Major changes happening!

[Augustus]

Hey there!

My name is Augustus.
Lately, I've been having adjustment problems.
My story's kind of in my Intro thread but I'll repeat it here, for the sake of your fingers.

You see, ever since I was born I've never seen my dad. I just saw him last year. On a magazine. That doesn't bother me. I'm happy with my family, I may not have a dad but I've got tons of aunts, uncles, godfathers, godmothers, cousins, etc. who love me.

So, you might be thinking... What's this guy's problem? Keep reading forward, mate!

Last year, I went with my mum's friends to a restaurant. To my surprise, there was a new guy. I didn't know who he was but mum told me he's an old friend. Let's hide his name with... Sloth (he's a lazy bum). Sloth had his three kids come with him. His children were like the Three Furies from Greek Myth. They were savages! One was nine, the other seven? The youngest five? Anyways, that was my first encounter of the person who now I must regard to as... "To-be-stepfather". Yes! He impregnated my mother without anyone's knowledge!!! They aren't even married! The guy still has an ongoing trial with his psycho-wife (literally psycho) and sometimes he doesn't go to work because he played CLASH OF CLANS all night! Yeaaa, he's rich... But that doesn't give him the right to be... Whatever he is! He doesn't even give money! It's his responsibility as the father to my brother. Responsibility isn't his middle name...

The least I can do is study hard and be there for mum... and my adorable baby brother.
And... eat cake. That makes me happy.

[Zachary G]

Sounds like you have a lot on your plate, I wish you luck in being able to handle it all, but I am sure that you will have the support of your many aunts and uncles along the way.

[Uniquemind]

Friends in this position that I have, always said they "play the pity card to get some money in trade for the stress of dealing with step-siblings they didn't ask for".

Take some precautions, I'd recommend buying a firebox with a secure combination and storing valuable stuff or private stuff in there, especially if you have nosy siblings.


Invest in ear plugs, there will come a time where the new baby will cry a lot interrupting beauty sleep during crucial moments of academia (before a test during essays writing etc).


Take your mom out on a one on one chat and also bring up the legal side of things.


I've seen situations within my extended family where marriage happens, and then the step children get screwed in inheritance law, because their biological parent died and parental and property authority defaulted to the step-parent.

So make sure there's legal paperwork protecting your college fund, and inheritance.


That's the best advice I can give, everything else you'll have to endure.

The other avenue is to try to connect with your biological father if you think that's a good idea.


Also take a self defense class, learn some tricks to secure your home from the psycho-Ex.


Be assertive, but cool and calculated if you need to strike and win an argument or at the very least get your point of view heard.

P.S. Your mom shares blame for being pregnant, that accomplishment takes two, so be fair here. (Birth control wasn't used or it failed, and your mom wasn't regularly testing herself, and/or she refuses abortion).

[Augustus]

Sounds like you have a lot on your plate, I wish you luck in being able to handle it all, but I am sure that you will have the support of your many aunts and uncles along the way.

Thank you for taking interest in reading that "story" of mine. Thank you for your well wishes.

[Augustus]

Friends in this position that I have, always said they "play the pity card to get some money in trade for the stress of dealing with step-siblings they didn't ask for".

Take some precautions, I'd recommend buying a firebox with a secure combination and storing valuable stuff or private stuff in there, especially if you have nosy siblings.


Invest in ear plugs, there will come a time where the new baby will cry a lot interrupting beauty sleep during crucial moments of academia (before a test during essays writing etc).


Take your mom out on a one on one chat and also bring up the legal side of things.


I've seen situations within my extended family where marriage happens, and then the step children get screwed in inheritance law, because their biological parent died and parental and property authority defaulted to the step-parent.

So make sure there's legal paperwork protecting your college fund, and inheritance.


That's the best advice I can give, everything else you'll have to endure.

The other avenue is to try to connect with your biological father if you think that's a good idea.


Also take a self defense class, learn some tricks to secure your home from the psycho-Ex.


Be assertive, but cool and calculated if you need to strike and win an argument or at the very least get your point of view heard.

P.S. Your mom shares blame for being pregnant, that accomplishment takes two, so be fair here. (Birth control wasn't used or it failed, and your mom wasn't regularly testing herself, and/or she refuses abortion).

Wow, everything you just typed is so accurate. I don't just understand your insights, I can feel it.
Thank you. You have a unique mind.

[Just JT]

That's not an easy situation to be in. Every family is going to have their own "uniqueness" if you will. And changes are never easy. Your going from one family situation to another really fast like warp speed. Been there myself, but keep in mind so is everyone else involved, and their lives im sure are feeling about as fucked up as yours feels.
Not saying all is good where you are, but try to keep an open mind, or at least look like you do so maybe you can all get along, maybe make things better as time goes on.

[Cadanance00]

Sympathies, dude. I just found out who my natural father is.