Mercy or Ignorance?

[GoGoDiego]

I have a friend in school whom I have been friends with since Grade 6, as he so says. (We are both in Grade 11 right now and I started to become friends with him last year) I have noticed that if I would treat him for a snack after school, he would say yes, but will not show up after school. One time, I asked him to come and accompany me to the counselor's office during breaktime for an important business and while going down to the office, he left me. There are many times he made promises but he did not act it upon. Any advice? I told him about all the things he had done, he apologized, and it went to nothing. Should I bear with that person or ignore him as if he did not exist?

[ClaraWho]

Just move on, actions speak louder than words, ditch him.

~ Clara

[Just JT]

That's not how a friend treats a friend, at least not in my world
It works both ways, friends don't leave your side, for any reason
Don't bother any more

[Interstellar]

If it was just a one time thing then I would say don't worry about it, but since you make it sound like this is something that he does a lot you should just forget about him. If he doesn't care about you then you two shouldn't be friends.

[jssixna]

Don't just ditch him like that. If he continues then do so.

[Daniella98]

I dont think you should ditch him either. But you shouldnt ask him for favours or make plans with him anymore. It sounds like he has a pattern of just wandering off and forget all about it.

[Uniquemind]

I have a friend like that.

The best course of action would be to keep them in your social circle but downgrade how much faith you put in them as reliable friends.

No need to ditch other people, just don't keep those sorts in your inner circle.

Keep 3 tiers of people you know.

1. Inner circle (friends to the point of them being like family, very reliable)

2. Close friends (potentially life long friends and they have history of treating you like you treat them, so they're trustworthy, and are usually good listeners and advice givers).

3. Casual friends (people you keep around and are friendly with, but who aren't close to you and aren't usually reliable for favors or vice-versa). Potentially very shallow people. Aka: acquaintances.