Too Young?

[Willie Wonka]

Well, I'm a 13 year old male, and I am VARY mature for my age. Hit puberty at 11, and everything seems to be happening so fast. I feel different with girls. I really like this girl who I am friends with, and I feel like I am ready to to date. I'm vary confident. But my mom I don't think feels the same... I don't know what to do. Should I tell her I want to date? Or should I ask the girl out and not tell her until we become closer. I reallllyyyy am attracted to her, she flirts with me EVERY day. Sh knows I like her. She likes to tease.

[Nihilus]

Its up to you. Your mom may be overprotective but its what moms do. Just go ask her if you want to. Its your life so make your decision and Im sure your mom will adjust.

[Willie Wonka]

I guess. I just dont want to lose her trust.

I mean.... Its kind of a big jump, to date. But I think I just gonna ask her out, because I think im old enough to make my own decision.

[Sage]

Fuck what your mother says, relationships are between two lovers, not one and their parent. If you ask me, age is not an issue, maturity is an issue. If you feel you are mature enough, then by all means, go for it. ; )

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

As long as the girl is mature enough, too. Just because girls tend to mature faster than guys, doesn't mean that they can't be completely immature. xP I don't think 13 is necessarily too young, but I do think that you should talk to your mom. Sometimes its okay to disobey a parent, but in this case talk to her first. Let her say her exact concerns, what is she worried will happen if you start dating? And, calmly and respectfully, tell her your side of it all. Why you think you're old enough, and why she doesn't need to worry about it. I think most parents worry that you're not old enough to handle possibly getting dumped later on, that the other kid will be more "advanced" and try to pressure you into things, or that you're not ready to juggle a relationship and school (because it can be quite tempting to blow off homework to talk to your girlfriend/boyfriend). If your mom is really adamant about not letting you date yet, you might need to just respect her wishes for now. You've got plenty of time left for a girlfriend, and you can always keep flirting even if you're not allowed to date.

[Oblivion]

As long as the girl is mature enough, too. Just because girls tend to mature faster than guys, doesn't mean that they can't be completely immature. xP I don't think 13 is necessarily too young, but I do think that you should talk to your mom. Sometimes its okay to disobey a parent, but in this case talk to her first. Let her say her exact concerns, what is she worried will happen if you start dating? And, calmly and respectfully, tell her your side of it all. Why you think you're old enough, and why she doesn't need to worry about it. I think most parents worry that you're not old enough to handle possibly getting dumped later on, that the other kid will be more "advanced" and try to pressure you into things, or that you're not ready to juggle a relationship and school (because it can be quite tempting to blow off homework to talk to your girlfriend/boyfriend). If your mom is really adamant about not letting you date yet, you might need to just respect her wishes for now. You've got plenty of time left for a girlfriend, and you can always keep flirting even if you're not allowed to date.

I completely agree :) If you decide to ask her out, definitely talk to your mom first because you need to have something settled with her... After all, who will take you to your dates? :P She really needs to know whats going on :)

[Willie Wonka]

Well.... I wouldnt blow off homre work to talk... I am an A&B sudent... I think I mattured faster than most of the other boys in my class.

But... Yesterdy we were talking, and she told m something.. She just recenctly got to gether with my friend Shane.. I was upset. She told me she knew I liked her.. And told me to simply wait..

Oh well I guess. Is it ok if I still like her.. Ive liked her for a long time.. I think she got more atracted to me, since we are so close. She always turns to me if she has a problem. Im the guy who she can trust... I think if she brakes up with her boyfriend she has now. That she might ask ME out.. I dont know... Looks like I'm stuck again!

[mr.sexy_bomb]

well look i am a 8th grader and i am 13 but i feel very mature i think u shouldn't had waited 2 long and talk 2 ur mom about this

[ScotsGirl]

So she is going out with one of your friends, even though she knows you like her.
But wants you to wait around until she breaks up with him so she can then move on to you? :eyebrow:

And you're going to wait?

Surely if she wanted to be with you, she would make that happen already? :eyebrow:

Just saying...

However, back on topic. I agree with those who have said its a good idea to talk to your mum before making any moves :-)
It shows maturity ;)
xxx

[Oblivion]

I agree with scotsgirl on all parts :) Your mom may be happy you came and asked instead of just going along with it.
Also what is your girl friend doing, going out with your friend, but actually waiting to go out with you? I would tell her just to break up with him.

[Willie Wonka]

Im not gonna wait. If she wants to ask me out. Then she can, but not now because she is dating my friend... I hope my temper dosn't go off on him though...


Well, I plucked up the currege, and talked to my mom... She didn't seem all to pleased with me asking girls out.. But I think she understands. She said I can date whoever I want.. So at least I let her know whats going on.. So if I do get asked out, or I ask some one out, it wont be like a surprise.. I hope :p


Well, school is tomorrow.. I feel uncomfortable now to hang out with shane.... He knew and he said yes to her.... Before he was like my main dude, and now its like.... I don't know..Tomorrow is going to be a interesting day.

[myskias]

dude just ask her out, 13 is teh perfect age, ur mom shouldnt mind alot, my mom told me to wait and when i ended up goin out with girls she didnt really care.

oops sorry, i didnt read some of the thread... sorry

[TheTrueKing]

i say go out with the girl first then if it goes somewhere simply explain to your mom why you should be able to date girls

[Mr. Smithers]

Two year old thread. Please do not post in old threads.

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