Gumleaf
September 27th, 2015, 07:15 PM
I'm probably too old to be posting here and actually feel uncomfortable doing so in the circumstances. Anyways, this is the story and then the question/s will follow.
I've really only had one proper relationship. Apart from the few months we weren't together, it lasted about 4 years while I was in high school with the girl who was my best friend. Even before we were together as a couple, we were inseparable. So for that reason I can't even remember or know how we ended up being together other than her starting it and kissing me one day. I haven't been with her now for 3 years and have been single ever since. So despite having relationship experience, I'm inexperienced in the sense of finding someone and knowing how to start a relationship and how to go about doing that.
So keeping that in mind, this is my story. I'm on an online dating site, so that has to be said. In early August I approached a girl who seemed really nice on there and we've started talking. After about a month of doing that, she suggested we meet up. So after a couple of issues of planning a time, we arranged to meet up on what was basically a first date. She wanted to meet me and I think for her it was to see whether the way we clicked conversation wise online would be reflected in person. So last weekend on a Saturday morning we met near where she lives with the plan to chat over coffee for a while at a café and see what happens. So we met at 10.30 in the morning. I was expecting to be there for about an hour or so. We ended up chatting for so long that I suggested we stay for lunch too, and she agreed. We didn't end up leaving until after 2pm, and we could have probably stayed longer. Apart from us being nervous to start with, there weren't many silences and we chat well together. Before we left, she suggested we keep emailing each other or texting. So I wrote an email to her that night about a couple of things but also mentioned that I thought she was lovely and that I had a nice time. She replied a day or so later but didn't offer any opinion about me or the date. Since then, we have emailed each other 3 or 4 times and continued talking about various things, but nothing to do with what she thinks of me or the date that day.
Now, I'm one to over analyse things. I really think we are well suited with some common interests in things. We obviously had plenty to talk about. I think there is real potential there. But I have no idea with where she is at. I don't have much confidence in general right now having been repeatedly rejected over the years, but on the upside, this is the furthest I've gotten with someone in the last 3 years.
So I guess the question is, where do I go from here? Do I just continue to chat to her and get to know her more and see what happens? Should I go out directly and ask her what she thinks of me etc? I'm a bit lost right now with this. Part of me is expecting a rejection, but another part of me is daring to dream that there might be some promise in this.
I've really only had one proper relationship. Apart from the few months we weren't together, it lasted about 4 years while I was in high school with the girl who was my best friend. Even before we were together as a couple, we were inseparable. So for that reason I can't even remember or know how we ended up being together other than her starting it and kissing me one day. I haven't been with her now for 3 years and have been single ever since. So despite having relationship experience, I'm inexperienced in the sense of finding someone and knowing how to start a relationship and how to go about doing that.
So keeping that in mind, this is my story. I'm on an online dating site, so that has to be said. In early August I approached a girl who seemed really nice on there and we've started talking. After about a month of doing that, she suggested we meet up. So after a couple of issues of planning a time, we arranged to meet up on what was basically a first date. She wanted to meet me and I think for her it was to see whether the way we clicked conversation wise online would be reflected in person. So last weekend on a Saturday morning we met near where she lives with the plan to chat over coffee for a while at a café and see what happens. So we met at 10.30 in the morning. I was expecting to be there for about an hour or so. We ended up chatting for so long that I suggested we stay for lunch too, and she agreed. We didn't end up leaving until after 2pm, and we could have probably stayed longer. Apart from us being nervous to start with, there weren't many silences and we chat well together. Before we left, she suggested we keep emailing each other or texting. So I wrote an email to her that night about a couple of things but also mentioned that I thought she was lovely and that I had a nice time. She replied a day or so later but didn't offer any opinion about me or the date. Since then, we have emailed each other 3 or 4 times and continued talking about various things, but nothing to do with what she thinks of me or the date that day.
Now, I'm one to over analyse things. I really think we are well suited with some common interests in things. We obviously had plenty to talk about. I think there is real potential there. But I have no idea with where she is at. I don't have much confidence in general right now having been repeatedly rejected over the years, but on the upside, this is the furthest I've gotten with someone in the last 3 years.
So I guess the question is, where do I go from here? Do I just continue to chat to her and get to know her more and see what happens? Should I go out directly and ask her what she thinks of me etc? I'm a bit lost right now with this. Part of me is expecting a rejection, but another part of me is daring to dream that there might be some promise in this.