Would You Ever Let Your Parents See You Naked?

[CupcakeLuv101]

So I have this problem which is that my mom always walks into my room when I'm changing. I would have my door closed and she just budges in without knocking or anything. And I don't have a lock on my door so I can't lock it. I tried changing in the bathroom with the door locked but then she would yell at me from outside that I can't lock the door "because she needs to come in" like can't she wait her turn?? Whenever I'm changing and she walks in I always tell her "mom I'm changing why are you coming in" and she yells at me saying its "no big deal" because we're both girls but either way I still don't like it. Even when I'm using the bathroom she may come in at random points and again, I'm not allowed to lock the door when I use the bathroom.

Does anyone here have a similar situation and how would you feel if your parents see you naked?

[Riley2015]

She needs to respect your privacy. What you say sounds like she has a total disregard for your feelings.

To answer your question my mum has seen me naked. I found it embarrassing but she didn't seem to mind. She was like 'i saw you naked when you were a baby!' :whoops:

[Desuetude]

I don't have that problem seeing as my family are very, I don't know the world, private? We don't do the walking around nude thing and my parents never come in when they knock and I say I'm changing. When I was about 8 my mum told me not to 'show myself when I wasn't wearing clothes' to any male member of my family or anything.

Just sit her down and tell her that whilst you understand that she doesn't mind seeing you undressed because 'you're both girls', you're not comfortable with it and you'd rather she respected your wishes of leaving you to change alone. Don't scream it at her but just try to drum it into her head that it makes you feel uncomfortable and you'd like some privacy. I mean, my parents have seen me naked accidently when they walked in without knocking once or twice and I scream at them and they quickly shut the door and it's never spoken of again. If they were like your mum I'd probably just try to ask them to stop barging in and say I wanted some privacy, especially in the bathroom, you definitely should be able to lock the door when you're in the loo. Ask her why she thinks you should keep it unlocked?

[CupcakeLuv101]

I don't have that problem seeing as my family are very, I don't know the world, private? We don't do the walking around nude thing and my parents never come in when they knock and I say I'm changing. When I was about 8 my mum told me not to 'show myself when I wasn't wearing clothes' to any male member of my family or anything.

Just sit her down and tell her that whilst you understand that she doesn't mind seeing you undressed because 'you're both girls', you're not comfortable with it and you'd rather she respected your wishes of leaving you to change alone. Don't scream it at her but just try to drum it into her head that it makes you feel uncomfortable and you'd like some privacy. I mean, my parents have seen me naked accidently when they walked in without knocking once or twice and I scream at them and they quickly shut the door and it's never spoken of again. If they were like your mum I'd probably just try to ask them to stop barging in and say I wanted some privacy, especially in the bathroom, you definitely should be able to lock the door when you're in the loo. Ask her why she thinks you should keep it unlocked?

She wants me to keep it unlocked because "she needs to come in" to either get something or use the bathroom even when I'm using it

[Riley2015]

She wants me to keep it unlocked because "she needs to come in" to either get something or use the bathroom even when I'm using it

The polite thing would be to wait her turn. You are entitled to privacy.

She certainly shouldn't be entering your bedroom without knocking either.

[lliam]

It's up to you to bring up your mom.^^ She has to learn to respect your privacy.
But for that you probably must be willing to argue with her all time ... maybe up to the limits of endurance. That mostly means war with the parents.

At least that was the situation at moms. Though it wasn't just about seeing me naked.That's no prob to me. But it depended generally about that my mom imagined, she could rule my life. That's why I fought with her. And I was willing to endure the "war". And eventually this strategy payed off.

I don't know whether this strategy is really advisable for everyone. Probably not. Just for people who really can withstand the back pressure of parents.

But it's a very consistent way.

[SethfromMI]

try talking to your mom

and to answer your question, I would not just walk around nude, but my dad has been in the locker room at a gym with me before and stuff. obviously my mom saw me when I was younger. it would not be the end of the world but it is not like I am going to put on a show for them

[handle with care]

I mean personally i don't look at the body that way but in the event someone does they should be respected all i can say is talk to your mom or the next time this happens make sure its as awkward for her as it is for you.

[Body odah Man]

She needs to respect your privacy. What you say sounds like she has a total disregard for your feelings.

To answer your question my mum has seen me naked. I found it embarrassing but she didn't seem to mind. She was like 'i saw you naked when you were a baby!' :whoops:

Ugh, I HATE that excuse. Pisses me off every time I hear it cuz:
a. it's stupid
b. makes no sense
c. doesn't have ANYTHING to do with the present situation.

So I have this problem which is that my mom always walks into my room when I'm changing. I would have my door closed and she just budges in without knocking or anything. And I don't have a lock on my door so I can't lock it. I tried changing in the bathroom with the door locked but then she would yell at me from outside that I can't lock the door "because she needs to come in" like can't she wait her turn?? Whenever I'm changing and she walks in I always tell her "mom I'm changing why are you coming in" and she yells at me saying its "no big deal" because we're both girls but either way I still don't like it. Even when I'm using the bathroom she may come in at random points and again, I'm not allowed to lock the door when I use the bathroom.

Does anyone here have a similar situation and how would you feel if your parents see you naked?

My parents haven't seen me naked since I got to take my own baths. Tell them you want privacy. Cuz you do. You deserve privacy too. GL

[lkc413]

Everyone in my house respects each others privacy, so I have to say I don't know the feeling. But I, like you, am very uncomfortable with either of my parents seeing me in the nude. So, if I was you, I would have a serious talk with your mother and tell her exactly how it makes you feel. Afterwards, she should respect that and all should be good. She probably thinks you are just messing with her or are in a phase. I know several people who are completely fine with their parents seeing them naked so it's neither common nor uncommon.

[AutumnWinds]

that sounds awful! your mom really needs to learn about boundaries!

So I have this problem which is that my mom always walks into my room when I'm changing. I would have my door closed and she just budges in without knocking or anything. And I don't have a lock on my door so I can't lock it. I tried changing in the bathroom with the door locked but then she would yell at me from outside that I can't lock the door "because she needs to come in" like can't she wait her turn?? Whenever I'm changing and she walks in I always tell her "mom I'm changing why are you coming in" and she yells at me saying its "no big deal" because we're both girls but either way I still don't like it. Even when I'm using the bathroom she may come in at random points and again, I'm not allowed to lock the door when I use the bathroom.

Does anyone here have a similar situation and how would you feel if your parents see you naked?

[Legoboy]

So busting in on you like that all the time is not right in my opinion My dad would be the same and it was part of abuse. not saying thats why your mum does it but its something to think about. I think he was just keeping me scared of where he was and making it feel like I couldn't do anything he didn't like without him knowing. So I it sounds like she's maybe either just not getting your views or maybe she's doing it on purpose?

Not allowing you privacy is a big issue and its something that I've heard about in foster care situations. Like depending on where you live it is common for it to be required that you actually have a door on your bedroom (for example) so you can actually have privacy. So unless she has a real good reason for not respecting your privacy your mum would actually get in trouble in that situation I think.

On the second part the naked thing, I was brought up really uptight about that stuff, and now I'm with a family who are the other end of it and thats been a big change for me. Its not a problem or at least I don't want it to be a problem because I believe that its healthier not to be too uptight about it but that only counts when it is your actual choice to be naked with others and she's taking that choice away from you, which again seems mean to me.

[Just JT]

So busting in on you like that all the time is not right in my opinion My dad would be the same and it was part of abuse. not saying thats why your mum does it but its something to think about. I think he was just keeping me scared of where he was and making it feel like I couldn't do anything he didn't like without him knowing. So I it sounds like she's maybe either just not getting your views or maybe she's doing it on purpose?

Not allowing you privacy is a big issue and its something that I've heard about in foster care situations. Like depending on where you live it is common for it to be required that you actually have a door on your bedroom (for example) so you can actually have privacy. So unless she has a real good reason for not respecting your privacy your mum would actually get in trouble in that situation I think.

On the second part the naked thing, I was brought up really uptight about that stuff, and now I'm with a family who are the other end of it and thats been a big change for me. Its not a problem or at least I don't want it to be a problem because I believe that its healthier not to be too uptight about it but that only counts when it is your actual choice to be naked with others and she's taking that choice away from you, which again seems mean to me.

I agree with you about having privacy in your home, and being more relaxed are both good. Here where I live, my foster parents could get into a lot of trouble for seeing me naked, even by accident. They are considered to be responsible enough to take proper precautions to prevent that from happening, and if it does, they are negligent, possibly considered abusive themselves.

This actually happened to me recently, and became a bit of an issue where I live. We all learned a lot, came to grips about it, got passed it. But that starts with being able to openly talk about it.

If OP isn't having good results by talking with your parents, you may want to talk to someone outside the family about this. It may not be vary comfortable for everyone to talk about, but I. Pretty sure you will get different results than what you have been getting

[BlackParadePixie]

My parents have seen me naked, it's not a big deal.

[Just JT]

My parents have seen me naked, it's not a big deal.

And that's cool, but I guess what the OP is talking about is not ok with it, and her moms not listening to her about not liking it....

[CuteGuy889]

If I fall asleep dressed my mom takes my pants off leaving me in my undies ...occassionallly if they are dirty she takes them off too..& cover me with my sheet. I don't mind...Plus she is a doctor...

[caseyislame]

Nudity is common in our house

[pjones]

So I have this problem which is that my mom always walks into my room when I'm changing. I would have my door closed and she just budges in without knocking or anything. And I don't have a lock on my door so I can't lock it. I tried changing in the bathroom with the door locked but then she would yell at me from outside that I can't lock the door "because she needs to come in" like can't she wait her turn?? Whenever I'm changing and she walks in I always tell her "mom I'm changing why are you coming in" and she yells at me saying its "no big deal" because we're both girls but either way I still don't like it. Even when I'm using the bathroom she may come in at random points and again, I'm not allowed to lock the door when I use the bathroom.

Does anyone here have a similar situation and how would you feel if your parents see you naked?

if this happens every day then you need to talk with her about privacy. i'm sure she has expectations of privacy for herself, so you should be able to reach an agreement on what is acceptable. maybe she's not accepting the fact that you're growing up, i don't know. sometimes no locks are due to trust issues. no matter what, gotta start by talking reasonably.

[Phoenix718]

No, I would never let my parents see me naked. I know of some kids who are very open with their parents and act like it's no big deal.

[Andre 99]

I am often naked in my room, and my parents rarely ever come to my room. If they do, they knock, as they do on my sister's door too.
The only problem I have is my sister doesn't always knock, and has sometimes come into our shared bathroom while I'm on the tilet or washing.

[Rickmckay111]

my sister (she's 15) sometimes sees me naked coz we sometimes share a hotel room but like its no big deal for me coz she doesn't really look and I don't want to look at her either.

but wouldn't want my parents to see - they probs saw me naked till i was like 10 tho.

[Zachary G]

She has a total disregard for your privacy and I think you should call her on it. You arent the same little girl anymore and you are due some of your own space and privacy as you get older and you should tell her that its just unaccpetable. My mom has seen me naked many times and its no big deal in my house.

[CupcakeLuv101]

Hey guys sorry for extremely late reply but I finally got the courage to talk to my mom about it after I read all your replies. And it didn't really help if actually kinda made things worse ...

So she was basically getting all mad at me even though I was asking her politely so she said things like she OWNS this house she LIVES here she's the one who bought this house and how we're all a family and how she has the right to barge into any room at any given time even WITHOUT KNOCKING she also said things like she's seen me before a billion times when I was younger and I've seen her a lot too (cuz she isn't afraid to change in front of me) and she said it's no excuse for me wanting privacy. She also said that I'm still a kid (I'm 15) and she's an adult and that kids shouldn't be telling adults what to do its the other way around. She literally said to me "you can't tell me what to do" and I'm not the boss of her and that I should wait until I move out to have the right of privacy. I'm just so lost I don't know what to do now.

[Cadanance00]

I think the OP's mom has an issue going about seeing her daughter naked and the OP's picking up on it and it makes her uncomfortable.

My family's very open especially my mom. My sister less so but she's 12 and that's normal. But we respect each other's privacy if the person asks for it. Like when sis is drying off after a shower she doesn't want guys in the bathroom, naturally. My mom is just oblivious, she doesn't seem to mind whether she has clothes on or not around family.

[pjones]

Hey guys sorry for extremely late reply but I finally got the courage to talk to my mom about it after I read all your replies. And it didn't really help if actually kinda made things worse ...

So she was basically getting all mad at me even though I was asking her politely so she said things like she OWNS this house she LIVES here she's the one who bought this house and how we're all a family and how she has the right to barge into any room at any given time even WITHOUT KNOCKING she also said things like she's seen me before a billion times when I was younger and I've seen her a lot too (cuz she isn't afraid to change in front of me) and she said it's no excuse for me wanting privacy. She also said that I'm still a kid (I'm 15) and she's an adult and that kids shouldn't be telling adults what to do its the other way around. She literally said to me "you can't tell me what to do" and I'm not the boss of her and that I should wait until I move out to have the right of privacy. I'm just so lost I don't know what to do now.

sounds like she won't change her actions so not sure if there is anything you can really do, which sucks for you.

[Legoboy]

Mace the woman and tell her you thought she was a burlgar.

Ok I know its not funny for you but maybe you can prank her enough times she'll stop. Turn it into a humourous thing and you know she comes in and you are dressed up in a gorilla suit and growl at her. Seems to me she's being absurd so just be absurd back.

[Cadanance00]

I'm sorry you're not able to communicate with her. I still think what she's doing is not right and she should respect your privacy when you want it.

I don't think you're going to be able to deal constructively with her on this subject. I hope she's more open to dialogue on other things. Hang in there and try to make the best of a not-the-best situation. We're here if you need a shoulder to lean on.