Help with guy problems

[kmxo17]

So this is a long story so I hope at least someone could help me.

So.. I had this sort of a sex relationship with this guy, lets call him Scott, and we had that relationship about 3 months. At that time we both were allowed to do stuff with others too. Then school started and something happened and all that stopped. We didn't talk to each other that much, like almost at all. And it was like that about 2 or 3 weeks.
Then one day 2 weeks ago, we hung out together, we were like best friends. Then the next few days we talked alot and hung together alot. A few days went past and then he confessed that he likes me, or more than likes me.
He is a guy who plays a lot with girls, he has never wanted a real relationship and was very clear about that to every girl he was with. But then he told me he wanted to change and that he wanted to change for me.
I like him. I like him like a lot. But there is this one other guy i met about 4 weeks ago and i really like him, though he and i have just few things in common.
I have no idea what to do, i really want to be with Scott but im afraid he is just going to be with me fir a while then forget me again.

I have no idea what to do.

[Zachary G]

If you know how the first guy is with other girls, then you are really taking a chance with investing your feelings with him. IF it were me, and he said he wanted to change, he would have to prove to me that I meant something more to him than just a fwb and that he was genuine about changing. As far as guy number 2 goes, how much do you really know about him? Id hang out with him for a little while before jumping on that boat, too.

[Person123the]

For the first guy, as zack said, I would want the guy (or girl, or whomever the person is, but in this case, the guy) to prove that you meant something more to him, and that he actually DOES care. If you like him and everything is going smoothly between you two, I see nothing wrong against it.
For the second guy, is he a crush, or do you actually have strong feelings for him (more than just a crush). If you do like him more than a crush, who do you prefer out of the two guys? You should think about it, and think about both of them and how well youknow them, and what they mean to you. You also have to think about what they will GIVE to you, and not just be with you and then later dump you...it takes time, you just need to weigh your options, get to know them both better (to find the one you like more), and hopefully go for it!

Good luck!!!

[Uniquemind]

I give huge pause to the first guy....I'd date him, I'd set ground rules, and he'd have to earn trust.

But steel yourself with the first guy.


There's a huge risk that sure he'll be loyal and he means what he says for maybe the first year, and then sex roles into the picture, and then months later after he's had sex with you and knows what's that's like, despite genuinely liking you emotionally, his sex drive for others will be too strong and he'll cheat.



That's the situation you need to brace for.


That being said guy #2 might not be any better, not having common interests makes that harder.

And you take this risk with any guy you date potentially, at least with guy #1 you know his backstory ahead of time, that's a luxury you don't always get until it's too late.

[Just JT]

If your ok with him seeing other girls, and you are both aware and ok with that, then go for it, but that's a dangerous kinda relationship to have so be careful. If he wants an exclusive, he'd need to prove his commitment some how
Guy 2? Again, how well you know him? Consider you may invest a lot of time being with guy 2 and not like him, and guy 1 May not be available
There's a lot to this when you think about it, it's going to come down to what your willing to accept and to what limits

[SethfromMI]

If you know how the first guy is with other girls, then you are really taking a chance with investing your feelings with him. IF it were me, and he said he wanted to change, he would have to prove to me that I meant something more to him than just a fwb and that he was genuine about changing. As far as guy number 2 goes, how much do you really know about him? Id hang out with him for a little while before jumping on that boat, too.

yea Zack makes a great point. you are putting yourself in a vulnerable position. I guess first you have to ask can you trust him. as far as which one, you will just have to decide who you feel like you may want to possibly build a relationship with at this present time