as me and Ma are. I know I don`t really understand what you have had to go through, but you are strong to be able to vent like this, just remember that she will, in a way, still be there for you.

[Sakurachan]

I get what you're at. And I know that it is not easy for people to forget about loved ones.

It is okay to be sad, and I'm glad you vented here.

I only lost, cats, dogs, an uncle, and that's it.

I never will forget about them either.

[theOperaGhost]

I completely understood what you said, so it didn't come out weird.

I don't know what it is like to lose a parent, but I don't know what I would do. You're a strong guy.

I've lost an aunt and all my grandparents and a classmate, and it's tough, but not like losing a parent.

If you ever want to talk, I'm here a lot.

[byee]

(OK, so I'll respond to 2 posts).

Jack, we don't know eachother, but your post caught my eye. I think anyone who endures the loss of their mother and shares it with others deserves a bit of attention. And a hearty handshake (maybe some lemonade, too). It takes a lot of courage. I really admire that.

I think you're right that most don't really know what it's like to lose a mother when they're a child. That's an experience that you need to go thru to really know what it's like, it's incomprehensible to most. However, I think most feeling people recognize what a catastrophic loss it is, and they (rightfully) feel compelled to acknowledge it in some way. What comes out is often awkward (a recognition of the importance of the loss), but I think it would be a mistake to dismiss it simply because they haven't been there. One doesn't need to experience the same feelings in order to appreciate others' experience. Maybe it's just their reminding you of this loss that distresses you so much?


In any event, it sounds like you have truly good people in your life who are supportive and understanding (which is great!). Part of that is their willingness to do what's right by you. Maybe a gentle directive from you that their sympathies are appreciated by not necessary might help?

Sam

[iJack]

And a hearty handshake (maybe some lemonade, too). It takes a lot of courage. I really admire that.
Mmm, lemonade!

Maybe it's just their reminding you of this loss that distresses you so much?
Maybe...

[Uhh.Huhh RAN_DOM]

ahhhh jack it should be okay i mean everything isn't so great sometimes and well you just gotta push on through and keep a great big smile on your face i mean hey i gotta lot goin on to but iam still trynna be happy if u need any help or anything hit me on here iam always here with open arms:hug: just pm me if u need any help

[Sugaree]

It may not be easy to say sorry after a person has died, but you know that you can visit their grave and apologize for the things you did.

[total_blank420]

The same thing happened to me. Somebody i was friends with for a long time said that he knew how i felt at the funeral and he left with a bloody nose. That was sort of my way of venting:D

[Maverick]

Anyone that may say "I know how you feel" is just trying to help and make you feel better. Some don't know how to express compassion very well but for the most part they aren't trying to offend you but help you.

Sometimes its hard to know what the right thing to say is.

[total_blank420]

I would prefer if nobody said anything if they haven't had the same thing happen

[Oblivion]

So you chose to hurt someone for trying to help you feel better?

Not only someone but a good friend that was obviously not being disrespectful (since hes a good friend)?

[total_blank420]

I didn't really mean to. me and him still talk and all. he and i both understand why what happened, happened. I think it was because i had heard it so much that day, i just lost my temper and it just happened to be a good friend that set me off.

[Hyper]

And now this old thread is way of course.. I think you got enough scolding...

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