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[Perece99]

Ok guys so I've been in a relationship with this girl for awhile I've been thinking about the whole sex thing a lot. All my friends are losing their virginity early and want to but I think it would be looked down upon. What would you do in this case?

[Second Chance]

Ok guys so I've been in a relationship with this girl for awhile I've been thinking about the whole sex thing a lot. All my friends are losing their virginity early and want to but I think it would be looked down upon. What would you do in this case?

Before having sex you need to make sure that you can handle the following:

1. The costs of birth control (i.e. condoms)
2. That your girlfriend is on birth control
3. That you and your girlfriend can get emergency contraception if something goes wrong.
4. That you can get access to condoms and know how to use them.
5. That you and your girlfriend can get medical attention if something goes wrong with sex.
6. That you and your girlfriend can handle both the emotional and physical sides of sex.
7. That you and your girlfriend actually have a place where you can have sex because that is a problem for some people having privacy.
8. That you know for a fact that your girlfriend is a virgin and that you know that she has no STDs. If she is not a virgin, then you both have the ability to be tested for STDs.
9. That your girlfriend is totally ready to have sex and that neither of you are pressuring each other to get naked.

Having sex is something you need to be ready for and not some sort of thing where you are keeping up with everyone else. If you can handle all the responsibilities that come with sex, then you're ready for it.

[lliam]

Uhmm, a list. May be I'm too simple minded for this.



First of all, I wouldn't processing any list.

If you want to have sex, have sex ... assuming a girl or whoever wants the same do with you with you. But never forget to use condoms.


If you're not ready to have sex, let it be. And it's totally uninteresting what others are doing in this case.

[PinkFloyd]

Before having sex you need to make sure that you can handle the following:

1. The costs of birth control (i.e. condoms)
2. That your girlfriend is on birth control
3. That you and your girlfriend can get emergency contraception if something goes wrong.
4. That you can get access to condoms and know how to use them.
5. That you and your girlfriend can get medical attention if something goes wrong with sex.
6. That you and your girlfriend can handle both the emotional and physical sides of sex.
7. That you and your girlfriend actually have a place where you can have sex because that is a problem for some people having privacy.
8. That you know for a fact that your girlfriend is a virgin and that you know that she has no STDs. If she is not a virgin, then you both have the ability to be tested for STDs.
9. That your girlfriend is totally ready to have sex and that neither of you are pressuring each other to get naked.

Having sex is something you need to be ready for and not some sort of thing where you are keeping up with everyone else. If you can handle all the responsibilities that come with sex, then you're ready for it.

This. It's very, very important to take all of this into account. Sex can be a loving, and great experience, but only if you do it the way you're comfortable doing it. Go above and beyond with birth control. Condoms fail all the fucking time. I've had two break on me which lead to pregnancy scares. I never thought I'd be HAPPY that my girlfriend got her shark week.

[Bluebyrd]

If you both want to do it then you should just do it! Make sure, though, that you have condoms.

[Sports Boy]

Don't be pressured into sex because your friends are doing it. It has to be a decision between you and your girlfriend, that you both believe it's the right time with the right person. And ya, you need to be able to check off some of Second Chances' boxes.

[Zachary G]

Ok guys so I've been in a relationship with this girl for awhile I've been thinking about the whole sex thing a lot. All my friends are losing their virginity early and want to but I think it would be looked down upon. What would you do in this case?

Just because all of your friends are losing their virginity early, doesnt mean you have to do the same thing to keep up with them. I would do anything just because my friends were doing it -- whats good for one, isnt always good for another. You have to do what is right for you, but only when you feel you are ready and not before then.

[Just JT]

What everyone below said
Don't be a follower, be a leader,
Sex is awsome, but do it for the right reason, with the right person, when you both are ready for ALL the implication
If you need to ask, your probably not ready....



Before having sex you need to make sure that you can handle the following:

1. The costs of birth control (i.e. condoms)
2. That your girlfriend is on birth control
3. That you and your girlfriend can get emergency contraception if something goes wrong.
4. That you can get access to condoms and know how to use them.
5. That you and your girlfriend can get medical attention if something goes wrong with sex.
6. That you and your girlfriend can handle both the emotional and physical sides of sex.
7. That you and your girlfriend actually have a place where you can have sex because that is a problem for some people having privacy.
8. That you know for a fact that your girlfriend is a virgin and that you know that she has no STDs. If she is not a virgin, then you both have the ability to be tested for STDs.
9. That your girlfriend is totally ready to have sex and that neither of you are pressuring each other to get naked.

Having sex is something you need to be ready for and not some sort of thing where you are keeping up with everyone else. If you can handle all the responsibilities that come with sex, then you're ready for it.

This. It's very, very important to take all of this into account. Sex can be a loving, and great experience, but only if you do it the way you're comfortable doing it. Go above and beyond with birth control. Condoms fail all the fucking time. I've had two break on me which lead to pregnancy scares. I never thought I'd be HAPPY that my girlfriend got her shark week.

Don't be pressured into sex because your friends are doing it. It has to be a decision between you and your girlfriend, that you both believe it's the right time with the right person. And ya, you need to be able to check off some of Second Chances' boxes.

Just because all of your friends are losing their virginity early, doesnt mean you have to do the same thing to keep up with them. I would do anything just because my friends were doing it -- whats good for one, isnt always good for another. You have to do what is right for you, but only when you feel you are ready and not before then.

[SethfromMI]

Before having sex you need to make sure that you can handle the following:

1. The costs of birth control (i.e. condoms)
2. That your girlfriend is on birth control
3. That you and your girlfriend can get emergency contraception if something goes wrong.
4. That you can get access to condoms and know how to use them.
5. That you and your girlfriend can get medical attention if something goes wrong with sex.
6. That you and your girlfriend can handle both the emotional and physical sides of sex.
7. That you and your girlfriend actually have a place where you can have sex because that is a problem for some people having privacy.
8. That you know for a fact that your girlfriend is a virgin and that you know that she has no STDs. If she is not a virgin, then you both have the ability to be tested for STDs.
9. That your girlfriend is totally ready to have sex and that neither of you are pressuring each other to get naked.

Having sex is something you need to be ready for and not some sort of thing where you are keeping up with everyone else. If you can handle all the responsibilities that come with sex, then you're ready for it.

This is such good advice. OP listen to this. make sure you are ready. don't do it just because everyone else is

[Catholic Guy]

Listen to the advice that Seth gave, most important is don't do it because other people are, do it because you're ready and she's ready and I don't know if you've done other stuff or not (?) but try that other stuff out first and if you're both comfortable with it all then talk about sex and made a decision as a couple

[lkc413]

If you do it, do it with someone special. It means so much more if it's genuine verses someone who you'll probably never be anything more than sex partners.

[hesaidhesaid]

It took me until 16 to lose it. And believe me, it was worth every second. Sometimes, it's not just about finding the right person, but your sexual maturity and how game you are to risk a lot (if not everything) for 20 minutes of pleasure.
I hope I'm not discouraging you. All I am saying is...it worked fine with me but you never know what can happen.

**For the record, I have only had sex once and been blown once. I think from this response, you can see why.

[Heyman]

Don't feel pressured to do it, but if you do, just be safe!