Other Guy Problems

[*Dissident*]

So, recently I have started to date/be with this girl, yea? Well recently, through facebook, I have learned that there is this guy back where she lives in Birmingham (she and I go to school together 2 hours away from there). This guy leaves her messages like "I love you soooo much!" and stuff, so I asked her about it, and she said, and I quote:

"like weve been going out i guess


but he lives in alabama"

I don't know whether to seriously confront her about it, or to just hope things work themselves out.

[theOperaGhost]

I think you should confront her about it, if you really like her. Although she might get angry, I still think you should do that. Would you rather have her seeing (or liking another guy) even if he lives a ways away or see who she truly likes?

[Gumleaf]

you need to talk to her about this because she can't obviously go out with both of you. i think you need to ask her who she wants to be with more. if she says you, then you need to talk to her about making sure things stop between her and the other guy. if she wants to be with him more, then i know that will be crappy for you, but at least you know where you stand then and you won't be on the road of a meaningless relationship. so whatever the result, communication is definetly the answer here.

[ThatCanadianGuy]

From how you said she responded ("like totallayyy we've been like datingggg") it seems almost like this is one of those internet-bf/gf things. They're pretty dumb when you think about it but before she went out with you she was probably lonely and that was one of the easier ways for her to feel wanted. She did say they'd BEEN dating after all. Wouldn't that suggest that it's pretty much over then?

[Andrew56]

Confront her asap. I had a similar situation, and I didn't. Trust me, it's much better to bring it up to her. If you can't discuss things with her, then she's just a pretty face to you.

[*Dissident*]

I don't know...I really don't want to lose this girl.

[Andrew56]

Well, you should want to if you can't be honest with her. If you aren't trusting her and/or you don't wanna bring something up to her, you shouldn't be with her. Seriously, the best thing you can do is to be super honest. Try by starting off with telling her you don't want to lose her, so you were hesitant to bring it up, but you were also confused, and you wanted everything to be out in the open and clear things up.