Liking a Straight Guy

[JHenryF]

Ok, so I'm in a bit of a jam. I'm in love - like really in love (seeing and talking to him makes me really happy, and I'm not just interested in his physical appearance, I love his personality) - with a straight friend at school. I'd like to tell him how much I love him, but I don't want to ruin our friendship. i really don't know what to do.

Henry

[Second Chance]

Ok, so I'm in a bit of a jam. I'm in love - like really in love (seeing and talking to him makes me really happy, and I'm not just interested in his physical appearance, I love his personality) - with a straight friend at school. I'd like to tell him how much I love him, but I don't want to ruin our friendship. i really don't know what to do.

Henry

This is a tough one, but my suggestion is while you are entitled to your feelings it is best not to share it with this guy because it may cause awkwardness. As much as you want people to respect your sexuality you also need to do the same with your friend. Assuming that your friend is totally straight and has no interest in guys the fact remains that you both will never be anything more than friends. You cannot change the fact of who your friend is anymore than you can change yourself to become straight, and as long as you two remain friends, then you will be fine. It is far better to find someone else who you know for a fact is gay rather than to put yourself on a path of disappointment trying to become more than friends with someone you know is straight.

[NZPerson]

Alas i was in this situation but what i had go do was realise its never gonna happen and keep the crush to myself but we are still best friends and we still share some bond. Take my experience for what you will but you cant get too attached. best of luck.

[Bluebyrd]

Are you 100 percent sure he's straight?

[drhalsey1]

Well if you are 100% sure he's straight just try to be a friend before anything else, and I'm in that same position, I think, I'm pretty sure he's straight, but not sure

[JHenryF]

Well.... He acts straight, but used to be a figure skater. I know that you can't judge a person by what activities a person participates in, but I don't know of many straight guys who are figure skaters.

Henry

[Zachary G]

you accept your fate at being his gay friend and dont taint the relationship by spurting out your affection for him. some straight guys dont mind having a gay friend, but they cant handle it when they find out that that gay friend has feelings for them. some things a better left unsaid.

[Abhorrence]

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[Second Chance]

Well.... He acts straight, but used to be a figure skater. I know that you can't judge a person by what activities a person participates in, but I don't know of many straight guys who are figure skaters.

Henry

Unless the guy comes out as being gay, then you have to assume he is straight. You said it best that you can't judge a guy by what activity he does. Even if the guy turns out to be gay, then there is no guarantee that he is going to be anything more than a friend.

Personally, I think you might have a good thing going with this guy being your friend, and your best bet is to not bring up your feelings to him unless he comes out as gay.

[hesaidhesaid]

It depends on how good friends you really are.
My best friend was a guy I had a crush on for a LONG time. But because we are such good friends and such close friends, I could tell him anything. We had coffee over it (if you can believe that) and now, we have an even stronger friendship. He has a girlfriend and I have a boyfriend- but we're always there for each other as if we were together.

Thats' just my experience but you have to assess how strong your friendship really is. If your 'straight' friend is really your friend, he'll care for you and he'll stick it out with you no matter what.

Something to consider...all the best x

[SethfromMI]

I would advise you not act on those feelings. you can still be his friend, but if he is straight it is best not to try to start anything romantic with him or anything like that

[SillyShyGuy]

Try not to make it obvious. Ask him what he would think about a guy liking him. Or ask him how comfortable he is around you. Then lead to talking about how you feel about him. Take your time.