me and my best friend both like the same girl...

[deadpaw]

Well, the thing is, that, as the title says, me and my best friend both Really like the same girl. It all started when he asked her out, and because i never really knew her before, and just thought she was cute, i thought nothing of it. but now, its like i see her everyday, im in her classes, i hang around with her in school, out of it and stay over each others houses and stuff!

Its weird, i've know her for basically, the better part of 9 months now, and ive become one of her best friends and vice versa (or however you spell it).

so while she and my friend were going out, i didnt mind at all, i was totally cool with her and him, i just thought she was cute. but once we started being proper chums and whatnot, i began to really like her. and its not likei want what i cant have, because there not going out any more because of a mutual break up, which i wont really mention cause its hard to explain but they remained good friends.

so now, its like a few months after they've broken up, and me and her have like kissed before at a party, so im sure she likes me too, but i felt really guilty after it. so now everything's back to normal, except from my obsession with her

i tried talking with my mate about it, but its hard, i really dont know what to do,

i really like her, but so does he, and i dont want to lose his friendship
any ideas

[ScotsGirl]

...i dont want to lose his friendship


If you're serious about that, then you really need to talk to him about it...
You said he still likes her? Has he told you that?
Either way, if you value his friendship, you need to talk to him before you do anything else with the girl.
:)
xxx

[myskias]

well teh exact thing is happening with my best friend and his girlfriend, who is also my best friend... i really am starting to like her but my best friend is goin out with her... it makes me sad because he is a horrble BF to her and never talks to her and never does anything with her but they still like eachother... mines simalar to yours but mine is just before they broke up.. i dont know waht i should do because i dont like to see her get all sad because he doesnt pay any attention to her, but i also dont want to tell her to break up with my best friend... it would cause problems, im guessing the same advice for him would work for me also, so can u guys help us out?

[mr.sexy_bomb]

oh yeah well if i was u i will ask her out quick

[Coesistere]

oh yeah well if i was u i will ask her out quick

I gota say i disagree with Axel's advise. Though it may be hard to talk to a friend bout having a realtionship with an "ex" of theirs, its much better than not talking to him at all which could make things A LOT worse between all of you. Though there may seem like a rule that prevents friends from going out with other friends "ex's", you shouldnt worry that your friend will disown you for anything like that. I mean he is your friend right?...and true friends stick together no matter what. So really you should have a good conversation with him and discuse both of you feelings, make sure he is completely honest with you that he doesnt have a problem and make sure that he know that your just trying to follow your heart and that your in NO WAY meaning to be a "bad friend", cause your not being one. Of coarse there is always the possibilty that he might no want you to go out with her, in this case i must say that you should let it go. Feelings for a classmate is no reason to lose a true friend, so you would just have to suck it up and move along..of coarse she will still be your friends right?:) Hope for the best and remember, though it might be hard to do, talking to your friend about this is the right choice to make.:yes:

[liam]

I would ask her out straight away! if your friend has no respect for her and makes her sad you should hate him anyway.and if you enjoyed kissing her the you obviously want to.

[kerry]

Try to get to the girl before your friend does.
Also talk to the boy

[MrPinnick17]

You can make new friends. Go for what you wanna do, although if you've been in the friend zone for 9 months most likely it's gonna stay that way.

[Ryandel]

Talk to your best mate about it. Tell him and what not. If he was your best mate he would understand. And you too would understand. Best of luck to you.

[kerry]

Talk to your best mate about it. Tell him and what not. If he was your best mate he would understand. And you too would understand. Best of luck to you.

i agree with you !!!!! :)