to harsh punishment

[popcorn 1]

Yesterday I got spanking from my dad and older brother for the first time after a long time.ok my friend tried to steal something from a store. I was there with him, but I did not take anything. However, the seller stopped us before we left and called the police, and they called our parents. My brother came and took me from the store, dragging me by my ear, swat me several times At home I got spanking from my dad over his knees. I told him that I didn't steal anything, but he just said that I am an accomplice and this is the same as if I stole it. Furthermore I have been punished for all eternity, restrict to my room That's not fair. I hate them!!! :mad:

[eric2001]

Don't stay mad for too long. They love you and will forget about it before you know it.

[Riley2015]

Yes its harsh because its not your fault what your friend did just because you were with him. My dad is the same, i'd be grounded for absolute months over something like that.

[popcorn 1]

I don't understood what kind of love is that. I just turn 14 and didn't I too old for that kind of punishment?I don't know if I can forget them, especially my brother, he humiliated me in front of everybody. ok I didn'tt think at that moment and I know I acted stupidly but everybody makes mistakes...

My dad is the same, i'd be grounded for absolute months over something like that.

And how you put up with it? Is that often happens?

[Riley2015]

And how you put up with it? Is that often happens?

I just have to be submissive and obedient as i am only 13 which he likes to remind me. If i argue over punishments he yells at me and increases the punishment, so my best option is being calm about it and accepting it even if i feel mad inside. It is hard but not much i can do about it

It happens quite often yeah.Often i wish he would stop being so harsh on me :(

[Just JT]

Parents like to force discipline when they feel their kids may have acted outa their control
Control is the key word here
You say it's the first time, so something changed there
Maybe you, maybe them idk

In my opinion, nobody's got the right to hit someone else unles it's outa self defense or something like that.
What they did is wrong in my eyes, idk what they are thinking, people show love innfucked up ways sometimes

[Uranus]

Your dad sounds like a dick

[popcorn 1]

Riley2015
at least your dad didn't spank you, just grounded and I got both. You are lucky :) I'm kidding.

Last time I'm discipline like this is when I had 8 or 9 years. But I'm not little kid anymore.

My brother tried to talk to me. He said he was sorry he did it, but that they love me and want the best for me. He said that I disappointed our father and that I should, as soon as I saw what my friend works to stop him in it or just go, and since I didn't left it probably means that we have planned it together from the beginning. I tried to confront him but he said it was better to keep quiet so as not to find myself in an even worse situation. Just to learn this lesson and not repeat it, otherwise the consequences will be the same...
I'm so helpless and still very pissed.

[Just JT]

To confront your parent like that probably isn't a good idea if he has a history of hitting you, especially if your alone. Not a good idea.
It's a hard situation to deal with, and no good comes out of it. @Rilet2015 does speak some truth about being submissive and deal with it, so you can get through the situation. But still, nobody has the right to hit someone.

If it's reall bothering you, I'd speak to another trusted adult, someone who will help you resolve this and prevent it from happening again.
Your a bit old for spanking like that, it's only purpose is for humiliation, and that's considerd to be abuse.
And that's not acceptable.

[michaelb]

Yesterday I got spanking from my dad and older brother for the first time after a long time.ok my friend tried to steal something from a store. I was there with him, but I did not take anything. However, the seller stopped us before we left and called the police, and they called our parents. My brother came and took me from the store, dragging me by my ear, swat me several times At home I got spanking from my dad over his knees. I told him that I didn't steal anything, but he just said that I am an accomplice and this is the same as if I stole it. Furthermore I have been punished for all eternity, restrict to my room That's not fair. I hate them!!! :mad:

i'm sorry to hear mate! i would get a thrashing for that as well, quite normal here :( but your brother shouldn't even touch you!

[popcorn 1]

Well, my brother is 8 years older then me. He is like my second father, when dad isn't home. He is very strict and maybe too protective of me. I like having an older brother, but when I got in trouble it's not interesting at all...:(

[Vermilion]

Yesterday I got spanking from my dad and older brother for the first time after a long time.ok my friend tried to steal something from a store. I was there with him, but I did not take anything. However, the seller stopped us before we left and called the police, and they called our parents. My brother came and took me from the store, dragging me by my ear, swat me several times At home I got spanking from my dad over his knees. I told him that I didn't steal anything, but he just said that I am an accomplice and this is the same as if I stole it. Furthermore I have been punished for all eternity, restrict to my room That's not fair. I hate them!!! :mad:

What's your age ?

[popcorn 1]

in september I turn 14

[Vermilion]

in september I turn 14

So you are a young teen. I do think they were wrong ( your dad and brother ) in what they did. However I think it's also to teach you that hanging with the wrong people well get you in trouble

[Freckles]

I still get spanked sometimes too. I know I would have if I were caught stealing but probably not just for being with someone who stole.

[popcorn 1]

because he thought that I was somehow involved in all that...I fell like I am in jail

[Riley2015]

because he thought that I was somehow involved in all that...I fell like I am in jail

How long are you grounded for?

[popcorn 1]

For a month, without TV, games and friends, just school and my room

[Riley2015]

For a month, without TV, games and friends, just school and my room

yup, been there myself :(

[popcorn 1]

and for what were you were punished?

[Riley2015]

and for what were you were punished?

Anything from answering back to getting home late (i have a curfew) to being in trouble at school.

This happens to me a lot cos my dad is very strict. 5 minutes late in over curfew time and my mum will be like ''its only 5 mins no big deal!'' dad will be like ''you're grounded for two weeks, maybe that will teach you to use your watch in future!''

[popcorn 1]

Ok and I thought that my father is strict. Yes that damn curfew, I have it too.I do not know how to make him understand that I am no longer a little boy. Sometimes, I want to run away from home...

[Just JT]

Ok and I thought that my father is strict. Yes that damn curfew, I have it too.I do not know how to make him understand that I am no longer a little boy. Sometimes, I want to run away from home...

Hold on, don't run away ok!!
Sorry, don't mean to jump all down your back ok?

But you obviously have a family that loves you a lot, as twisted as some things might seem, or be for you, they would not be like this if they didn't care for you a lot.
We're all growing up, we test limits with our parents, they (in theory) know more and know better and want us to learn stuff so we make good decisions

By running away, you ever live on the streets bud?
You know what happens to us kids when we do that?

I do, and it blows, as much as stuff sucks, and I feel for ya, don't run away, talk to them and work it out

Sorry if I vemted to much there

[Patri6k]

That's bullshit fuckery

[pconnor2001]

I get spanked too dude. Very common round here.

[popcorn 1]

I tried to talk to my dad but everything went so I got another week grounded because I argue with him,and if I countinue it will be worse. he took my computer, too, and now I only have a phone that I could use it. I am so bored. In addition he made me go to the shop where were my friend and I, and to apologize to the seller, it was so embarrassing...

[Just JT]

Well, take advantage of the time you have then, get rid of your anger, deal with your consequences cause it ain't guna change.
You got a phone, that's where I post from to mostly
So you got plenty of time, roam around and meet people here
That'll take up a lota time

[Zack2]

I feel bad for you because you get yelled at like that. My parents don't yell, but my brother makes up for it.

[pconnor2001]

We still get spanked too. By both parents and always on the bare.

[elcoy]

Strange he took away everything but your comp and phone the last time, to me that's not a punishment xD

[popcorn 1]

We still get spanked too. By both parents and always on the bare.

Yes, I know that feeling. I got spank on bare, too. I couldn't sit the whole day.

elcoy,

because I needed a computer for school, but now I can use it only when my dad is there and I must be in the kitchen where he can see me, and what I'm doing. He never took away our phones...

[Riley2015]

I tried to talk to my dad but everything went so I got another week grounded because I argue with him,and if I countinue it will be worse. he took my computer, too, and now I only have a phone that I could use it. I am so bored. In addition he made me go to the shop where were my friend and I, and to apologize to the seller, it was so embarrassing...

I get extra punishment if i argue back too. I have learnt now just to accept it and not argue

[Cadanance00]

AUK? I didn't know anybody got spanked after about age 6! much less on a bare butt. It sounds close to abuse to me. BTW what country are you in? Maybe there's a cultural thing that I'm missing.

[Just JT]

Guess I'm kinda lucky, foster parents aren't allowed to spank or hit their foster kids...

[popcorn 1]

I am from Georgia. I can't say that my dad abused me, because he is not, although I felt the effect of the spanking the next day. After a few days we straighten things even though I still grounded, things were back to normal, at least until yesterday. Yesterday, I got in trouble at school, not on purpose, and I got the note which my dad needed to sign. I did not have the courage to give it to him, so my friend forged his signature.I know that is pretty stupid thing to do but I didn't think,I don't want to go through that again :( and I just did it and returned note to the teacher. I'm so f***ed up. I hope he never find out about it...

[Just JT]

Well from what I hear about southern parents, they are pretty strict, probably why their time kids behaved so polite
What happened at school? Just a note, don't sound to serious does it?

Get caught forging likely that he'll probably never trust you again, and worse punishment to

[popcorn 1]

got in a fight with another boy. I tried to ignore him, but he has constantly challenged me and we got into the fight. Luckily, since this is my first offense,when it comes to serious infringements , and possibly because they know that my mom died a few months ago for now I just punished to stay 2 hours after school and a note for dad, but also a warning if this happens again that the consequences will be much worse.

I know, but I panicked because I know my dad will be pissed and I'm still grounded. I just didn't thinking with my head...

[Just JT]

Well if it's self defense, that's a different story right?
I mean everyone has a right to defend themselvesl

Sorry about your mum to, that's rough, been there

[popcorn 1]

but my father probably wouldn't have believed me. assumes that he would tell me that I am guilty that I let him to indicate me to fight,and that I should just leave. Just as was the case with the previous incident. just remains to hope that the teacher will not soon meet him somewhere or invite him to school.

you don't have a mother, too?

[Just JT]

but my father probably wouldn't have believed me. assumes that he would tell me that I am guilty that I let him to indicate me to fight,and that I should just leave. Just as was the case with the previous incident. just remains to hope that the teacher will not soon meet him somewhere or invite him to school.

you don't have a mother, too?

He may not believe you, and that's a risk you should take in my opinion
If your straight up with him, then he'll know you could have been deceitful, and we're not, so you in a wayi gain credibility. You'll also probably get punished, aan maybe not. But now u if you get caught, you lose everything.

And yes, I have a mom, don't live with her, my dad died

[popcorn 1]

I'm sorry to hear that.
Yes, I know all of that, now. but there is nothing that can be fix now. I'm dead man if he find out. I think I won't sleep peacefully at least a week.
I don't know how I could be so stupid...

[Just JT]

Well the way I see it is that you got 2 choices

1) do nothing and take the risk of getting caught
2) be up front and honest with your dad and tell him everything and accept the consequences

#1 May be more appealing I know in some ways, and you already know how you feel with that decision don you?

[popcorn 1]

I feel like a shit.
I know #2 would probably be correct
but just don't have the courage to stand in front of him and say:
Hey, Dad, I got in trouble at school, got in a fight, the teacher has sent you a note, but I signed it for you.
I wouldn't have come to explain to him why I did it.He would probably belted me before I get a chance and my brother,too, and who knows what else.
but now I have at least some chance ...hope

I'm sorry I probably boring you but I'm feeling a little better when I talk to someone

[Just JT]

Your not boring move at all, I this is the kinds shit this forum is for
You see, not that im older and wiser or anything, but something my dad did teach me is your word is gold.
If you say something, your guna do it, then God damit, your guna doit, cause if your not, then you have no credibility, and people won't believe it you or trust you.
If you male a mistake, and we all do, believe me, there's plentybof people here who can probably tell you a shit load of mistake we've all made
The difference is what we learnt from those mistakes
Sometimes making a conscious mistake is the worst kinda mistake to be made
But then If you can man up and accept it, then your good.
If not, that's fine to, but you better be able to man up and accept it if you get caught
Me personally, I'd be lying to you if i said id do the right thing, I'd probably do exactly what you did, but I aslo don't give a shit about gettin my ass whopped either, happened so much just don't matter
But what's worse, is loosing that trust, and credibility if you get caught
At least for me it would be

[CupcakeLuv101]

Yesterday I got spanking from my dad and older brother for the first time after a long time.ok my friend tried to steal something from a store. I was there with him, but I did not take anything. However, the seller stopped us before we left and called the police, and they called our parents. My brother came and took me from the store, dragging me by my ear, swat me several times At home I got spanking from my dad over his knees. I told him that I didn't steal anything, but he just said that I am an accomplice and this is the same as if I stole it. Furthermore I have been punished for all eternity, restrict to my room That's not fair. I hate them!!! :mad:

I know that you may not see it now, but your dad does indeed love you very much. If he didn't he probably would've left you on the street when you were not even 2 years old. He loves you enough that he wants to let you know that stealing is wrong and doesn't want you to end up being an everyday shoplifter when you grow up. I understand that the spanking may be harsh and leaves you feeling upset, hurt and unloved but he's probably just spilling his anger onto you because of the shoplifting incident. I know that it may not be right and may be considered abuse in some people's books but maybe if you get a chance to maybe you can sit him down and talk to him about how you didn't like what you did but when you do, say it in a nice, calm, positive way and don't be harsh. Try to get him to understand that you are really sorry for what you did and convince him that you will never do it again.

Also, I do see what your dad means by saying its an "accomplice and is the same as if you stole it" because you did have the responsibility of telling your friend he/she shouldn't be stealing from the store because of your presence at the time it happened. The fact that you kind of just stood there and said nothing when your friend took something from the store without paying is like you saying "there's nothing wrong with it" "I could just go and take something for free anyday"

Next time, I think the best thing to do is when you want something you should actually PAY for it. It would've been much easier and you wouldn't have ended up in this kind of situation. Remember that every single thing you do ends in a consequence. The greater the deal the greater the consequence will be :)

Also, to let you know there are much more severe punishments that parents had to get arrested for. Spanking may hurt for awhile but after that the pain goes away. Be thankful that you still get fresh water to drink and nicely prepared meals served on your dinner plate. I have heard of punishments where parents literally kick their child out of the house and won't let them in for an entire night.

I hope all goes well, good luck!

[popcorn 1]

I know that you may not see it now, but your dad does indeed love you very much. If he didn't he probably would've left you on the street when you were not even 2 years old. He loves you enough that he wants to let you know that stealing is wrong and doesn't want you to end up being an everyday shoplifter when you grow up. I understand that the spanking may be harsh and leaves you feeling upset, hurt and unloved but he's probably just spilling his anger onto you because of the shoplifting incident. I know that it may not be right and may be considered abuse in some people's books but maybe if you get a chance to maybe you can sit him down and talk to him about how you didn't like what you did but when you do, say it in a nice, calm, positive way and don't be harsh. Try to get him to understand that you are really sorry for what you did and convince him that you will never do it again.

Also, I do see what your dad means by saying its an "accomplice and is the same as if you stole it" because you did have the responsibility of telling your friend he/she shouldn't be stealing from the store because of your presence at the time it happened. The fact that you kind of just stood there and said nothing when your friend took something from the store without paying is like you saying "there's nothing wrong with it" "I could just go and take something for free anyday"

Next time, I think the best thing to do is when you want something you should actually PAY for it. It would've been much easier and you wouldn't have ended up in this kind of situation. Remember that every single thing you do ends in a consequence. The greater the deal the greater the consequence will be :)

Also, to let you know there are much more severe punishments that parents had to get arrested for. Spanking may hurt for awhile but after that the pain goes away. Be thankful that you still get fresh water to drink and nicely prepared meals served on your dinner plate. I have heard of punishments where parents literally kick their child out of the house and won't let them in for an entire night.

I hope all goes well, good luck!


that case is over and passed, but I will need a big luck to survive this week, because I am in so much trouble. But I know I deserve it because I done stupid thing. thanks anyway.

[Just JT]

Sounds like you talked to someone, how did it go for you?
Obviously not what you'd like, but how do you feel about what has happened, and w you handled it?

[Freckles]

I believe if you tell him and take your punishment you'll feel better. I know when I've tried to hide something because of fear of the punishment I punished myself by feeling guilty and scared. Once I was honest and it was over I felt like I'd paid for what I had done and didn't have to feel bad. I do know how scary a spanking from your dad can be cause I get them too sometimes. Feeling bad and wanting to tell him is worst though for me.

You might also tell him you didn't tell him because you were afraid of his spankings. Maybe he'll choose something different so you aren't afraid of him.

[popcorn 1]

Last evening I talk to my brother first, than with my father. he was pissed. I lost all his trust, and he is so disappointment in me. Punishment: spanking every night until the next weekend, 5 days (but I think that the licking won't be so strong as if I got at once, I hope so) and grounded for another month.

[Freckles]

A spanking every night? I've never heard of that and it doesn't make sense. How does he justify that? I'm beginning to think he has a problem.

[Just JT]

A spanking every night? I've never heard of that and it doesn't make sense. How does he justify that? I'm beginning to think he has a problem.

This

[popcorn 1]

such a punishment isn't strange there where I come from, that is, I heard about it.He knows that I know the main rules of the house, and I broke most of them. In the beginning I thought as you do, that it is excessive, but now...
I remember how I was anger after he spank me for stealing, but this time, after I talk to my brother
I realized how much is actually two of them were suffer after my mother's death, but they were trying to not show me that. I feel so guilty because I caused more problems to them.
well, I survived the first night, obviously. I take a nap after that, so now I can't sleep :) I guess the brother kept his promise, and that he spoke to him when they were alone because spanking are not be so bad, this time he used only his hand, and then we talked a little . Of course I feel very uncomfortable and painful and all that,and probably tomorrow it will be worse, but after this conversation, I learned a few things, and I think I'll think twice next time.

[Just JT]

That may all be well and true, but what you seem to dismiss is the very premise of this abuse, their grieving, and taking it out on you. Everyone griefs differently, you are also grieving, and probably acting out as a result of it. Just as they are. And they should have more understanding of that, if for no other reason, are feeling the same emotions and are channeling them differently

[popcorn 1]

you are right, each in a different way shows that feeling.
And for instance, what are you thinking I deserve in this case. What would your fathers do?

[Cadanance00]

Where DO you come from? I understand there are differences in culture but in our culture this would not be acceptable.

[popcorn 1]

I'm from Georgia. Dad was born in France, but he early came to America.

[Just JT]

you are right, each in a different way shows that feeling.
And for instance, what are you thinking I deserve in this case. What would your fathers do?

That's a hard question to compare your situation to based that this is a global forum, and everyone's circumstances are different.
For me, my dad probably wouldn't really care about the first issue at all, nor the second. But if I did cross him.... Thrats it
Where I live now, my foster parents are not allowed to hit or spank
So it's not always going to be consistent

[EmilySmith]

Are you kidding me?! That's just abuse! is your father even a normal? -__- what could you do I wonder? Just tell him that he's piece of shit :D You are still grounded so…

[Just JT]

Hey popcorn, how are you doing?
Havens seen you around lately, im sure some posters would like I to hear how your doing, maybe an update of how things are at home or something??

[popcorn 1]

Hi guys.As you know I am still grounded. however, I survived the physical punishment but my dad still don't believe me, my brother drives me home from school every day, where I have to be all day, unless the brother or dad go somewhere and take me with them, but it's very rare. I have some chores to do, and when I finish I must immediately go and do my homework and learn. when Dad comes home from work, he check out what I've done. he regularly call the school and check how I behave and if there are any problems. and so is passing my every day. I'm really bored ...

[Just JT]

Well, I'm really sorry to hear all that but I am happy to hear he's not beat get you any more. If your really bored, you could always have a look around VT and get involved in other threads and meet some more people. I really think you'd meet some retry cool people, and have a good time, there's even games to play in the arcade and stuff, gets your mind off stuff a little...

[cbm89031]

Hey. I also get spanked as well and I am 16. I am always bare for it.

[pascaldesla]

No more problems about your attitude?

[popcorn 1]

Some trouble,still grounded,but i somehow survives:-)

[lucaboy]

I am 15 and also still getting spankings from dad. I know how much it sucks. Dad has a low opinion of grounding and loss of privileges tho. He says, if I prefer to act up and not doing as I am told, then I also have to bear the consequences. Everything we do has its consequences, and as long as I am just a teen boy, this consequence means for me a bare butt spanking with the wooden spoon over dad´s knees. I have quite similar experiences like you. Last year I got caught shoplifting together with my best buddy who was just standing there, doing nothing. Dad picked us both up at the shop and he managed to convince the owner not to call the police. Back home, dad told my buddy that he was not less guilty as I was, since he did nothing to stop me from stealing. Dad said he will call his parents. But this would have resulted in a long grounding for him, my buddy was sure. Thus, he agreed to get the same punishment like I, and both of us had to strip naked, and after a long lecture we were both in for a thorough spanking with the wooden spoon. It hurt like hell and we cried our eyes out, but afterwards everything was forgiven and forgotten, and we felt so much better, relieved. My buddy even said,he wished he would also get spanked at home, rather than being grounded for ages, without laptop, x-box and telly. A spanking is over quickly and life can go on. Although I dread spankings a lot, I learned, that it is better to always (well, mostly LOL) tell dad the truth, about my grades, school suspension, etc. I still get my butt roasted for it, and it is always deserved then, but not as bad as when dad finds out about it later. In 8th grade I had a fight with a classmate and I broke him his nose. I got suspension and a letter from school. Like you, I faked dad´s signature. Dad found out about it, when he got a call from my classmate´s dad. For breaking so many rules, I also got one spanking for each single day of my suspension, every night before bed, for 4 consecutive days. At first I hated dad, but after the second spanking and another long talk with dad I understood that it was only my fault, and that he loves me, and I felt really sad and guilty. Finally I learned my lesson.

[popcorn 1]

We obviously have a lot in common :) you're going through the same as me, except that I get a belt, and despite the fact that I get spanked, I've been grounded, too. such as now, I'm grounded for 2 months. and I know he loves me but sometimes I feel like under a glass bell, I mean, everybody makes mistakes and sometimes I have a feeling that he doesn't take into account how I feel.

have you been in trouble lately?

[pascaldesla]

Are you ok with your stepdad now?

[popcorn 1]

you mean my dad, not stepdad. Im still grounded but I didn't have problems with him lately

[pascaldesla]

What kind of problems did you had in the past?

[popcorn 1]

What kind of problems did you had in the past?

well, like got in trouble for something i did and got punishment