I need help!

[normalperson]

Last night I was at cross country running and there was a girl there who is attractive, we didn't talk but we were both looking at eachother when we thought we wouldn't be noticed. Anyways, this morning I was in front of the office and when the bell rang I saw that she was at the volunteer information board and she was looking at me so I sort of froze and began to pretend to look at the terry fox poster, after 30 seconds I started to walk over to her and she smiled and she used a cute excuse to start talking to me (the weird thing at the wye marsh with zombies and stuff) I started talking to her and the whole time she was smiling at me the kind of interested in me smile, I said a few funny things and she mentioned the scare people at the haunted house thing and I said I scare people enough already jokingly and she said "well you don't scare me" all bashful and smilely like and her friend came by and she introduced herself as Rachel and I told her my name and she said she would "see me around". Was she flirting with me? Is she "into" me? What should I do?

[SillyShyGuy]

Congrats. She must like you and wants to get to know you better. She was not flirting, but she was being friendly. She might like you.

[Anomaly]

Nice, just keep talking to her, take things slow and don't be pushy! :)

[SethfromMI]

Yes she was flirting. like Anomaly said take it slow and see where it goes. but yes she seems very interested in you

[lkc413]

She was defiantly flirting. Just be sure and get to know her before you make any big moves, and be sure and like others have suggested, take it slow.

[Uniquemind]

Keep it fun, and playfully dangerous and suggestive.

That will take you far in this scenario.

[normalperson]

Congrats. She must like you and wants to get to know you better. She was not flirting, but she was being friendly. She might like you.

Nice, just keep talking to her, take things slow and don't be pushy! :)

Yes she was flirting. like Anomaly said take it slow and see where it goes. but yes she seems very interested in you

She was defiantly flirting. Just be sure and get to know her before you make any big moves, and be sure and like others have suggested, take it slow.

Keep it fun, and playfully dangerous and suggestive.

That will take you far in this scenario.

Ok, thanks for the suggestions guys, I have updates!

Yesterday at practice I worked up the courage to start talking to her during the last 1/3 of the time. I started off by asking her if she did crosscountry running before, she said she had and also did track and field and soccer, I asked her about her courses and how she liked them. When we were finished practice I looked at her, smiled and said "see you around". I think I was pretty charming, I smiled and laughed , she smiled and laughed , it went good. We have practice again today and I was wondering if I should ask her if she would like to hang out with me with at the terry fox and maybe for her phone number. What do you guys think I should do? I'm in uncharted waters.

[Uniquemind]

Ok, thanks for the suggestions guys, I have updates!

Yesterday at practice I worked up the courage to start talking to her during the last 1/3 of the time. I started off by asking her if she did crosscountry running before, she said she had and also did track and field and soccer, I asked her about her courses and how she liked them. When we were finished practice I looked at her, smiled and said "see you around". I think I was pretty charming, I smiled and laughed , she smiled and laughed , it went good. We have practice again today and I was wondering if I should ask her if she would like to hang out with me with at the terry fox and maybe for her phone number. What do you guys think I should do? I'm in uncharted waters.

That's good, ask for her phone # or email next and then try to ask what her schedule is like for various meet up times for a casual first date.


If she's really busy and she naturally doesn't have free time that works for you, use whatever small chat time you have during track to flirt.

[SethfromMI]

Ok, thanks for the suggestions guys, I have updates!

Yesterday at practice I worked up the courage to start talking to her during the last 1/3 of the time. I started off by asking her if she did crosscountry running before, she said she had and also did track and field and soccer, I asked her about her courses and how she liked them. When we were finished practice I looked at her, smiled and said "see you around". I think I was pretty charming, I smiled and laughed , she smiled and laughed , it went good. We have practice again today and I was wondering if I should ask her if she would like to hang out with me with at the terry fox and maybe for her phone number. What do you guys think I should do? I'm in uncharted waters.

absolutely man (though what is the terry fox). you can def casually ask for her number. to give you an excuse ask if she wants to hang somewhere some time. I say go for it though

[normalperson]

absolutely man (though what is the terry fox). you can def casually ask for her number. to give you an excuse ask if she wants to hang somewhere some time. I say go for it though

That's good, ask for her phone # or email next and then try to ask what her schedule is like for various meet up times for a casual first date.


If she's really busy and she naturally doesn't have free time that works for you, use whatever small chat time you have during track to flirt.

Thanks guys, I talked to her yesterday and asked her if she wanted to walk with me at the terry fox event (look up terry fox run), she said yes and I used the opportunity to give her my phone number so she could find me. I think that she's really into me because she dropped her calculator while talking to me and a friend picked it up for her and she didn't even notice her friend trying to give it back to her, I had to take it and give it back to her when I was done speaking, also, whenever she sees me she gets a big smile. I think I have her eating out of my hand! If things go well at the event I'm going to ask her out for lunch. (On me of course). Do you guys have any other tips on how to be or other ideas for things to do with her? (How often should I hang around with her? I don't want to smother her. Should I specifically call any future outings "dates"?)

Thanks for the help :)

[SethfromMI]

Thanks guys, I talked to her yesterday and asked her if she wanted to walk with me at the terry fox event (look up terry fox run), she said yes and I used the opportunity to give her my phone number so she could find me. I think that she's really into me because she dropped her calculator while talking to me and a friend picked it up for her and she didn't even notice her friend trying to give it back to her, I had to take it and give it back to her when I was done speaking, also, whenever she sees me she gets a big smile. I think I have her eating out of my hand! If things go well at the event I'm going to ask her out for lunch. (On me of course). Do you guys have any other tips on how to be or other ideas for things to do with her? (How often should I hang around with her? I don't want to smother her. Should I specifically call any future outings "dates"?)

Thanks for the help :)

your on the right track. after the run and a lunch will possibly give you a better idea where the two of you are at. at that point you might invite her to another local event, movie, etc. keep going though man, sounds like your doing great!

[Person123the]

Sounds good so far, just keep doing what you are doing, you're on the right path, she likes you I think, and just keep doing what you're doing...any updates since the last post, any news or anything else you need help with?

[Cadanance00]

Of course she's fucking into you.

[hesaidhesaid]

normalperson: I got two words...

YOU'RE IN!
Ask for her number and hop onto it before it's too late :) I wish you all the best. Oh and yeah- there is no such thing as "normal"- just unique. She obviously saw that. Haha

[AutumnWinds]

it seems like she was at least interested in getting ot know you. why not ride this out and see where it goes? :)

Last night I was at cross country running and there was a girl there who is attractive, we didn't talk but we were both looking at eachother when we thought we wouldn't be noticed. Anyways, this morning I was in front of the office and when the bell rang I saw that she was at the volunteer information board and she was looking at me so I sort of froze and began to pretend to look at the terry fox poster, after 30 seconds I started to walk over to her and she smiled and she used a cute excuse to start talking to me (the weird thing at the wye marsh with zombies and stuff) I started talking to her and the whole time she was smiling at me the kind of interested in me smile, I said a few funny things and she mentioned the scare people at the haunted house thing and I said I scare people enough already jokingly and she said "well you don't scare me" all bashful and smilely like and her friend came by and she introduced herself as Rachel and I told her my name and she said she would "see me around". Was she flirting with me? Is she "into" me? What should I do?

[normalperson]

it seems like she was at least interested in getting ot know you. why not ride this out and see where it goes? :)

normalperson: I got two words...

YOU'RE IN!
Ask for her number and hop onto it before it's too late :) I wish you all the best. Oh and yeah- there is no such thing as "normal"- just unique. She obviously saw that. Haha

Of course she's fucking into you.

Sounds good so far, just keep doing what you are doing, you're on the right path, she likes you I think, and just keep doing what you're doing...any updates since the last post, any news or anything else you need help with?

your on the right track. after the run and a lunch will possibly give you a better idea where the two of you are at. at that point you might invite her to another local event, movie, etc. keep going though man, sounds like your doing great!

sorry for the long time to respond, i've just been very busy. thanks for the help guys but long story short i blew it, i sort of came on to fast and scared her off, i would say "i don't care, i'm okay" or "theres plenty more fish in the sea" but then i would be lying to myself, that whole situation made my depression a whole lot worse, i've given up, sorry to have wasted your time.

[AutumnWinds]

sorry for the long time to respond, i've just been very busy. thanks for the help guys but long story short i blew it, i sort of came on to fast and scared her off, i would say "i don't care, i'm okay" or "theres plenty more fish in the sea" but then i would be lying to myself, that whole situation made my depression a whole lot worse, i've given up, sorry to have wasted your time.

there's nothing wrong with being upset when things don't go the way you want them too. it'l hurt, but you will meet someone else, hunnii. :)

[Person123the]

Hey stay strong it's okay, that sort of thing happens, and yeah, it hurts like a bleep, but you're stronger than that, and we all know that in the end you'll be okay. You'll find someone else, don't worry :)

[SethfromMI]

sorry for the long time to respond, i've just been very busy. thanks for the help guys but long story short i blew it, i sort of came on to fast and scared her off, i would say "i don't care, i'm okay" or "theres plenty more fish in the sea" but then i would be lying to myself, that whole situation made my depression a whole lot worse, i've given up, sorry to have wasted your time.

No need to apologize man, sometimes those things just don't work out. who knows, maybe down the road it still may. sorry to hear it did not work out for you