Reactions of a guy to knowing a girl likes them

[ZzeWatermelon]

Hey,

So I have a crush on this guy in my class, and I have tried to be as discrete as possible, but I tend to stare too much I guess (he's so damn perfect!) and I guess he realized.
And I feel like now he's flirting with all girls around me, that are close to me, and he knows I'll see he does. So in a way he's trying to me jealous I think...
So why does he do that? Is he proving he has no interest in me? Or in contrary saying that he is interested at least a bit back.

Thanks

[dxcxdzv]

Guys are dumbs.
The only way to find out is to speak with him, not directly, but in appropriate conditions.

[ZzeWatermelon]

You have no idea what he might be doing? I don't wanna mess anything up by speaking to him about it.

[Uniquemind]

Hmm I think he's trying to enter your inner circle of friends to attempt to make a more natural social connection to you.

But it's hard to read because he could also just be a massive flirt trying to pick anybody up.

The best thing is to pull him aside privately when he's nearby and suggest a time to hang out.

[ZzeWatermelon]

I know him only for two weeks, but I realized he is not a massive flirt... and he's generally really outgoing around his mates but with girls he appears to be more shy than with his buddies, but I completely understand.
I don't know him well enough yet, and last year I liked a guy, I pulled him aside privately and he didn't accept to hang out, and it was quite... disappointing so for now I'm not gonna do that, maybe later, in 2 months or 3, when I get to know him better.

What do you mean by making a more natural social connection to me? That means he's actually interested into me liking him? Then I'm not sure he knows but he's a smart guy, and I stare too much, so I guess he picked it up...

[Uniquemind]

I know him only for two weeks, but I realized he is not a massive flirt... and he's generally really outgoing around his mates but with girls he appears to be more shy than with his buddies, but I completely understand.
I don't know him well enough yet, and last year I liked a guy, I pulled him aside privately and he didn't accept to hang out, and it was quite... disappointing so for now I'm not gonna do that, maybe later, in 2 months or 3, when I get to know him better.

What do you mean by making a more natural social connection to me? That means he's actually interested into me liking him? Then I'm not sure he knows but he's a smart guy, and I stare too much, so I guess he picked it up...

It's possible he picked it up.

Some guys who are smooth, befriend a group of girls or get friendly with them to see who is receptive to their advances, with least chance of rejection.

Girls hang in groups and that is very intimidating for most guys, those bold enough socialize with everybody, and it's up to the individual girl at that point to drop hints that she's interested in a guy.

Sometimes this causes tension if 2 or more girls within the same social group have an interest in the same guy though.

So be warned and move steady and consistently in being fun, flirty, and relaxed around him.

If he's interested and you're dropping hints and opportunities for him to ask you out, it'll happen unless he's insanely shy.

[ZzeWatermelon]

Okay, so he's receptive for now?

[Uniquemind]

Okay, so he's receptive for now?

The only one who can test that is you.

If a guy likes you, all a girls needs to do is warmly extend a social invitation.

Guys tend to be obvious if they like you based on the fact that they will glance at you a lot and if they are close to you will tend to want to be near you or hang with you.

If they're really bold they might attempt to hand hold or even physically play jokes with you. (Surprise tickling of the sides, pranks, randomly picking you up)...

It's not a sure thing but you've got to test the situation a bit more.


Be warned it's just as likely he is interested in another girl in your social circle, and not you.

[ZzeWatermelon]

He glances at me really often, and yes, last year he liked a girl from my social circle, told her but she didn't reciprocate...

[Uniquemind]

He glances at me really often, and yes, last year he liked a girl from my social circle, told her but she didn't reciprocate...

Ask him if he's free to hang out for a movie.

[ZzeWatermelon]

I liked this other guy last year, and I asked him, and he said no and it wasn't pleasant at all...
I don't wanna restart that XDD

[Uniquemind]

I liked this other guy last year, and I asked him, and he said no and it wasn't pleasant at all...
I don't wanna restart that XDD


That's a different person, each situation with a different person needs to be treated/judged without bearing from the previous attempt with another person.


Rejection happens more often than acceptance, that's something you need to steel your nerves for.

But know that at the end of the day, you're alive, and as long as you are alive you are a force to be reckoned with.

Take chances, and feel blessed to be rejected.

I used to suffer from nerves in similar situations, and there came a time where I just stopped caring if the answer was yes or no, because there are other things I'm living life for other than just romance....the question becomes do they want to be a part of my life....or do they want to take a pass?

You need to have that kind of confidence or at least begin to build it up. It doesn't happen overnight.



Like I said before though, drop strong hints, and make yourself approachable to him, especially if he seems interested but is shy. Perhaps you can avoid asking him directly to hang out one-on-one, or if he's already in your social circle, try to get a group-date going....and when people begin to pair off, make a move.

[ZzeWatermelon]

He complimented my glasses today, not me but my glasses, I feel weird now XDDD

[Uniquemind]

He complimented my glasses today, not me but my glasses, I feel weird now XDDD

If he complimented your glasses, he complimented you.

He's attempting to get closer I think. You should compliment him back and show that you are receptive to his friendliness.

Say he has nice hair or something...

[ZzeWatermelon]

Yeah but at the same time he flirts with this girl I sit next to in class, and whenever I am sitting next to her, he comes around, he pulls her hair, plays with her hair, etc.
And whenever I talk to any girlfriend, he comes over and starts flirting with the girl. Aaaaargh. So annoying. But I laugh, and show no discomfort. Is this some kind of tactic? I guess it is...

[Uniquemind]

It sounds like a tactic....he could just be a massive flirt too.

[StoppingTom]

Most guys are huge idiots and have no idea how to properly handle this kind of thing. You could either keep up this flirting thing and hope he eventually says something, or you could say something to him now.

[SillyShyGuy]

He is testing you. If you are jealous then you in fact like him. It also means you should not be discrete. Tell him how you feel before he starts to date one of those other girls. Ask him to hang out and after you will have a lot of butterflies, but it is best to be honest.

[ZzeWatermelon]

I don't wanna mess anything up by asking. I have enough confidence actually but... at the same time I don't. So it sounds like a tactic to see if I'm interested? That would mean he's interested too?

[lkc413]

Yeah, I would say he probably does like you, however, guys never really know what your thinking so sometimes you just have to tell us. So to save some time and future heartache, you may just want to, as others have suggested, talk to him directly about it. I know I would appreciate that if it was me.

[ZzeWatermelon]

Like ask him to hang out or something? Or directly say I like him - cause that's a lot to say... Hanging out should be fine. Or like a group hang out? With a few other people?

[lkc413]

Like ask him to hang out or something? Or directly say I like him - cause that's a lot to say... Hanging out should be fine. Or like a group hang out? With a few other people?

I would just tell him that you like him and ask if he wants to hang out sometime.

But don't be really creepy about it, lol. Just say something like, "hey, idk if you've noticed, but I think you're really cute and I'd like to get to know you better. Would you want to hang out sometime?"

Remember, guys love it when you compliment their looks. Also, guys like to feel in control, so it's important you don't directly ask him on a date, that can be a turn off. I would try to have some of your friends plan to hang out sometime at the mall or something, and ask if he wants to come along. Or you could always ask him if he wants to study with you at the local coffee house. These kind of things are low-key enough for you to hang out and form a unique relationship without you coming off as overbearing and while keeping him feeling like he is still the man, lol.

The most important tip though is whatever you decide to do, be yourself! Guy like it when they know you are trying to show off, but hate it when you are not authentic. So don't try and mimic someone else.

Best wishes!

[ZzeWatermelon]

Omg that's creeping me out, so even if he doesn't accept or if he says he doesn't like me back, he'll still be flattered?

[lkc413]

Weirdly enough, yes. Guys are very competitive and therefore, any compliment makes them feel like they have a leg up on the other guy. Plus, think about it, would you not be flattered if a guy complimented your looks even if you didn't like him? Everyone loves complimentsXD

[ZzeWatermelon]

True, but I've thought about it and I'm not going to do it. If it's meant to happen, it'll happen spontaneously.

[hesaidhesaid]

Hey,

So I have a crush on this guy in my class, and I have tried to be as discrete as possible, but I tend to stare too much I guess (he's so damn perfect!) and I guess he realized.
And I feel like now he's flirting with all girls around me, that are close to me, and he knows I'll see he does. So in a way he's trying to me jealous I think...
So why does he do that? Is he proving he has no interest in me? Or in contrary saying that he is interested at least a bit back.

Thanks

He is just testing you, or even moreso, he just wants to see whether you'll be jealous. You have to open a line of communication.
Just be honest- you can't lose!

All the best :)

[ZzeWatermelon]

So he likes me?
Actually he has a band, and I might be joining his band soon, so that would make us closer. :)

[Uniquemind]

So he likes me?
Actually he has a band, and I might be joining his band soon, so that would make us closer. :)

I strongly suggest you don't play "I'm gonna make ___ jealous by doing/dating ___".

If you like him tell him.

I have a friend who was in a similar situation, but she was randomly lip locked by the boy in the middle of the school library and that's how they broke the ice.
They went out for 3 years.

Mike's slogan works here: "just do it".

[ZzeWatermelon]

But if I do the jealous by doing/dating, he will loose interest. And I'm not interested in anyone else he sees me with all the time, so no person to make him jealous with.

[Uniquemind]

But if I do the jealous by doing/dating, he will loose interest. And I'm not interested in anyone else he sees me with all the time, so no person to make him jealous with.

No no you have it right.

My post above this one had a HUGE typo.

The word "don't" got omitted.


Repeat don't play the jealousy game, just be honest and ask him out after band practice.

[ZzeWatermelon]

Oh okay, sorry I didn't read it correctly. Thanks for your help :)
And actually I told our common friend, that we will call X, that I like the guy.
So X said he wants to talk to me about my crush, and I guess it's something important? Unfortunately we didn't have time to talk about that, but on Monday he'll tell me. What could it possibly be? My theory is that he asked my crush if he liked me, and the crush replied something, that my friend wants to tell me about.
Have you been in any similar situation? Any idea what it could be about?

[Person123the]

He is testing you. If you are jealous then you in fact like him. It also means you should not be discrete. Tell him how you feel before he starts to date one of those other girls. Ask him to hang out and after you will have a lot of butterflies, but it is best to be honest.

I agree, I think he likes you and he is trying to test you and see if you'll react to his advances on that circle of friends. Like everyone else here is saying, I think that you should talk to him, try to hang out with him more often, and eventually casually ask him how he feels towards you (<-- don't do them all at once, it takes time, but I'm just listing a few things you should do)

[ZzeWatermelon]

So a friend asked him who he's attracted to in the class, and he stated another girl... so I guess he's not attracted to me, it sucks. :/

[ZzeWatermelon]

But I stay hopeful, and I still believe I have chances, and his close friend thinks so too x)

[ZzeWatermelon]

He keeps on staring at me, and continues even when I notice he does. But he's into tha other girl... I don't get this, damn.

[SethfromMI]

Hey,

So I have a crush on this guy in my class, and I have tried to be as discrete as possible, but I tend to stare too much I guess (he's so damn perfect!) and I guess he realized.
And I feel like now he's flirting with all girls around me, that are close to me, and he knows I'll see he does. So in a way he's trying to me jealous I think...
So why does he do that? Is he proving he has no interest in me? Or in contrary saying that he is interested at least a bit back.

Thanks

lol it would be easier to talk and just be direct. most guys prefer it. we don't like the guessing game when it comes to this stuff. does he have interest in you? I don't know. trust me, much easier to just ask

[ZzeWatermelon]

True

[ZzeWatermelon]

So outside of talking it out with him, are there any other important tips? And also I'm in his band now, as a musician, and that's a really great opportunity to spend time with him and get closer.
So any other important details?
Sorry for bringing up the topic like two weeks after XD

[Uniquemind]

Ask him first THEN based on those answers advice can be given.


I think we're waiting on you, in order to provide better advice.