I used to cybersex as a kid and deeply regret it

[nettaroza]

Since I was a young girl, 11 maybe? I used to cybersex. Whether it be in virtual worlds or omegle. I didn't think much of it then, as I never got caught, but I'm really feeling the effects of it now. It was only written but it has still damaged me a lot (I know it sounds dumb) I've become really upset about it and can't forgive myself or move on with my life. I've stayed up all night and cried over this and think I will for many more nights to come. I believe I stopped when I turned sixteen? I feel like a pervert and that I used the men who I cybered with, as they did not know my real age. Does anybody have any advice or help for me? Thank you.

P.S I am 17 and a 1/2 now

[Kirina]

Since the men you cybered with did not know your age and we can assume they enjoyed the fantasy you helped them trigger, then their fine. Well you both "used" eachother, that's what cybering is.

Nothing wrong with being naughty at times, doesn't mean your a pervert constantly. There's nothing more to it than that, you really should just move on.

[Cadanance00]

Everybody's done some sexting but I think for years is a long time. Sometimes the vids get stolen and put on porn sites so be extremely careful.

[hesaidhesaid]

Pray it doesn't get posted my dear. We all try and avoid that trap, but just pray now. :)

[Pat the Bunny]

Everybody's done some sexting but I think for years is a long time. Sometimes the vids get stolen and put on porn sites so be extremely careful.

Pray it doesn't get posted my dear. We all try and avoid that trap, but just pray now. :)

She said it was all written though.

[Cadanance00]

She said it was all written though.

Oh.....well that's different.

[TrampCore]

Cybersex is not a big deal as long as they don't have any photos of you or anything personal. Almost everyone did it once in their lifetime because it's just a way to entertain yourself. They might as well be underage as you or even girls. Ah, beauty of the internet - everyone can be anything. But I wouldn't stress about it at all. You should treat them like they are - just words, nothing more, nothing less.

[Andyyy95]

Hi nettaroza, has something happened recently that's caused you bring back the past?

Also, with the exception of Kirina, I feel that the above posts do not help the OP in any way whatsoever...

[ClaraWho]

I would suggest seeing a therapist, I know the subject is sensitive, but that would really help. Not being able to talk about it properly is only adding to the problem. Yes, that was a long time and it was inappropriate, but that doesn't make you a bad person.

You should write a letter to your younger self, be compassionate and kind, imagine they are coming to you for help with the exact same issue - write how you would response.

I think that would be a good start and I'd be happy to help more, feel free to PM me and avoid anyone seeking graphic detail - it isn't needed or helpful.

Good Luck,

~ Clara

[ChaosEarthquake]

Do not worry, I have done the same thing.

I am currently 14, and I have been doing that over Omegle since I was about 9.

Actually, from two incidents of this, I met up with two people (different times), and I was raped.

It has scarred me for life, and I know that I will never do that again. However, the agony still bites at me to this day, and it bothers me quite a lot.

[NotQuiteANerd97]

We've all done stuff we regret in adolescence, some of it is more embarrassing than others, but you're not abnormal or a pervert. Just try to forget about it and move on in life. Find something to keep you distracted. That's what I do.

[GryffindorGirl]

It's pretty much just a fantasy thing right? I still do it (text only, no way on video!) and it's just safe sex to me

[SethfromMI]

try to forgive yourself and let go, maybe even see someone/talk to someone who will be able to help you move on from this. it is something many people do to some extent, but try to forgive yourself

[Pulp501]

I went on omegle and masturbated with the older guys on there when I was younger. I think it was just exciting for me knowing it was illegal and it made me feel good about myself because no one really turned you down on there. Some people were under 18 but often they were adults. Don't beat yourself up over it because obviously a lot of people did it based on all the other under 18 on there.

[LiamC]

I've done it too from about the age of 14. It's just a fantasy thing, if they don't know that you'r 11 and you say "hey i'm sexy swedish blonde" or whatever all you've done is typed some stuff that helps them enjoy a fantasy. Nothing wrong or perverted there at all, especially when it's something from the past!

[Microcosm]

nettaroza,

There's a reason that you're regretting it, you know.

Think about it: If you weren't regretting it right now, would you ever learn not to do it again? Now, you actually have the opportunity to put the past behind you, learn a lesson from it, and move on. That's the best thing you can do.

Best of luck.