How can I change my mother's mind

[drunkbanana17]

Hey guys . For some reason my brother was mad at me and said to my parents that I play LoL ( videogame) with a girl from my school . I'm pretty embarrassed talking about stuff like that with my parents . This happened 1 month ago .

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My parents now say that they will cut off the internet connection and when I get mad at them saying " I don't have anything else to do" they say "we don't care " . They don't let me go outside alone and I am the guy that gets invited and doesn't invite to get-togethers . Nothing good on TV and I can't watch anime without internet. When I get mad my mom then says I'm mad because I miss the " cyber randez vous" with that girl which is totally false . Then she says that " I will call at her house " and doesn't say why or what will she say . She says I'm going all in for a relationship which is false too and can't listen to reason.

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Also she says that we will go to a psychologist soon because I'm addicted to internet when I just dont have anything else to do ...

[dxcxdzv]

How much time do you spend on the Internet per day?

[drunkbanana17]

A lot , but there isn't anything else im allowed to do . Also pls help about the " I'll call her " problem , I will get so embarrassed

[dxcxdzv]

Well it's a girl from your school, you might get embarrassed if your mother calls her parents but at least, after that, she'll have no more arguments concerning the "it's a false relation etc etc".
Parents don't really like to see their children stuck in front of a screen, where they can't know exactly what they do ; how old are you?

[CosmicNoodle]

Is she said that to me the reply would be a simply "Ok, go ahead, we play Leage and that's about it", then explain to the girl in question that my mother is a crazy motherfucker with no grasp on reality and is incapable as a parent.

[drunkbanana17]

I'm 16 .. Problem is that they don't let me out of the house . When I'm on the phone I watch anime , listen to music and even watch fact videos . When I'm on the PC I do play a lot but I don't really have anything else to do . They made an appointment with an psychologist for God's shake , lets hope he will be open minded or I wont take it anymore ..



PS : My mom even thinks that my only passion and addiction is to win at LoL with her ... Oh my god why me .....

[dxcxdzv]

The psy can be a good idea. I think your parents are just worrying about you, a psychologic work not only about you but about the whole family (or at least you and your parents) might be extremely profitable even if at the beginning there is just a mother too much worried.
Just have a try, if it doesn't work, just refuse to see a psy again, the guy himself can't accept if you refuse.

[drunkbanana17]

He can't but my parents are blackmailing me saying they will send an ambulance to tie me up and send me if I resist going... I just wanna cry

[dxcxdzv]

He can't but my parents are blackmailing me saying they will send an ambulance to tie me up and send me if I resist going... I just wanna cry
No dude that's bullshit.
A ambulance comes if you've got a car accident or if you've got a heart attack, not if you don't want to go to a psy.

[drunkbanana17]

No dude that's bullshit.


A ambulance comes if you've got a car accident or if you've got a heart attack, not if you don't want to go to a psy.



I don't think its BS , I think they mean like when you get orders to get a crazy person in a hospital ... Anyways , thanks for the help , lets hope the psy is understanding because if he isn't , I'm gonna have a bad time . If this wifi hotspot is still here tomorrow I will keep you updated .



BTW , is that Yuno from Mirai Nikki in your profile pic like in mine ?

[Kate908]

Maybe it is very difficult to change mother's mind) For instance I am 20 but I do not know how to convice my mum that I want to live with my bf. She says that I am a student she gives me money I live in her house so I can't do that.....I don't know what to do(

[Uniquemind]

Snap your computer in two in front of their faces and then ask them if they still think you're addicted to LoL.

You need to choose between three mutually exclusive dramatic arguments:

1. Keeping Internet for socialization.

2. Proving your parents wrong.

3. Walk away from LoL and flirt with the girl in real life and let her know what's going on if she's your friend.

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Forgive your little bro. And straight up chill with him and figure out what's got him mad at you.

Go grab ice cream or a meal or go do something to show effort to bond with him genuinely.

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Go and see the psychologist and rant and rave what you just said here to them. Explain the multiple perspectives of your POV and why you think and what you think your parents are doing.


Also keep up those academic test scores, if those are subpar (C's and B's), then that makes defending your internet time a hard argument to sell.


But also the best behavioral thing to is to be passive to everything thrown at you.


Passive personalities drive parents up a wall because they can't read you. But by all means don't act depressed either, just patient and passive.