Taking too long to cum during sex

[Number Six]

Hi.
I'm seventeen and have started having sex with my girlfriend. When we are, she will have one or two orgasms but I will still not have came. I'm not holding back, and when I masturbate I can cum fine. I can feel everything during sex and its great but I just can't cum without forcing myself to by jerking off at the end. Maybe I just need more time or maybe something is wrong but I think I'm normal. Does anyone have any comments or ideas that could help, or have this problem?

[Jaseblader]

You must not be going fast enough or it might not be as enjoyable,but it's normal

[nklarke]

Maybe she has to help ...

[Second Chance]

Hi.
I'm seventeen and have started having sex with my girlfriend. When we are, she will have one or two orgasms but I will still not have came. I'm not holding back, and when I masturbate I can cum fine. I can feel everything during sex and its great but I just can't cum without forcing myself to by jerking off at the end. Maybe I just need more time or maybe something is wrong but I think I'm normal. Does anyone have any comments or ideas that could help, or have this problem?

Your problem is normal, and a lot of guys have the problem you have not being able to cum inside of the girl when they first have sex. I think you might be a bit nervous when you are having sex, and you might be putting too much pressure on yourself to please your girl and to be "normal." I think if you can just focus on having fun and realizing that your girlfriend will accept you no matter what, then you'll be fine. Just make sure you have feedback with your girlfriend during sex and let her know what makes you feel good and what does not. If there is open communication between you both with both of you being totally honest, then you'll be okay.

Assuming you're new to sex, then your issue could just be an issue of practice. I think after you have had sex for a little while and get to know the mechanics of it, then you should be able to shoot your load inside of the girl.

Remember, there's nothing wrong with you if you need to jack off after having sex, and as long as you're enjoying sex, then that's what counts.

[Number Six]

Your problem is normal, and a lot of guys have the problem you have not being able to cum inside of the girl when they first have sex. I think you might be a bit nervous when you are having sex, and you might be putting too much pressure on yourself to please your girl and to be "normal." I think if you can just focus on having fun and realizing that your girlfriend will accept you no matter what, then you'll be fine. Just make sure you have feedback with your girlfriend during sex and let her know what makes you feel good and what does not. If there is open communication between you both with both of you being totally honest, then you'll be okay.

Assuming you're new to sex, then your issue could just be an issue of practice. I think after you have had sex for a little while and get to know the mechanics of it, then you should be able to shoot your load inside of the girl.

Remember, there's nothing wrong with you if you need to jack off after having sex, and as long as you're enjoying sex, then that's what counts.
Thank you, this is very helpful and reassuring :)

[hesaidhesaid]

Your problem is normal, and a lot of guys have the problem you have not being able to cum inside of the girl when they first have sex. I think you might be a bit nervous when you are having sex, and you might be putting too much pressure on yourself to please your girl and to be "normal." I think if you can just focus on having fun and realizing that your girlfriend will accept you no matter what, then you'll be fine. Just make sure you have feedback with your girlfriend during sex and let her know what makes you feel good and what does not. If there is open communication between you both with both of you being totally honest, then you'll be okay.

Assuming you're new to sex, then your issue could just be an issue of practice. I think after you have had sex for a little while and get to know the mechanics of it, then you should be able to shoot your load inside of the girl.

Remember, there's nothing wrong with you if you need to jack off after having sex, and as long as you're enjoying sex, then that's what counts.

What he said. I used to have this issue with my BF but it's all ok. Just be open and be honest. Maybe she can help you, or better still, maybe she can finish you off! haha

[Uranus]

You didn't exactly say how long it takes. So...

[SethfromMI]

Your problem is normal, and a lot of guys have the problem you have not being able to cum inside of the girl when they first have sex. I think you might be a bit nervous when you are having sex, and you might be putting too much pressure on yourself to please your girl and to be "normal." I think if you can just focus on having fun and realizing that your girlfriend will accept you no matter what, then you'll be fine. Just make sure you have feedback with your girlfriend during sex and let her know what makes you feel good and what does not. If there is open communication between you both with both of you being totally honest, then you'll be okay.

Assuming you're new to sex, then your issue could just be an issue of practice. I think after you have had sex for a little while and get to know the mechanics of it, then you should be able to shoot your load inside of the girl.

Remember, there's nothing wrong with you if you need to jack off after having sex, and as long as you're enjoying sex, then that's what counts.

This. also though, sometimes guys masturbate too fast and do different things it feels too differently for them when it comes to sex.

[Number Six]

You didn't exactly say how long it takes. So...
We aren't together every day it's a long distance relationship, but the times we have had sex it goes usually two to three or four hours I'd say. Aside from oral or anything, it will be like an hour to an hour and a half of straight intercourse

[mattsmith48]

We aren't together every day it's a long distance relationship, but the times we have had sex it goes usually two to three or four hours I'd say. Aside from oral or anything, it will be like an hour to an hour and a half of straight intercourse

can she get you to cum with bj and hj? if yes just get her to get you the closest of an orgasm with out cumming.

Another option would be not masturbating a few days before.

Your probably just nervous or something like eventually it will take you less time

[NZPerson]

Most people have a problem with cuming to fast so you should feel lucky unless the amount of time is ludacris.

[Bluebyrd]

Probably just nerves. When you get used to it, it will be okay

[Catholic Guy]

I have the exact same issue with the guy I last had sex with we went for ages and nothing but when I jacked off while he was sucking me and stuff I could come but otherwise I couldn't cum

[Anomaly]

You have to talk with her about it, you should change things up a bit and see if that helps..

[vtteen6]

Hi.
I'm seventeen and have started having sex with my girlfriend. When we are, she will have one or two orgasms but I will still not have came. I'm not holding back, and when I masturbate I can cum fine. I can feel everything during sex and its great but I just can't cum without forcing myself to by jerking off at the end. Maybe I just need more time or maybe something is wrong but I think I'm normal. Does anyone have any comments or ideas that could help, or have this problem?

Ur lucky you can make her orgasm. Your also lucky you can last this long. From what I see it's not a problem but more like gifts.

[Zachary G]

the feelings i have when i masturbate are very different from the feelings i have when i have sex, so it does take me a little longer to cum than usual, but i dont stress it and just put myself in the moment and focus on enjoying myself and feeling good and then it just happens. youre normal, so dont stress it, work with it and it will work itself out.