write this is rediculous now

[Stuart_Bendson]

I have a friend..she is female and we are very close..we are like best friends...she is not single and has a boyfriend..but when i say we are close i mean we like...cuddle up in a corner of a room because we love being close to her...that i can take as friendship..but now i can get away with kissing her on the lips..and she does the same to me..i mean what am i supposed to think..and how should i talk to her/ deal with it

[Bobby]

You should definatly talk to her about this. She isn't being faithful to her real boyfriend, and she should make a choice.

[BeautifulSilence]

Wow, this sounds incredibly a lot like a relationship I had with a guy friend (until recently) except I was always single, yet sorta involved with another friend.

In the end, we went out for a lil' while and he dumped me because he "sees me as a real oodfriend, and nothing more." I agreed to go back to how we were... But after about a month I couldn't take it, it turns out my feelings were a heck lot stronger than I realised. I sorta turned a bit pyscho . . . And I had to breakfriends with him before I became a stalker.

I wont give you advise (for obvious reasons) but I will layout your options...

1) Stay quiet about you're feelings and be friends secretly always wanting more...

2) Ask her opinion on whether you two should consider hooking up in the near future...

NOW, think. The first is like a quiet pain, but the second could be a painful risk. HOWEVER, the first could escape a wasted relationship, whereas the second can reveal a great one.

IT'S YOUR DECISION. BOTH OPTIONS HAVE UNCERTAINTIES. BUT HEY... LIFE ITSELF IS A RISK.

GOOD LUCK

[Stuart_Bendson]

ok..she has talked to me on msn..she says she loves me but she loves her boy friend too..she wants my advice..and i said she should stay with her boy friend..i kind of feel a bit depressed now that she says she loves me..iv been waiting for her to say that for two years and now when she does she is with another guy..

[BeautifulSilence]

Aww. Don't worry, Hun. If there's one thing I am sure of, it's that love works in mysterious ways... You'll get together, maybe not soon. But you will. I'm sensing you're a secret romantic. It always works out for the good guys.

[scatman]

umm i dont wanna be a party pooper but also think if she does this to her current boyfriend think twice because she might do it to you

[Gumleaf]

i think you have allowed your friendship to become too close. there is nothing wrong with friends hugging and cuddling together but once you start kissing eachother on the lips then that is way too far. i'm glad you have talked to her about it and now that you have told her to stay with her current boyfriend, you need to remember that you two are only friends and to take a step back in your friendship to avoid being compromised again. don't allow yourself to kiss her or allow her to kiss you and make sure that the only real contact you have is like hugging and stuff like that. hope this helps and makes sense.