My Crush.

[Coolguy10890]

Idk if this belongs in sexuality or not, but if it seems more relationship related then, mods feel free to move it there.

And sorry this is going to be a LONG POST. Please, if u like reading long posts, plz help me with my issue going on right now.

So, I have a crush on this guy (I'm gay, but in the closet except to my group of friends and the GSA group in my school and to him now) and he's also gay. So about a year ago I was going to talk to him and try to say that I liked him. So I facebook messaged him saying "Hi how are you? What's up?" But sadly I freaked him out cuz I was talking to him too much and he kinda figured that I liked him. And so then all this drama went down and my friends who are friends with him said he doesn't like me & thinks I'm weird and whatever so I got pretty upset about it and I decided to give up. So for pretty much a year I stopped trying to talk to him all together but I still haven't moved on (this is my first actual crush & I've always tried imagining having an actual boyfriend btw) and so I've been mad at him, and sometimes sad at myself thinking I'm not good enough, and also times I'm back to just looking at him and liking him again.

So just recently I've joined the GSA Group in our school and he's been in it since last year. And I didn't wanna be a part of it last year cuz he was there and it was the time period I was mostly mad at him. Also cuz our GSA needs some improvement tbh, all they did last year was play Disney games and whatever which tbh, doesn't seem LGBT awareness related at all.
This year the GSA is improving, and I hope it continues to improve after I graduate this year.

But anyways, so now I'm in GSA and he's there too, and him being there makes me nervous cuz I'm afraid he's judging me in his head and stuff. But recently, I was curious and I know I was risking it, I decided to request to follow him on Instagram (I unfollowed him after I got pissed last year) and surprisingly, he added me back on and he requested to follow me! I was so freaking excited. But idk what it means.

Does this mean he wants to talk to me?

Should I apologize to him for being "weird" to him?

Should I just leave him alone all together…

And but what if he actually does want me to talk to him again but he's just waiting for me to confront him?

Thanks everyone who read this big thing and I hope to get replies!

Btw, there's a poll to those questions I asked above ^

[Hudor]

Don't infer too much meaning from it. He might just be trying to be polite or he might want to be friends with you. I suggest you talk as much as you did the past year and not take this as a sign unless he further he approaches you to talk or shows signs of starting a friendship

[hesaidhesaid]

Hey Matt,
My advice here is to talk to him sparingly and just be friends. You should also apologise for being weird but at the same time, just be honest and tell him that he is your first crush and just allow him to understand that some things start out nervous. Don't be mad at him- you made him creep out haha.

HAVING SAID THAT, if you try and be friends and just hold conversations with him and he still acts like a loser, then you should leave him. Your crush (or in my case, my boyfriend) should make you happy and tell things to you honestly and not make you mad unnecessarily.

You can always talk to me if you have questions. All the best dude xx
-H

[Sports Boy]

My opinion is you should just try and start over with him as if you're just meeting him and try to work on developing a friendship with him. It seems like he got scared or just plain wasn't interested before and withdrew but now might be willing to be friends again. If you bring up any of the past he may freak out again and withdraw even more.
But if you can't be friends with him and want to act on your crush, I'd probably just stay away from him.

[Zachary G]

First off I would apologize to him for creeping him out, then I would only deal with him as required by class or occasion, but giving him his space at the same time. He may like you, then again he may not, but if you crowd him he may jump again and this time for good. So just give him some time and some space and see what he does after you take the first step by apologizing for being "weird".

[plushdreams0608]

I would encourage you to speak to him normally and see if you can spark up a friendship. I wouldn't start talking and go straight into apologising or anything because that might come across as slightly odd. If you feel (after talking to him normally for a while) that he is showing an interest in you romantically then I would say go for it but only if you're certain and feel comfortable with it. Don't push him into anything. Best of luck :)