why do parent s think its okay to fight infront of the kids

[ShatteredWings]

a few days ago my mom threw a PLATE at my dad ..i'm nt sure why...but then when he came home they both started screaming.

its about the f'in dishwasher...the thing's broken and neither of them want to fix it, or get a new one. id fix it myself, but idk where to start:confused: i'm clueless on that thing

anyways, i have two little brothrs too...they're not even in gradeschool yet & i'm only 13.

they fight over STUPID things, when little things start to go bad...it's idiodic..i mean, honestly, adults are suppposed to be smarter than us (yet a bunch of teens-20somthings can run a chatsight w/o issues)

what's wrong with them, and why do they think its okay to do this?

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

Have you tried talking to them? My parents used to fight a lot when I was younger, though they never got physical it was all verbal with them. I remember almost every night they would get into a heated argument about dinner. They were both too busy and too stressed out to cook it, so they had to argue over who was busier and who would have to actually make the food, but they couldn't agree on what to have, and we didn't have the money to order out so they argued about that too. I mostly just stayed in my room until they shut up. One night though, when I was about 8, I was trying to fall asleep and I could hear them arguing about something. It was loud enough to keep me up, so I walked down there, said, "Can you please argue quieter, I'm trying to sleep?" and went back to bed. They didn't even know I was still awake, and they were embarrassed that I'd heard them arguing. At one point they almost separated, but then they got marriage counseling. Now they're able to disagree without being ridiculous about it, though it's taken some work on both their parts.

Talk to your parents, let them know you don't like to see them fight. Let them know how much it bothers you, and that neither you or your brothers want to deal with this. Don't yell at them, try to be calm and reasonable, but get your point across. Try suggesting that they look into counseling, it can help them learn the skills to get through their problems without a fight, and ultimately will make everyone a lot happier.

[ShatteredWings]

Talk to your parents, let them know you don't like to see them fight. Let them know how much it bothers you, and that neither you or your brothers want to deal with this. Don't yell at them, try to be calm and reasonable, but get your point across. Try suggesting that they look into counseling, it can help them learn the skills to get through their problems without a fight, and ultimately will make everyone a lot happier.

haha if i tried that, i'd be killed (not literally)...

sugestiong councling would get me thrown in to a hospital...prolly'd be good for me, but not helping the situation

[Sugaree]

Parents do this all the time. It's probably due to stress of everyday life

[Zephyr]

It's something everybody goes through.

My dad would start the arguement, trying to manipulate everything to where he was right. Mom would get frustrated, cry, sometiems throw things, usually the phone. They used to fight even if I had friends over, though we would just leave the house and go for a walk. It was fabulous.

I would try talking to them about it,
Ask them if they can try to settle their squabbles calmly and civlily.
If they won't have any of it,
Just leave the house next time that they argue to make your point that they shouldn't fight like that in front of you.

[dogman]

I hate it when my parents fight infront of me, they never get physcial, its only verbal, but i still hate it. I dont think parents think it ok to fight infront of kids, nor do they want to, but i think it is that they are just very angry and that particualr moment and they need to vent their rage and fustration, and they do this by fighting. They do not want to fight infront of you and they dont choose to, they just yell at each other when the time comes. I think if they could, they wouldnt fight infront of you, but they cant choose when they fight.

[ShatteredWings]

usually i'm kinda scared it would get physical..it desont, but...

[aTOMicbomb]

wow and i thought my parents were somewhat bad. but my parents never really threw anything at each other... there was that occasional 'dad punching something, sometime' but never at each other. they yell a lot.. i guess some parents are different though. yes i do often times get afraid of something escalating more than yelling. it sucks a lot =/ and it happens almost every day

[Techno Monster]

ok then my parents have screamed at each other at least one a week ever since I was born... I dont recommend this but i just cuss my dad out and tell him to shut up (he always starts fights) then i go outside somewhere(barn, tree, truck, that one ice cream place). bring your brothers outside with you and hang around or just get away

[ShatteredWings]

yea...caitlin, bad idea....haha


thoes boys dont listen to me anyway...i should go somewhere for a weekend...=/