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Rallo
September 21st, 2015, 07:50 PM
I don't even know where to start with this thread. I basically just want to get out how I feel because I've really not told anyone before... It's not helping me at all keeping it all to myself, so I guess I'm just typing it here to let it out.

There was this girl, her and I dated for almost 2 years. Over the last 6-12 months of the relationship we both made various mistakes - we were both young and stupid I guess. Though we could both forgive each other, the things we each did aren't easily forgotten - the scars still are there and hurt everyday if her and I are still together. With all this in mind I ended it for good due to about 3 months of constant back-and-fourth arguments about the past, spiteful comments, indications of trust issues, etc. It wasn't at all easy, though I felt it needed to be done.

That was about 4-5 months ago now. I recently heard a song on the radio which always reminded me of her, a song which usually hurt like hell to her. It used bring back all the memories, it was our song. This particular time it didn't bring back memories, it didn't hurt. It was extremely odd, I felt nothing at all, I didn't miss her in the slightest.
After a bit I started thinking about things and how I felt, I guess I may have over thought a little. I started thinking about what her and I had, how I felt about her. It was over 2 and a half years that I loved her, I've never felt that way about anyone before. It really hurt, though for once it wasn't because I missed her - it was because I missed being in love and I'm scared I may never be again. I really don't see other girls the way I see her, even the ones I kind of like. I don't see her that way anymore either though. It's just really confusing.

Uniquemind
September 22nd, 2015, 03:17 AM
*makes sense and nods*

You're redefining yourself and trying to find your center.

This is good, and once you've found it it'd then be healthy to pursue new love interests, hopefully understanding what you're attracted too, and what traits to avoid that are toxic to a relationship.

Improve your filter and criteria.

ImagineRepublicCity
September 23rd, 2015, 05:28 AM
Hmmmm...I think I understand what you're saying...Something like wanting to have that kind of relationship again with someone else, right??

It's good that you got this out, I think it's really good you did.

Stuff happens, huh, and still, life goes on, and I'm sure that one day, you'll find someone which loves you as much as you love them and it'll work out.

SillyShyGuy
September 23rd, 2015, 11:08 AM
I was in a relationship with my ex Cindy. I thought I was in love too. It feels good to hear someone say I love you. But after a while you can only do so much if your date wants to keep arguing and makes you upset. We had a song, we had a movie, we ate the same food. But she ended our three year relationship to date a guy she only knew for a week. Then again I always knew she was shallow and only cared about looks. If that is love, then I must have not been in love.