hormones

[Kietkarbad]

can it really affect your life?... cus iam going throught it i think... b4 i was a straight happy kid.. but ever since i smoked weed and got hi... i got random scary gay thoughts.. i know iam not gay cus iam not attracted to a guy in anyways it just like people who i have seen in skewl numerous times b4 are now like cute or hot.. and its rather creepy... and like last 2 days this one guys face is in my head.. its creepy.. its like jsut his face and blank white circles around it... like iam not attracted to him in anyway... is this puberty/hormones or is there sumthing deeper? cus i grew up with numerous gf.. i havent had one since december.. been rlly sad/depressed/depression/stress all year... so whats wrong with me? and iam 16. and i have a crush on this girl well actually i have a crush on 4 girls.... but its hard to cus i keep thinknig when puberty is over iam turn gay.. :( and i dont know what to do.. anyone help?

[MoveAlong]

Ok, there's nothing wrong with you, though let me clear up some things!

-Nobody turns gay.
-You obviously like girls, so you can't be completely gay, you'd at least be bisexual
-Hormones haven't been linked to homosexuality
-Weed doesn't have hormones in it, dude...you got high...
-If you're not attracted to men, you can't be gay.
-Hormones do control A LOT about you! By just taking female hormones, transgender men can essentially become a woman (physically). They influence your metabolism, behavior, a lot...so you're right, they do influence a lot of how your body works, but not whether you're gay or not.

Here's where I go off on a limb, and I think this is a really good point: It's normal to start noticing both sexes now. You notice how they develop physically, like more muscular, or that they have charactaristics that would attract other mates...I know I'm sounding like a biology class, but think about it:

we're animals, and just like every other animal, we're built to pass on our genes to the next generation. With that said, since puberty is about advancing sexually (building muscles, reshaping the body, being able to produce sex cells), you're bound to notice sexual characteristics of other guys due to competition. Most animals compete for a mate. So to notice that a guy is hot or is cute does not make you gay. It's just checking out your competition, which is hotwired into all organisms, and part of growing up!

[Kietkarbad]

how would i be bisexual.. i dont find any intrest what so ever in a guy.. it just i would think they are cute/hot then like a few mins later they be the same person again.. nutin fascinating >.> this is affecting my ability to get a gf.. as in i cant have a gf cus iam scared i might lose intrest in her.. as in the thoughts are gonna overcome my and make me who iam not :(

[MoveAlong]

The only way you can know that you will loose interest in a girlfriend is if you try. You're scared? Well get over it, because you're too scared to try

And why did you just pick out that one thing about my post? Didn't you read the rest of it? dont' you understand that I was saying that you are silly to be worrying that you would be gay because you like girls??? So if you like girls how can you be gay?

Please, act like I said something else besides just that in my first post...

[Kietkarbad]

i kno that .. iam just saying its all randomly happen rite after i got hi.. i mean i have gotten hi MANY tiems b4 but this time was different.. almost got caught by the cops and well idk.. from there i been tripping out...

[MoveAlong]

oh ok, sorry! :whoops:

anyway weed wouldn't effect this. Maybe it was a coincidence because you're just becoming more curious

[Kietkarbad]

idk.. i still blame that weed.... ergg.. its weird tho... i mean i d k >.> my lifes been very sad and gloomy and i attempted suicide b4 becuase of these thoughts.. i have nutin against gays or bi's but i just couldnt ever see me being one... my mind is telling me iam gonna turn into a gay or bi.. but how if i dont find the same sex attractive in anyways so i really dont know what to do.. besides iam tired of living.. i jsut wanna die.. should i die guys? i rlly dont know what i wanna live for anymore...i really dont :(

[Oblivion]

Ok, there's nothing wrong with you, though let me clear up some things!

-Nobody turns gay.
-You obviously like girls, so you can't be completely gay, you'd at least be bisexual
-Hormones haven't been linked to homosexuality
-Weed doesn't have hormones in it, dude...you got high...
-If you're not attracted to men, you can't be gay.
-Hormones do control A LOT about you! By just taking female hormones, transgender men can essentially become a woman (physically). They influence your metabolism, behavior, a lot...so you're right, they do influence a lot of how your body works, but not whether you're gay or not.

Here's where I go off on a limb, and I think this is a really good point: It's normal to start noticing both sexes now. You notice how they develop physically, like more muscular, or that they have charactaristics that would attract other mates...I know I'm sounding like a biology class, but think about it:

we're animals, and just like every other animal, we're built to pass on our genes to the next generation. With that said, since puberty is about advancing sexually (building muscles, reshaping the body, being able to produce sex cells), you're bound to notice sexual characteristics of other guys due to competition. Most animals compete for a mate. So to notice that a guy is hot or is cute does not make you gay. It's just checking out your competition, which is hotwired into all organisms, and part of growing up!

Awesome post, full agreement!