Age Difference Issue

[*Dissident*]

Ok, here is the deal. I am 16 years old and a junior in highschool, my birthday is in the end of october. Last night my school held a Middle School lock-in where all the middle schoolers got to party in the gym and the highschoolers get to help out. There is one girl, in 8th grade, who i have gotten to know pretty well and we were pretty good friends. Last night, during The Grudge, I started physical-flirting (pushing and stuff in a playful way) by kicking her lightly (we were laying down next to each other) and she would kick me back, and i would kick her back, and she would kick me back, etc. Well at one point i hit her with my hand and she hit me with hers, and I hit her again, and so on, and then eventually i just took her hand instead of hitting her.

Later (hours later) when we were all settling down to bed, we started to kiss and hold one another, etc.

My question is, is there to much of an age difference? She is 2 years younger and 3 grades lower than I am...

My general concern is other people gossiping about us, which makes me extremely uncomfortable, and rushing into relationship that I am physically and emotionally ready for, but she might not be.

[iJack]

I dont thing age difference is too much of a problem, and if people harass you, ther are shallow, i'd take it cautiously, if she shows signs of resistance, stop or slow down

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

Two years doesn't seem like a big deal to me. You know, girls tend mature faster than guys do, so she's probably right on your emotional level. Right now, your friends might think it's a little weird because she's still in middle school, but when she's a freshman next year it might not seem like such a big deal to them anymore. When I was a freshman, there were quite a few girls in my grade with boyfriends who were juniors or seniors, so you probably won't be the only one who's dating a younger girl. In the end though, you have to make your own decisions and not let other people make them for you. If you really like this girl, and want to have a relationship with her, go for it! If you're really worried, ask your friends first. Tell them you like this girl, and that you want to get involved with her, and what do they think about that? Not asking for their permission (because you don't need it), just making sure you won't be causing any problems if they think you're too old.

And of course be sure she's up for it, too. If she was flirting and kissing you the other night, I'd say she would be thrilled to be your girlfriend. But since she is 14, when you ask her out just make sure she knows she can say no if she doesn't think she's ready (but I think she'll say yes).

Things should work out just fine. :)

[george]

If she likes you and you like her then why should it matter what people say? Just ignore them :)

[Zephyr]

It isn't the people you should worry about.

Rather her parents. I mean, if you like eachother, then be together by all means. But it would be helpful in the long run if you were to get ther parent's permission rather than them having to hear from somebody else that their daughter is dating a guy in highschool.

[Sage]

If you love her you wouldn't care what other people think. And no, I'm not saying that in a bitter, sarcastive, or insulting manner.

[Hyper]

Issue where?.. Seriously 14 & 16 isn't a miracle or rare.. I don't see any issue.

[Close102]

hold off until next year if u are really worried what others think but if u do that make sure u still have a good relationship with her. my opinion would be just go talk to her know about it and if she is ready dont listen to other people and ask her out. the age difference really isnt that big.

[Tree]

I had this same problem when I was in 8th grade. I'm now a junior and my boyfriend graduated last year. We've been together for almost 4 years =]. At first, everyone was talking in our town (its a very small one) but then after a few months people got so used to us being together that they found something new to gossip about. And they would make jokes like "Hey wheres your husband" or they'd say "I could never picture you two apart", if you really like her, go for it. It might be a little rough in the beginning but it will be worth it in the end. Who knows, maybe she's your soul mate? :)

[Prince Jellyfish]

If there's grass on the field, play ball!:cool:

[silentc0re]

Go for it.

[Nihilus]

Age should not do anything. really My gramps is 73 but his wife is in her 60's.

[*Dissident*]

Age should not do anything. really My gramps is 73 but his wife is in her 60's.

It is a lot different in highschool.