Is it right that I have to send this email?

[Brandon639]

Is it right I have to send this email? Am I in the wrong here?

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To: Heather
From: Brandon (me)
Subject: Jessica

Dear mom,

I have no idea how to write this email so please bare with me, its a rant.

I will tell you up front that I am done. Done with the way she treats me.

Okay, you know how you call me drama queen? Normally its fun and games right? Well now that you have started calling me that, so has Jessica, but she means it. Every day she tells me I am a fag, I am a woman, I have no "balls" as she put it, I am gay as well as numerous other things, and much more. Could you maybe talk to her about this?

Also, I am now scarred for life, your daughter has a major issue with indecent exposure. Seriously. Normally when people undress, they go in their room and shut the door right? Am I wrong? No. Not her. She gets naked, puts her cloth on her bed, and stands right in front of the door getting dressed. Okay. So I walk out of my room to go to the bathroom and I see this. I say shut the door you sick perve. She then tells me it is my because I walked in on her. First her door wasn't shut, second I was walking to the bathroom, and third, who dresses in the middle of the doorway? She also has problems with showing her "crack," like when she puts her clothes on and walks out of a room, the pants and underwear, down a little to far. And its not an accident because when I mention it she'll be like well why dont you kiss it, or oo you like it don't you. I'm really sick of it. Call me a drama queen, I don't care, its wrong, its nasty, and in public its illegal. I have told her I don't care to see her naked and it happens repeatedly. If it seriously happens one more time, I am going to really ticked off. And if you don't say something, thats okay, because I will. If you haven't noticed, I'm done with her. I have tried to be nice, and for the most part, I think I have done a good job.

Oh I almost forgot, I also should never be allowed to have kids or a wife, or as she says, husband, because I will beat the crap out of them. I am a abuser, I am evil, and she likes to picture me in jail.

If I have to start carrying a tape recorder around with me, I will.

Sorry for the rant, I needed to vent.
Brandon

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By the way my sister is 12, I am 14.

[Tree]

I think you have every right to send that. I take it she won't listen to you when you try to talk to her face to face and if sending her an email is the only way to get her to understand it then so be it. I hope everything gets better. :)

[Brandon639]

Thank you! And your right, she won't listen when I try to talk face to face about my sister.

[Tree]

Does she favor your sister more or something?

[Gumleaf]

sounds like she is just playing mind games with you. and if you go ahead with this it means she wins!

[Brandon639]

I think she does.

And mind games? I think she's just being a perverted bitch. And I already sent it :(

[Tree]

Well is your dad around for any of this?

[Brandon639]

Oh yeah I forgot about that part. When I told him about it he told me to shut up, then he role by sister to shhh in a nice soft friendly voice... Nobody will just deal with it.

[Tree]

Oh yeah I forgot about that part. When I told him about it he told me to shut up, then he role by sister to shhh in a nice soft friendly voice... Nobody will just deal with it.

Wow, I think they think this is just a phase she's going through. But It's not, and they need to realize that as parents they should step in and set boundaries. This could possibly blow up in their faces and you'll have the last laugh.

[notsure101]

you have ever right to send that to ur mom

[Zephyr]

You had every right to send that.
Nobody deserves to be treated like that,
Especially by family members who should be supportive rather than immature.

I hope your mom sees things your way,
And that your sister stops being a snatch.

[Brandon639]

Thank you everyone. Now I just have to wait for a reply... In one way or another.

[japanman]

Yep sounds like a good idea too glad to hear someone is taking action.

[Falk 'Ace' Flyer]

sounds like she is just playing mind games with you. and if you go ahead with this it means she wins!

I disagree completely. You should stand up for yourself, and if your mom doesn't take care of it, it's your turn to tell your sister you're sick of it. You're completely right in everything you said, so I hope this gets resolved quickly.

[Sugaree]

This is the right thing to send. You are standing up for yourself and that's what you need to do

[byee]

You again, huh? Well, Brandon, it seems as if your problems are bigger than I first thought! It's just not your mom who has bad boundaries (those unspoken 'rules' most folks live by based on what's OK for the other person, not just themselves) and trouble listening to you. I think you might need to talk with her (and maybe your dad) about your experiences here. It's more than just mom listening in on the phone and your sis showing herself off to you. It's about them not knowing they shouldn't be doing these things in the first place, and then responding more appropriately to you when you bring it to their attention.

I'd suggest you tell your mom that your sister's sexualized behavior makes you very uncomfortable, that her exposing her body to you, that the sexual name calling, really bothers you and you'd like her help in getting Jessica to stop. keep it neutral, stay away from hysterics and demands. The facts speak for themselves here, just give them to your mom, make her aware of them.

[love at first sight]

I remember when I was a younger girl, I would always change in the middle of my room. Anyway you walk up stairs you could see my room and me. It was just a fass for me, I hope it is for her.

Hope I helped.

[defexus]

As illegal as this would be... say you're going to take a camera and take pictures of her while she's doing her nasty things and tell her you're going to send it to her friends and shit. It might scare her a bit. I dunno... seems like it would work.

Definitely not the best advice though.

[Godskitchen Trance]

Yeah you did the right thing by sending the email. I hope it works out for you.