I fell for a fuckboi

[xXoblivionXx]

at the end of last year I fell for a fuckboi, and we ended up doing stuff. I've never kissed a guy before so he taught me how and we practiced. and then that led to other stuff.. not sex but you get the idea. then he started flirting with some other chick we weren't dating so technically what he did was ok. but still and ever since then I can't quite get him off my him, we barely talk anymore. but I'm realizing more and more that he really is just a fuckboi and i was stupid enough to think that i meant something more to him. how do i get "over" him... over someone i never really had... over someone who i know wasn't worth it? :(

[ImagineRepublicCity]

It's pretty fucking hard to get over someone, even if you fucking hate them now, you still can't stop thinking about them.

The best way is to remove any kind of social interaction with him as you can, whether it is removing him from facebook or not sitting with him or whatever, and also, liking someone else. If you get to know someone and start to like them, that is one of the easiest ways to forget someone, just like how people have 'rebounds.' Even if you never dated the person, it still works the same way.

I wish you well~ :3

[Zachary G]

Sometimes it happens, we fall for someone we know is not emotionally available to us and then we find ourselves suffering because we cant seem to get over them. The best way to get past it, at least for me, is to accept the fact that hes just not worth it and you can do better, then just dont let yourself get caught up again so easily.

[Uniquemind]

I hope it's not against the rules to suggest this but....

Masturbate a ton and help your mind realize and divorce the concept of love and sexual acts.


Sex acts with partners can emotionally cause us to bond to partners, especially if there was a lot of fireworks with them in bed.

Creating those same fireworks without them present can help you wean away from them, and objectify them, to the point where you can then emotionally leave them over time like you would any other object.

Get a sex toy or two if you need it to accomplish this task.

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Now there's a whole other piece of advice socially and that is to hang out with your fellow female friends for social support.

Go shopping, study together, catch a movie, go cook/bake/play sports/ arts and crafts/ etc. to get your mind off the guy.

Also take lesson on how participating in sex affects you with future partners and begin to establish your boundaries onwards in life.

[AutumnWinds]

at the end of last year I fell for a fuckboi, and we ended up doing stuff. I've never kissed a guy before so he taught me how and we practiced. and then that led to other stuff.. not sex but you get the idea. then he started flirting with some other chick we weren't dating so technically what he did was ok. but still and ever since then I can't quite get him off my him, we barely talk anymore. but I'm realizing more and more that he really is just a fuckboi and i was stupid enough to think that i meant something more to him. how do i get "over" him... over someone i never really had... over someone who i know wasn't worth it? :(

i don't really have any advice for you, but i wanted to just express my condolences and support for your situation. it's a difficult place to be in, hunnii. :(

I hope it's not against the rules to suggest this but....

Masturbate a ton and help your mind realize and divorce the concept of love and sexual acts.


Sex acts with partners can emotionally cause us to bond to partners, especially if there was a lot of fireworks with them in bed.

Creating those same fireworks without them present can help you wean away from them, and objectify them, to the point where you can then emotionally leave them over time like you would any other object.

Get a sex toy or two if you need it to accomplish this task.

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Now there's a whole other piece of advice socially and that is to hang out with your fellow female friends for social support.

Go shopping, study together, catch a movie, go cook/bake/play sports/ arts and crafts/ etc. to get your mind off the guy.

Also take lesson on how participating in sex affects you with future partners and begin to establish your boundaries onwards in life.

the social advice makes sense to me. probably very good advice, truth be told.

i'm curious about your advice to masturbate, though. i mean no disrespect, but i am genuinely curious if you have ever tried this method, or if it;s purely experimental. i feel like it would have the opposite effect, but this is based on 0 evidence.

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[Anomaly]

Just go out and start talking to other people, before you know it you'll find somebody more interesting and you'll forget all about him.. Definitely move on, you seem really sweet and he's not worth your time!

[bruzer]

I hope it's not against the rules to suggest this but....

Masturbate a ton and help your mind realize and divorce the concept of love and sexual acts.


Sex acts with partners can emotionally cause us to bond to partners, especially if there was a lot of fireworks with them in bed.

Creating those same fireworks without them present can help you wean away from them, and objectify them, to the point where you can then emotionally leave them over time like you would any other object.

Get a sex toy or two if you need it to accomplish this task.

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Now there's a whole other piece of advice socially and that is to hang out with your fellow female friends for social support.

Go shopping, study together, catch a movie, go cook/bake/play sports/ arts and crafts/ etc. to get your mind off the guy.

Also take lesson on how participating in sex affects you with future partners and begin to establish your boundaries onwards in life.
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You truly have a unique-mind

Double post merged. Use the edit option next time. - Abhorrence.

[SethfromMI]

I am sorry that happened to you. got to be careful who you dare and establish boundaries and expectations. when I was single and just kind of playing the field, if I was going to be with someone I hadn't before, we always established what we wanted out of it. sometimes something did not go very far because we wanted different things. hopefully you can get someone who loves you and is on the same page with you soon

[Uniquemind]

I am sorry that happened to you. got to be careful who you dare and establish boundaries and expectations. when I was single and just kind of playing the field, if I was going to be with someone I hadn't before, we always established what we wanted out of it. sometimes something did not go very far because we wanted different things. hopefully you can get someone who loves you and is on the same page with you soon

That's a smart conversation to have. From what I've both witnessed and in my early experience, this conversation isn't one those dipping their toes into the pond of romance, even know to have.



You truly have a unique-mind

I do.

But I'm also not wrong here, science studies on the brain show that during sex neurotransmitters create emotions that support bonds.

It makes sense that there needs to be some sort of therapy, to address breakups with whom there was a strong physical-emotional bond.


Society accepts conversations about social support, but nobody (or should I say 'few') address (unless you have close friends) the sexual physical side of things, especially if breakups are sudden.

You guys ever wonder why sometimes people keep toxic relationships around or downgrade a BF/GF into a "casual sex" relationship...it's because of the addiction to the physical side of things...

I mean seriously is what I'm saying so shocking? I don't think so when you really take the time to analyze everything, I just state things bluntly and approach topics from skew angles.

[SethfromMI]

That's a smart conversation to have. From what I've both witnessed and in my early experience, this conversation isn't one those dipping their toes into the pond of romance, even know to have.



Well most people don't think about it, which ends up causing the problems it does. it seems weird to have a convo about what you will do and won't do, but honestly, it has saved me a lot of trouble