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[impan1019]

So sick of having to listen to my dad's homophobia and yeah. i wish they knew that I was pan because maybe they would understand that every time they say something abt gays it really offends me. what do i do?

[PaleBoy]

As someone already proposed in another post, if you have very unsupportive parents, you can do nothing but endure until you can live independently.

If anything, you could try saying to your father "A friend of mine is gay and i don´t like when you speak about gays like that".

[maggs]

I'm with PaleBoy on this. In these cases, if you're 100% sure your family won't support you, just try to endure it as long as you can. It's a really hard situation, but there's not much you can do since you're still young and depend on your parents.

[Abhorrence]

I've still yet to come out to my mum but I'm kind of getting there by talking about some taboo topics. I've gone over homosexuality and now I'm just going onto other topics to make her more open-minded about everything. I just figure the more I introduce her to, the more she won't really mind when I eventually tell her I'm gay. Honestly, at this point I think I'm just aimlessly stalling out of petty fear.
If your dad isn't a completely close-minded fellow then maybe he would hear you out about some sexualities and genders and other stuff if you explain them all in a very mature way, answering questions, etc. If you keep the discussion civil you can introduce people to things that they would otherwise not understand.

[Cangirl]

I know how you feel. My parents are very supportive but not everybody in my family is. I think the best thing is to just try and put up with it as much as you can and if you feel that its to much then say what Paleboy said. One of my friends is gay/bi/pan/trans or whatever and he/she is really cool and nice. Also maybe try something like "they're somebody's child to" If you're really brave ask what would he say if you told him you were and then you can deny it but say just what if and how'd he'd feel if somebody said that about you.

Anyway HUGS !!!

[lliam]

So sick of having to listen to my dad's homophobia and yeah. i wish they knew that I was pan because maybe they would understand that every time they say something abt gays it really offends me. what do i do?


Tell him that you're gay and cause of his homophobia he hurts your human dignity or so.


And if he is religious, and wants to kick you out of the house, tell him that he first nust pay his debts. He owes you, because he has committed to bring you to life.

So until you can live independently, he has to take care of you and must do everything so you don't suffer e.g. from his homophobia. That's his obligation to you.

[AutumnWinds]

So sick of having to listen to my dad's homophobia and yeah. i wish they knew that I was pan because maybe they would understand that every time they say something abt gays it really offends me. what do i do?

i'm so sorry you have to deal with this. please just don't ever forget that their homophobia says a lot about them and nothing about you. you're a beautiful person and there is nothing wrong with who you are attracted to :):P

[impan1019]

thanks autumn

[SethfromMI]

I'm with PaleBoy on this. In these cases, if you're 100% sure your family won't support you, just try to endure it as long as you can. It's a really hard situation, but there's not much you can do since you're still young and depend on your parents.

this. no reason to put yourself in a situation which could go very badly for you. I hate to say keep it to yourself from your family, but you may have to

[James Dean]

This is a clear sign that coming out to these people are not going to end well.

If they say faggot and homophobic things like that spontaneously, don't come out to them. In fact have nothing to do with them and prove them wrong and have them run with their tails between their legs.

If your family seems open minded, and you seem to have no issues, and they aren't religious, then come out to them. Lucky you, you are one of the very few that have acceptance. Don't fuck it up and moan and complain. So many kids get abused and commit suicide due to homophobic parents.

[DoodleSnap]

As most above have said, I think the best course of action is to keep your sexuality to yourself, until you are ready to be independent. Maybe the old "Doctor, doctor, my friend has been having_______..." might be a good idea? Try and speak to them about it. You would be amazed what civil communication can do to open someone's mind.