Would you date a fat guy?

[DamWayne]

I was wondering that. Please, girls and gay/bi guys, be as honest as possible. I know this thread will be lost and forgotten pretty quickly like everything i do in life, but it happen to have a few answers i would be happy.

Would you date a fat guy? Is flab and lack of muscles the biggest turn off there is to a guy? Can you look past that or theres absolutely no way you would come close to this? I know most people like muscles and 6 pack abs and beautiful tall hairless bodies, but i wonder in what proportions exactly.

[dxcxdzv]

It really depends of what you are calling "fat".
But in general I don't like fatness.

[CupcakeLuv101]

Tbh I dont like loose fat or bellies on guys

[Hideous]

Define fat? Is it chubby or obese?

I'm not into someone who does not take care of their own body, and that does not mean the person is fat. They can be chubby or have a big belly and still eat healthy but honestly it does not matter to me.

[DamWayne]

Tbh I dont like loose fat or bellies on guys
so you go with only 6 pack guys?

"fat" means anything that is not flat stomach or 6 pack, i guess.

[Emerald Dream]

Puberty for All :arrow: Relationships and Dating

This is probably better suited here.


Someone's weight (or overall appearance) has not really been a top priority with me when thinking about whether or not I would date a person. There are plenty of other things that would get or lose my interest.

(actually, the biggest turn-off would be a guy who is unbelievably egotistical and full of himself)

[Abyssal Echo]

Define fat? Is it chubby or obese?

I'm not into someone who does not take care of their own body, and that does not mean the person is fat. They can be chubby or have a big belly and still eat healthy but honestly it does not matter to me.

I feel the same way.
I've met a lot of really cool overweight people.
To me it's more about the person.

[AutumnWinds]

i think "fat" is one of those words that has a very broad meaning. i'm not trying to call you out or anything, but if you're overweight and you want to know about your size specifically, please gimme some more info. if you're not comfortable sharing here PM would work too.

to answer your question as much as i can here, 10-20 pounds overweight or so is not even an issue to me. excluding those guys who look like greek sculptures, i just really don't even register a difference between guys who are "in shape" and guys who are moderately overweight. on the flip side, if a guy were too heavy to get out of bed or live a normal life because of his weight, i'm not dating him. yes, part of that is because at that point it does effect his physical attractiveness, but it's also because i'm going to miss out on a lot of things i like to do or at the very least will never be able to involve the guy in that part of my life.

also, i want to point out that flab and lack of muscles are two really different and distinct physical qualities. the guy i am currently seeing is a little heavy. that being said he has muscles. he's strong, which is a turn on to me, he just has some extra poundage over it. the muscles make a big difference though. i really don't find lack of muscles attractive. this is equally true if the guy is heavy or skinny.

of course personality comes into play too. the guy i'm seeing right now is next to my dad the best person i have ever met. there are better looking guys out there, not that he is unattractive, and not to sound conceited, but i know i'm attractive enough to interest those guys, too. but there are not better men out there, and to be blunt, i am beyond fortunate to have found him and for him to be attracted to me.

i don't know how much extra weight a guy could have before even being that good of a person isn't enough, i'm sure there is a limit, but it's just way too hypothetical at that point for me to have any real answer.

i hope i answered your question. lemme know if i can give you any more info. :D

I was wondering that. Please, girls and gay/bi guys, be as honest as possible. I know this thread will be lost and forgotten pretty quickly like everything i do in life, but it happen to have a few answers i would be happy.

Would you date a fat guy? Is flab and lack of muscles the biggest turn off there is to a guy? Can you look past that or theres absolutely no way you would come close to this? I know most people like muscles and 6 pack abs and beautiful tall hairless bodies, but i wonder in what proportions exactly.

[BlackParadePixie]

I dated a guy who was kinda chubby. Would do it again if he was a really nice guy.

[Abhorrence]

Nobody can really explicitly state who they would and would not date when they're not put into the specific situation. There could be a choice between a stereotypically hot guy and an overweight average looking guy -- the hot guy could be an absolute asshole, treats everyone with disrespect and is generally full of himself and then the average, overweight guy could be the nicest, funniest person ever. I think it depends on the situation of personality, looking stereotypically model-like will only get you so far if your personality is absolutely dire.

[Hudor]

Someone's weight (or overall appearance) has not really been a top priority with me when thinking about whether or not I would date a person. There are plenty of other things that would get or lose my interest.

(actually, the biggest turn-off would be a guy who is unbelievably egotistical and full of himself)

This ^
Pretty much the same holds true for me too.

[Sports Boy]

I have know some guys who have not been in the greatest physical condition but who I found attractive. My own circumstances prevented me from doing anything but I could see being with someone who may be overweight.

[Daniella98]

I could do that yeah no problem

[fast8]

Yea I could I never judge someone from what they look like I've always try to get to know them see how the treat others and be respectful

[Babs]

If I was attracted to him, sure.

[Melodic]

I have before. I'm more into personality.

[ptz7649]

I wouldnt pick a fat guy over a fit guy, but if i loved that guy, i wouldnt think twice. Also it depends by what you mean of fat. If you mean "chubby" then that's probally gonna go away by the end of teenage years anyway

[SethfromMI]

well I got to be honest, if I was single, the fat guy would have to have a pretty amazing personality. I am not trying to be mean, but I am just not really attracted to overweight people. if they had an amazing personality, I guess I would consider it . it also depends how fat we are talking about

[DamWayne]

well I got to be honest, if I was single, the fat guy would have to have a pretty amazing personality. I am not trying to be mean, but I am just not really attracted to overweight people. if they had an amazing personality, I guess I would consider it . it also depends how fat we are talking about

of course, since you're fit, "hot" people with "hot" people, thats this generations catchprase...

im surprised at how much this is going , i was expecting 2 answers at best.

[Sammy07]

I wouldn't date a fat guy, because first I ain't attracted to them, and also because if you're not able to take care of yourself, you're not able to take care of me.

[City Kid]

The last guy I fell in love with was a little chubby, but I wouldn't call him fat. I can't say that I don't take things like that into consideration, but when there are other things I really like about a person it's something I can overlook.

[docgirl]

I never dated a guy before, but I would date a fat girl if the opportunity comes and I fall in love with her. Personality for me is much more important than physical appearance.

[DamWayne]

I wouldn't date a fat guy, because first I ain't attracted to them, and also because if you're not able to take care of yourself, you're not able to take care of me.
so you think fat people just dont take care of themselves and thats the only reason they are fat? "just have self control like i do, if i can do it, its easy!!" i've heard this one before...

[SethfromMI]

of course, since you're fit, "hot" people with "hot" people, thats this generations catchprase...

im surprised at how much this is going , i was expecting 2 answers at best.

well everyone has a certain type of person they are attracted too. some like bigger people

[Sammy07]

so you think fat people just dont take care of themselves and thats the only reason they are fat? "just have self control like i do, if i can do it, its easy!!" i've heard this one before...

Being fat is a choice. It's the result of bad eating habits, a lack of physical activity and just pure laziness. I wouldn't date someone who promotes an unhealthy lifestyle. That's all !

[DamWayne]

Being fat is a choice. It's the result of bad eating habits, a lack of physical activity and just pure laziness. I wouldn't date someone who promotes an unhealthy lifestyle. That's all !
you dont know anything about fat people apart the hate they inspires you. You dont try to understand them, just to hate them. You are kind of despicable. Bu you're "ripped" so you're a great human being of course.

[DamWayne]

Being fat is a choice. It's the result of bad eating habits, a lack of physical activity and just pure laziness. I wouldn't date someone who promotes an unhealthy lifestyle. That's all !
you dont know anything about fat people apart the hate they inspires you. You dont try to understand them, just to hate them. You are kind of despicable. Bu you're "ripped" so you're a great human being of course.

[Uniquemind]

What are we defining as fat?

If by fat you mean the medical definition of obese then the answer would be no.


If they're only 20 lbs overweight sure I'd be open minded enough to do a couple dates. But I would try to help them get in shape if a serious relationship was where we were at.


Being fat and over weight is a complex issue other than just a lack of will power, and therefore shaming won't help such people.



You've gotta address:

1. How to shop for healthier food within a budget.

2. How to find time in the day for regular safe exercise.

3. How to address and diagnose diet-psychologically that contributes factors to mental cravings for food.

4. Genetics and metabolic rates.

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These really are the top 4, and a good smart person serious about health knows to invest discipline in researching HOW to stay healthy.

Laziness is part of the problem, but our culture is partly to blame, we're not moving most of the time because most good paying jobs have people at a desk crunching numbers all day and/or eating rich fast food or high calorie dense classy food including alcohol at the high echelons of society).


Not to mention social gatherings like birthdays, holidays, and national rituals have us gorge by tradition of rich food.


The issue is complex.


That being said I am not attracted to fat-obese people.

[DamWayne]

in my country 20lb overweight is considered obese...

[dxcxdzv]

in my country 20lb overweight is considered obese...
As fat, not obese, which is somewhat different.

20 lbs = 9 Kg

[CuteGuy889]

I was never muscled...Used to be 48kg, BMI was 15.2 making me underweight...skin & bones..was a stick..

Now I've put on a bit and stand 65kg BMI is 20.6 making me normal weight...now I've got some fat apart from skin and bones...got a soft belly roll and a rounded butt...still look slender as long as my shirt is on...
Would you call me "fat"....? What are your criteria ?

[SethfromMI]

I was never muscled...Used to be 48kg, BMI was 15.2 making me underweight...skin & bones..was a stick..

Now I've put on a bit and stand 65kg BMI is 20.6 making me normal weight...now I've got some fat apart from skin and bones...got a soft belly roll and a rounded butt...still look slender as long as my shirt is on...
Would you call me "fat"....? What are your criteria ?

well based on some of the pics I have seen on your profile, I would say you at least a little chubby, if not fat

[Porpoise101]

Being fat is a choice. It's the result of bad eating habits, a lack of physical activity and just pure laziness. I wouldn't date someone who promotes an unhealthy lifestyle. That's all !
As a former overweight person it is only sometimes laziness. Because my parents promoted unhealthiness I picked it up. Only when I got my family to change our habits did we grow.

[DamWayne]

well based on some of the pics I have seen on your profile, I would say you at least a little chubby, if not fat
If he is "fat" then i am a planet... I dont think someone skinny looking (he is skinny looking) with a small belly like he does can be called "fat", or even "chubby" its normal looking with a little pudge on the belly like many many guys do...
What is a "normal" and a "skinny" person to you if he is "fat"? Just by curiousity, i dont really know the "standards" of teens, since i dont have any friend that talks to me about these things, i just know what my parents told me about that. I guess "skinny" regardless of the new standards is like 3% bodyfat with all the veins of the body showing...

[SethfromMI]

If he is "fat" then i am a planet... I dont think someone skinny looking (he is skinny looking) with a small belly like he does can be called "fat", or even "chubby" its normal looking with a little pudge on the belly like many many guys do...
What is a "normal" and a "skinny" person to you if he is "fat"? Just by curiousity, i dont really know the "standards" of teens, since i dont have any friend that talks to me about these things, i just know what my parents told me about that. I guess "skinny" regardless of the new standards is like 3% bodyfat with all the veins of the body showing...

he is skinny in the one photo he does have a belly in some of the others. like I said, maybe he is not super overweight. but compared to the one photo he def grew a belly. I am not being mean, its there

[kokik]

Im straight guy but Ill answer it anyways. Fat is a big turnoff for me but the personality is all that matters for me

[Body odah Man]

Being fat is a choice. It's the result of bad eating habits, a lack of physical activity and just pure laziness. I wouldn't date someone who promotes an unhealthy lifestyle. That's all !

No it isn't. Some people are fat due to genetic reasons, diabetes, etc. etc.

[hesaidhesaid]

Well...my boyfriend is a tennis champion and a black belt in karate. We run middle distance together as a hobby.

Maybe that says something?

[Zachary G]

well I got to be honest, if I was single, the fat guy would have to have a pretty amazing personality. I am not trying to be mean, but I am just not really attracted to overweight people. if they had an amazing personality, I guess I would consider it . it also depends how fat we are talking about

Id have to say the same thing applies to me.

[plushdreams0608]

I think it definitely depends on personal opinion. Some people like that and others don't. Personally, I wouldn't necessarily be attracted to that but at the same time that is just a personal preference.