Recently had my heart broken

[Jordan_mcd3]

Hey I'm Jordan. I'm a 16 year old going on 17 in about 3 months. I've generally been a closed off, not very outspoken guy. I've never really expressed myself to anyone in fear of being hurt and stabbed in the back. Well I recently met a girl who I thought was my soul mate. I thought everything about her was perfect, her personality, manners, intelligence, wisdom, looks, all of it. She's the first person I've ever been very open with and knows everything about me. We dated for about 3 months and while it's not very long, I felt like we could really last forever. She recently broke up with me and I feel on edge. I have a mixture of emotions and no one to talk to about it. I feel like dying, crying, and throwing up all at the same time. Having someone to talk to about this who won't judge me and listen would be amazing.

[SethfromMI]

well since you do not have 100 posts, your options of contacting people are limited. I am very sorry you are going through this man. as hurt as you are I can say it will get better and you will be able to find love again in due time. still, it is understandable you are feeling the way you are. only time will help heal that. very sorry to hear what you been thru

[Jordan_mcd3]

I appreciate it. She meant the world to me. I knew I was wrong when I did it, but I listened and believed all the promises she made me. I think I got out of something bad for me because she often pushed me away and denied my feelings but I fell so hard for her...

[SethfromMI]

I appreciate it. She meant the world to me. I knew I was wrong when I did it, but I listened and believed all the promises she made me. I think I got out of something bad for me because she often pushed me away and denied my feelings but I fell so hard for her...

it happens man. you are not the first person it has happened to. part of this is a learning experience. but don't let this stop you form being able to love or trust people

[Jordan_mcd3]

it happens man. you are not the first person it has happened to. part of this is a learning experience. but don't let this stop you form being able to love or trust people

I think I have a thing for bad relationships. Trusting is going to be so hard now. My first girlfriend cheated on me with my older brother and that was like the reason I became antisocial and closed off. I appreciate your support right now though... This kills

[Just JT]

Hmmm same here, not that I have a lot of experience in that department, but I can feel for you. You can talk about it here in this thread, and im sure you will get a pretty good responce of support from people who have more experience and stuff.
But I'd give it some time, try to keep yourself busy doing different stuff to get your mind off it. Play sports more, go for a run, or a long walk or something.
Im sure as time goes on it will get better, there are a lot of cool people in the world, yiu just need to take some time and find them

[SethfromMI]

I think I have a thing for bad relationships. Trusting is going to be so hard now. My first girlfriend cheated on me with my older brother and that was like the reason I became antisocial and closed off. I appreciate your support right now though... This kills

I know. I won't say it will be easy, but if you won't trust anyone, you have already lost. time will help heal and eventually you will find someone you love and care about. keep this in mind, most people do not find the person they are going to spend the rest of their life with at our age. I know you are hurting but time will help and you will find someone else.

[Jordan_mcd3]

Hmmm same here, not that I have a lot of experience in that department, but I can feel for you. You can talk about it here in this thread, and im sure you will get a pretty good responce of support from people who have more experience and stuff.
But I'd give it some time, try to keep yourself busy doing different stuff to get your mind off it. Play sports more, go for a run, or a long walk or something.
Im sure as time goes on it will get better, there are a lot of cool people in the world, yiu just need to take some time and find them

Thanks... I'm just not sure what to do right now...

[Jordan_mcd3]

I know. I won't say it will be easy, but if you won't trust anyone, you have already lost. time will help heal and eventually you will find someone you love and care about. keep this in mind, most people do not find the person they are going to spend the rest of their life with at our age. I know you are hurting but time will help and you will find someone else.

What should I do to cope at this point? I feel... Dead to the world lol

[Just JT]

I think I have a thing for bad relationships. Trusting is going to be so hard now. My first girlfriend cheated on me with my older brother and that was like the reason I became antisocial and closed off. I appreciate your support right now though... This kills


That's a hard thing to accept from your brother tbh....
But please look at this as not everyone is like this, it's not easy, im sure, but not everyone is like that

[Just JT]

Thanks... I'm just not sure what to do right now...

Right now? Anything but think about your X
Like I said, go out, gym, walk, movie, a run, swim, anything?

What's your most favorite thing to do in the world?
Do that, if you can't for some reason, read about it, look on line for some cool place to hike or something when you got the time

[Jordan_mcd3]

Right now? Anything but think about your X
Like I said, go out, gym, walk, movie, a run, swim, anything?

What's your most favorite thing to do in the world?
Do that, if you can't for some reason, read about it, look on line for some cool place to hike or something when you got the time

I'm currently choking back tears trying to save face in front of my family right now I guess I'll watch basketball videos... Thanks

[Jordan_mcd3]

I'm currently choking back tears trying to save face in front of my family right now I guess I'll watch basketball videos... Thanks

I'm in the car on a drive home from LA

[StoppingTom]

It's tough dude, I've been there and I know just how you feel. In time, you'll feel better, especially if you get help if you feel that you need it. I'm a shut-in as well, but I found that just going out and doing stuff made the process go faster.

[Jordan_mcd3]

It's tough dude, I've been there and I know just how you feel. In time, you'll feel better, especially if you get help if you feel that you need it. I'm a shut-in as well, but I found that just going out and doing stuff made the process go faster.

Thanks for the advice. I appreciate the support it was definitely something I had to get off my chest. Would it be wise to ask her why she broke up with me?

[StoppingTom]

Thanks for the advice. I appreciate the support it was definitely something I had to get off my chest. Would it be wise to ask her why she broke up with me?

In my opinion, I think it'll just make things worse. Obviously, you're feeling low about this, and I just feel like it would be in your best interest to just ignore her, move on, and just focus on moving on.

[Uniquemind]

Thanks for the advice. I appreciate the support it was definitely something I had to get off my chest. Would it be wise to ask her why she broke up with me?

Make up a reason in your head to explain why she broke up with you.

Ex: she was into drugs, and she broke up with you.


Tbh it could be any number of things, and as long as she didn't find you abusive to her, her reason for breaking up for you isn't your concern.

You're primary concern is to deal with your own emotional hurt.


Im getting the sense the breakup occurred recently.

Average time for emotional healing after a breakup is 6 months before you begin to emotionally stabilize and feel normal again.

Stay busy, work hard and be personally discipline so you don't have other areas of life fall apart (academic grades, physical health, social life).

Different guy friends of mine cope different ways.


One intensely games after a breakup, one increases physical workouts at swimming or jogging, another relies on friends with benefits/casual sex.

This is a time to find your go to coping mechanism, but the one thing you cannot do is let this eat away at your core of positivity about the world.

Don't let it doom you into thinking failure today dictates failure tomorrow. That's a lie and illusion too. Success could be right around the corner as well.

[SethfromMI]

What should I do to cope at this point? I feel... Dead to the world lol

well try to find things to take your mind off her. hang out with friends, work out, read, watch movies, tv, sports, whatever. it is not going to be easy and for awhile, she will be on your mind. maybe, if you are ready, consider dating someone else. that could def help