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JackBancroft
September 20th, 2015, 01:34 AM
I have kind of a complicated situation and I'm looking for some advice from someone who is not involved in anyway.
I like this girl in my english class. We are both sophomores in high school. I have noticed her making eye contact with me across the room recently. So I got her number so we could get the work from class from each other , it was the easiest way to get her number and it was effective. I think she likes me too, because of the eye contact, and she laughs at all my jokes, which is a telltale sign I know. I got one of my friends in the class to confirm that she looks at me and that she does laugh at my jokes. We text about everything probably 4 days out of the week. Most of the time I will start the conversation but sometimes she will too. I read someone that if she sends me stuff without me asking, like she's trying to help me she might be into me. She did that once so I took it as a sign. Sometimes she ignores me in person, but we also work in the same group for group work and she talks about one of my friends to me sometimes. That's where it gets complicated because last year they sort of have a thing for each other but now they don't, I think. My friend thinks they might have something again now, but I'm not sure.

I guess my questions are this,
1) would she talk about him to try and make me jealous?
2) should I take the eye contact and such as a sign?
3) let me know what you think, and depending on it how should I approach it to not make it weird for anyone?

Last do you think she might like me? If you need me to explains anything in lore detail I could do i for you. Thanks so much to whoever answers with advice.

Uniquemind
September 21st, 2015, 12:38 AM
It's possible.
It sounds like she's dropped some hints, but she's waiting to see if you're gonna make a move or if she should return to her ex.

She seems to want to play it socially safe.

In this situation it's best to confront her about it, and make it clear you're free on a certain date to "hang out" outside of school and outside of prying eyes.

From there gauge her reaction and plan your next move based on what you want and what she wants.

Expect jealous butthurt vibes from your guy friend toward you.


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You also need to decide if you want to play the social leverage game of jealousy or if you want to flat out call her bluff and state directly to her face that you don't play social manipulative games like that because you don't like the drama it brings among friends.

If she admits that there's a love triangle between you three, work with her to address the issue.

JackBancroft
September 21st, 2015, 09:58 PM
Thanks, I'll try it and see what happens

JackBancroft
September 21st, 2015, 10:01 PM
It's possible.
It sounds like she's dropped some hints, but she's waiting to see if you're gonna make a move or if she should return to her ex.

She seems to want to play it socially safe.

In this situation it's best to confront her about it, and make it clear you're free on a certain date to "hang out" outside of school and outside of prying eyes.

From there gauge her reaction and plan your next move based on what you want and what she wants.

Expect jealous butthurt vibes from your guy friend toward you.





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You also need to decide if you want to play the social leverage game of jealousy or if you want to flat out call her bluff and state directly to her face that you don't play social manipulative games like that because you don't like the drama it brings among friends.

If she admits that there's a love triangle between you three, work with her to address the issue.

---how would the best option of confronting her go? What should I saw etc, like make a joke about two being togheter or just be blunt and stright forward?

Uniquemind
September 21st, 2015, 10:15 PM
---how would the best option of confronting her go? What should I saw etc, like make a joke about two being togheter or just be blunt and stright forward?

Blunt and straight forward, but in a way that doesn't sound like you're accusing her or shaming her.

So if you're alone with her, ask her "Hey (their name), so what's going on exactly with you and (your male friend; her ex), are you still together or..."

Gauge her response's tone. If she seems offended end your inquiries there, if she engages a conversation further, slowly work in asking for her email or number and when she's free to "hang out".

She's not dumb, she'll know that you signaled some interest.

But you gotta stop letting your nerves eat at you, I can't do this for you, ultimately you need to be the one socially engaging her...nobody here can advise you on that.

Jump for it, and then you'll have an answer.

JackBancroft
September 21st, 2015, 10:47 PM
Blunt and straight forward, but in a way that doesn't sound like you're accusing her or shaming her.

So if you're alone with her, ask her "Hey (their name), so what's going on exactly with you and (your male friend; her ex), are you still together or..."

Gauge her response's tone. If she seems offended end your inquiries there, if she engages a conversation further, slowly work in asking for her email or number and when she's free to "hang out".

She's not dumb, she'll know that you signaled some interest.

But you gotta stop letting your nerves eat at you, I can't do this for you, ultimately you need to be the one socially engaging her...nobody here can advise you on that.

Jump for it, and then you'll have an answer.

---thanks man it really means a lot. I'll go for it, and let you know what happens.

Emerald Dream
September 21st, 2015, 11:35 PM
The OP is banned. :locked: