I don't want to be seen as an attention-seeking fake bisexual?

[Grungeteen]

I'm planning to come out to my entire school through an instagram post but I am really worried that people will think I'm an attention seeker because I'm announcing it to everyone. I'm just very proud to be bi (well, maybe homoromantic but itseasier just saying bi) and I want people to not assume I'm straight. I've heard some people say that bi girls who go around telling people they're bi are fake and just seeking attention but I really don't want to be seen in that way. my best friend that I talked to (who is also bi) doesn't think its a good idea and sees no point in coming out. I just want a girlfriend and I can't do that if I'm in the closet.

I don't know...

FYI, when I say the entire school, I don't actually mean the ENTIRE school. It's mostly just people in my year and friends or classmates etc. when I posted this on another forum on another website, someone said it was attention seeking and there isn't any point in coming out to the ENTIRE school so I'm just clearing that up for people so there isn't a misunderstanding. But knowing my school, by the end of the week, everyone will know because openly gay or bi students are very rare in my school so it's very big gossip and things spread fast.

[StoppingTom]

I don't think people would consider you attention-seeking if you phrase it like you have here. It's something to get off your chest, and to put yourself out there, and if you explain it like that, I don't think you'll have too many problems (potentially aside from the usual teen bs gossip stuff)

[Zachary G]

Why come out to them at all, let them assume what they will about your sexuality. Its genuinely nobodys business but your own who yuo have feelings for or are involved with. I could see if it were your family and a close group of friends, but everyone in you year/class. Its none of their business and I can see where someone might say that its attention getting behaviour.

[Bluebyrd]

I'm gay and no one knows except for people on the internet but I have never denied it. I don't think telling everyone is a good idea; just don't deny it if anyone asks you.

[pjones]

my dad tells me that perception can become reality, right or wrong, but thats how people are. my advice is, if you think it could be seen as attention seeking, it probably will to some so be prepared to deal with their "reality"

[PaleBoy]

I don´t think it´s that good of an idea....it does seem like you are showing off.

Perhaps it´s a better idea to just tell them speaking directly to those you wish knew?

[maggs]

Some will say it's attention seeking, and some will not. It's always like that. When I came out last year some people thought I was only seeking attention, but some didn't. And I know other cases where the same happened.

Just go ahead. Good luck! =) :hug:

[Cangirl]

I think if you really want to then it's ok but be ready for the backlash though. I mean it's your life and if you want to tell the whole world then you can:) I think I'd be more low key about it like I am now. I've told my friends and everybody is cool with it and some of them are even bi to:) I don't deny it but I don't flaunt it either.

[SethfromMI]

I don't think people would consider you attention-seeking if you phrase it like you have here. It's something to get off your chest, and to put yourself out there, and if you explain it like that, I don't think you'll have too many problems (potentially aside from the usual teen bs gossip stuff)

Some sadly may. but regardless, if the OP thinks and feels right about doing this, then he should. there is the possibility people are not going to react the way you want OP, you might want to be prepared for that, but still if you feel this is what you need or want to do, then do it

[Just JT]

I agree with Seth. You may not like the results, so be ready. What im not sure I understand is why it's so I port organs to youth tell everyone. Labels can get really sticky, especially if you find they need to be removed sometime what ever reason. But not admitting, and not denying it, isn't that basically the same thing? Do you hear of straight people announcing their sexuality publicly? Is it really that important? Maybe for the ones who truly care about you, and they will already know anyways.

[Aeroflux17]

As my opinion, Please do it if it will ease your everyday campus life.

[Jackieboii]

Why everyone, if u post it on Instagram to the school it may look attention seeking to everyone because not everyone needs to know, if you want some people to know just tell your friends and if anyone asks you don't deny it as u should be proud of who u r I don't think the best thing to do would post it on Instagram

[Perfectly Flawed]

I would honestly advise you to just do it. Remember that the people who think you're lying aren't worth talking to anyways. Fuck anyone who tries to tell you who you are. Only you can label yourself.

[Babs]

People talk. That's a fact of life. But you shouldn't let that stop you from doing you. Live your life on your own terms, man.

[caseyislame]

If you don't want to be seen as attention seeking, perhaps you shouldn't 'come out', but instead go on with your life romancing girls and boys and if any questions pop up, then just answer them.