It felt like the girl of my dreams but I don't know anymore.

[Zelphyre]

I liked this girl in my grade for a few years, then last year I finally decided to try and communicate with her. I thought she felt something for me too because many times I looked up from reading our eyes would meet. One day I finally got enough courage and gave her a letter telling her how I felt, etc. I never got a reply but I still catch her frequently looking at me when I look up. What do I do? I'm too shy to approach anyone and talk to them, especially a girl I really like.

[Elokyn]

you have 2 options....1...keep just staring at her until you either stare a hole through her head..or she actually gets up and says something....ooorr 2 go talk to her...we're all shy...like when I met joseph I wanted to be with him so badly and I was soooo shy..like I'm the shyest person ever...but I wouldn't stop flirting with him lol cus I wanted HIM to know I like him..and it worked obviously....but yeah you're gonna have to talk to her

[Zelphyre]

It's not like I don't want to talk to her, it's just we're both really shy. I've tried to talk to her before and she made the conversations short or tried to avoid me sometimes, even though I know she doesn't hate me. And I know she won't go up and talk to me, because we're both not very initiative people.

[Elokyn]

well if you really care you're gonna have to do somethin

[teencrazykid]

well if you really care you're gonna have to do somethin

seconded

[Zelphyre]

I would talk to her, but she's always talking with someone most of the time. In the only class we have together, she sits next to someone in the grade higher than us and he keeps making jokes all the time and talking to her most of the time. Plus, we sit on opposite sides of the rooms.

[Elokyn]

okay now you're changing your story....first it was your too shy now its you're never around her..well...if you're not around her now then how you gonna get around her as her dude? man..talk to her if you care..if you dont then keep doing what you're doing.

[Zelphyre]

I never changed the story, I just added more detail to the story because I thought I'd get an answer that didn't have to make me say more about my situation.

Besides, why would I change something that involves love? I'm not a kidder when it comes to love.

[Elokyn]

okay well ..have fun doing whatever you're gonna do about it

[Zelphyre]

That's so harsh. If you knew my situation, then you could have sympathy. When I was ten my mother left my dad, and I had a year of therapy to get over my depression. I still have it, but I know how to cope with it. My problem with this is I'm scared of being left alone by another female again. I don't like to take chances, and if I did and got rejeted, I'd probably end up hurting myself again.

[Elokyn]

there was nothing harsh with what I said....I'm sorry..if you wanted sympathy you needed to tell the entire story in your original post..sorry about your parents splitting..mine did too 0_o sorry you were depressed....sorry you're scared..you wanted advice..all the advice I can give you is talk to her! want me to talk to her for you? give me her number! I'm not even close to joking...I was just trying to help please X the attitude

[Zelphyre]

It's not like I don't want to talk to her, it's just I have a major self issue right now. I've wanted to be with her for a long time now, but I don't feel worthy enough to be with anyone. I need to fix myself before I can be fixed inside.

[Elokyn]

yeah but if you explain that to her she'll appreciate the fact that you did it even more..its like..oh wow hes so shy and hurting right now but he still cares about me so much he came over and talked to me...atleast thats how I would look at it

[Zelphyre]

That's what you would think, but gender's think differently. Most guy's are initiative, but I'm different. I'm very sensitive and fragile. I wrote her a letter after I chatted with her a few times normally a year ago, and she doesn't have a different look on her face when she looks at me. Plus knowing how she talks from hearing her converstations with many people, I know she's a dodgy person and kind of hold backs when talking like me.

[Elokyn]

I'm sorry I dunno what more I can say

[Zelphyre]

You don't have to say anymore, it was nice enough to talk to someone about this. I'll just go back to being a lonely and depressed individual who no one thinks special of, just the big guy in school.

[nullandvoid123]

dude i know EXACTLY what you're going through. you want to tell her how you feel so badly, but you want to cling onto that one feeling of love you have for her, and keep it forever. you dont want her rejection to stop that feeling. youd do anything to keep it. believe me, ive felt that way so many times. you just have to learn that there will be others. btw, if you read my topic on this board, you'll see what im talking about. it sounds pretty much exactly the same as your story.
here it is:
http://www.virtualteen.org/forum/viewtopic.php?t=11187

[toogilwell2006]

Dude, Carpe Deim. I know it sucks but if you don't nut up you have 0 chance. if you do, your chances go up exponentialy. It's simple math really. A small chance is still > 0, follow?

ok so she says no, big whoop. wasn't meant to be. Take what you have to offer elsewhere.

Chris

[nullandvoid123]

i know how hard it can be to confront a girl... and if it works, best of luck. but if not, theres always other fish in the sea.

[Westo]

Also you have to think confident, you have to try your hardest to calm yourself and go to her and say hey whats up. try another conversation, as you said a year ago you had a conversation...well things can change in a year..and then rule it out from there. :wink: :P