Grr...

[Underground_Network]

Yeah... so I've given up on my crush, and there's a new girl I like... I still suck at approaching girls, etc, but I really like this girl, but there are two problems... Even though she's made it somewhat obvious she's interested in me, there's a guy [who I know but am not friends with] that she talks about all the time... Said guy has a girlfriend, but I still think she might be interested in him... The other problem is that though she looks at me and has tried to talk to me, I never know what to say... She seems to be better at talking with other people [people besides me] too... She has no problem talking with other people even when they say something idiotic, but she just seems to be like me and not know what to say when she's trying to talk to me... Thus we share the ability of not being able to communicate with one another well... I don't really know to tell you the truth... In my opinion she's hot, she's got a great personality, she's intelligent when she feels like it, she likes the same music as I do, etc... But still, I don't know her that well, she's a year older than me and really isn't super bright... I'm especially troubled when it comes to talking to girls who I don't know very well... And though I've gained confidence throughout the year, I have a new fear that is causing me to be unable to talk to any girls I like... I fear since I haven't talked to them throughout the year and we're 3/4 of the way done with the school year, that even if they did like me, they may not like me any more, and that I'll just come across as a dumbass for taking so long to start talking to them.... I just don't know.. Eh seriously fuck this... I've been thinking of waiting till I go back to my camp where I can ask this other girl out who I've liked for like 3 years... But I still don't like her anywhere near as much as the girl that this thread is about...

Woot, rantage.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Go talk to her man, just be yourself cause thats all you are and thats all you should be. She likes You for who you are. So go talk to her and ask her!

[Nihilus]

Talk to her but be yourself. Just talk to her. I went through that problem btu you just have to talk to her and be your self.

[Underground_Network]

There's two problems... One, I've had two recent opportunities to talk to her, and I just didn't have the guts to so I avoided her... Two, I'm not sure I was right about her liking me, though I feel like that about every girl I've ever thought liked me, so I'm not sure... I seriously just don't know what to say... Saying "Hi" out of nowhere just seems to awkward to me... In fact any conversation I could think of sounds awkward when I play it through in my head... I just don't know... I probably will end up never talking to her, because that's just who I am and I suck at changing...

[Serenity]

One word: speculation. You don't know how she feels so don't assume things- you know what happens when you assume, right? If she's at least making the effort to talk to you, there's even the slightest ray of hope. You need to grab it. To be blunt, suck it up and stop obsessing over everything that could possibly go wrong. If you're too paranoid to take the leap and ask her out because you're constantly worried she's going to end up liking someone else, that's exactly what's going to happen. She's going to lose interest in you and move on. Don't think about that other guy, think about you and her.

she's made it somewhat obvious she's interested in me

Stop being so afraid. You're never going to be in a relationship, ever, if you aren't willing to put your emotions on the line. That's what relationships are about- trust, commitment, etc. Yes, there is always going to be the chance that you're going to be hurt, and yes you're almost definitely going to be hurt several if not many times before you find The One. It's inevitable and necessary if you ever want to find someone you can be happy with. Some great girl isn't just going to suddenly appear in your life and realize you're a great person she wants to be with. You have to take the risk and show her.

It all starts with you knowing you're great and quitting with all of this self doubt. Easier said than done, obviously, but that's just the fact of the matter. Like I said, if you're always paranoid about what can go wrong, it will go wrong and then the chance will be lost. You don't want your life to be one long story of, "What if?" or, "If only I had..."

[Underground_Network]

^^ I know how true that is... But this fear.. This fear of me looking like an idiot is still there.. But now there's this even bigger fear... this fear that since I haven't talked to her all year, but I've had 200+ days in which I've had the opportunity to talk to her, she just won't be interested if I start trying to talk to her now... :/ I just hate myself... I keep trying to change, but I think I'm one of those people who needs the environment to change with him... I've changed, but I still don't quite fit in anywhere.... :/

[Serenity]

she just won't be interested if I start trying to talk to her now

And again, if that's the attitude you're going to take you're doomed to fail.

Don't think about it so much as changing yourself. Think of it more as one step, one moment, one goal.

[Random_oso06]

i think you should be your self

[Underground_Network]

^^ That's the problem, I don't know who I am... I don't know who I'm supposed to be, because I don't who "myself" is... I had the perfect opportunity to talk to her again today, and she smiled at me and I think she was waiting for me to say something, but I just blanked out, I didn't know what to do or say, in my mind I thought what I wanted to say, and I even said it to myself [in my mind], but the words never escaped my lips... I just smiled somewhat nervously back at her and didn't say a word... :/