I can't feel love anymore

[ptz7649]

Before i left school ill with an eating disorder for three months, id been having really really strong emotions towards a guy i met when i was only 11 years old and then again when i was 12 old with a different guy. i know it was love and i felt attraction towards them but i feel like more recently, the feeling of love has just disappeared from me.

as enfuriating as it is to have a crush, i really do miss the feeling, and now that people at my school are actually taking the whole relationships thing seriously, i feel almost left behind. It seems like everyone is having proper crushes and flirting at a whole new level!

Anybody know if this is just because i havent found the right guy, or prehaps my hormones have been messed up by my illness?

I havent grownn in height in a year and had also stopped masturbating about when my anorexia started. i havent felt the urge to do again and have tried, but i dont get any feeling. i started when i was really young so its really weird.

i feel like i havent fancied a guy at all in the past year or so. I know that im only 13 now, but id like you to take this seriously because i really did have strong feelings at the time and that boy was the only thing i could think of.

i want to know fit his is a problem as well and does anorexia have anything to do with this?

PS. (mods) sorry if this is in wrong section, i feel like its half way between eating disorders and relationships and dating and puberty but thought it was more applicable here. please do move it if neccessary.

[Uniquemind]

It's a problem if this is causing you psychological distress which it sounds like it is.

It does sound like a hormone and possible neurotransmitter issue.

I would highly recommend seeing both your general medical practitioner and a psychologist.

Also depending on your genetics though, being short or not growing in a while might be normal and a-okay for you.

But see a professional for this.


Anorexia might also be to blame for stunted growth.

[ptz7649]

It's a problem if this is causing you psychological distress which it sounds like it is.

It does sound like a hormone and possible neurotransmitter issue.

I would highly recommend seeing both your general medical practitioner and a psychologist.

Also depending on your genetics though, being short or not growing in a while might be normal and a-okay for you.

But see a professional for this.


Anorexia might also be to blame for stunted growth.

Thanks so much for the advice,

I would go and see a proffesional, but I'm embarassed to talk to my parents abuot it whicih id have to do for them to take me to see someone about it.

They dont even really know much about my feelings and I'd feel SOawkward explaining to them about stopping masturbating because they have never even mentioned that word to me. i didnt even know what it was and that it had a name until sex ed, so of course i dont know how theyd react. and to be honest, I'm pretty stuck :/

I know that anorexia has stunted my growth in height, but im also afraid that it might be a reason why i dont have my period yet... i started puberty quite young and was expecting it about 1 or 2 years ago (around my mum's time).
its probally the cause of this.
TO HELL WTH ANOREXA! :(

[Uniquemind]

Thanks so much for the advice,

I would go and see a proffesional, but I'm embarassed to talk to my parents abuot it whicih id have to do for them to take me to see someone about it.

They dont even really know much about my feelings and I'd feel SOawkward explaining to them about stopping masturbating because they have never even mentioned that word to me. i didnt even know what it was and that it had a name until sex ed, so of course i dont know how theyd react. and to be honest, I'm pretty stuck :/

I know that anorexia has stunted my growth in height, but im also afraid that it might be a reason why i dont have my period yet... i started puberty quite young and was expecting it about 1 or 2 years ago (around my mum's time).
its probally the cause of this.
TO HELL WTH ANOREXA! :(

The hell with anorexia indeed.

But do NOT over stress yourself about damage done do your body because of this.

Your alive, that's what counts, which means your body can bounce back from this.

Think of this logically and historically; many people have had stunted growth due to war famine or being starved in prisoner of war camps, and survived and lived long and full lives with family once war was over.


My own grandma is one of these people, and she is old now but lived a great life despite being stunted in growth a bit.

A delayed period isn't the end of the world. Keep in mind that in the 1700's and 1800's women didn't get their periods until they were approx age 17. Humanity since then seems to have prospered.

Your FINE! Take a deep breath and chill girl.

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Most parents are good people, you should trust yours and id suggest getting both of your mom and dad down and say "I need a family meeting with you two and myself and we need to talk at ___ time of day".
Meeting starts: so I've been concerned about these health issues with my body lately and mental issues so I need to see a doctor and psychologist and I need your support in this, and some of these issues relate to my sexual health and on that front I won't say much more except that I'm not pregnant; so you can take a sigh of relief there. (Always good to inject some humor into such a discussion).



There that's my next two cents of advice.

Hope I helped!

[ptz7649]

The hell with anorexia indeed.

But do NOT over stress yourself about damage done do your body because of this.

Your alive, that's what counts, which means your body can bounce back from this.

Think of this logically and historically; many people have had stunted growth due to war famine or being starved in prisoner of war camps, and survived and lived long and full lives with family once war was over.


My own grandma is one of these people, and she is old now but lived a great life despite being stunted in growth a bit.

A delayed period isn't the end of the world. Keep in mind that in the 1700's and 1800's women didn't get their periods until they were approx age 17. Humanity since then seems to have prospered.

Your FINE! Take a deep breath and chill girl.

---

Most parents are good people, you should trust yours and id suggest getting both of your mom and dad down and say "I need a family meeting with you two and myself and we need to talk at ___ time of day".
Meeting starts: so I've been concerned about these health issues with my body lately and mental issues so I need to see a doctor and psychologist and I need your support in this, and some of these issues relate to my sexual health and on that front I won't say much more except that I'm not pregnant; so you can take a sigh of relief there. (Always good to inject some humor into such a discussion).



There that's my next two cents of advice.

Hope I helped!

Thanks so much, I think I'll try and have a sit down conversation with them, or maybe I could even have a talk with someone medical that I see for the ed treatment. I do tend to be quite hard on myself but I'm working on that!

I'll try not to put on a whole lot of stress just becasue of a gap in my growth, and sometimes it is hard to put things in perspective. Thanks so much!

[SillyShyGuy]

The right one will come in time. I waited until I was 19 to kiss a girl for the first time. Just be patient. It is better that someone likes you for who you are than to change yourself just to get someone to like you in a hurry.