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drunkbanana17
September 1st, 2015, 02:13 PM
Before we start , I live in Greece and the education system is complicated . At 3rd year of High School( when you are 17-18) ( I will now go to 2nd grade of high school) you take this super hard exams and compete against every other student as you in Greece . Then you choose a university and the people with the highest grades get in the university .Problem is the university my parents want me to go needs 93.5%-95% and keep pressuring me every day , especially my mother ... I have only 1 friend I chat with online and its the only person that makes me happy and doesn't backstab me like all my "friends" from my class did .(She is 2 years younger). Now that I'm 2 school years away from the exams they're demanding me to study like 3-5hours PER DAY and to encourage me to do so they say the will cut off the internet connection when school starts (11th of September) . So I will lose the only thing that I rely on , playing a video game with my female friend with whom for the first time I can be my self...Outside the Internet we are both introverted and only talk a bit in the school bus . In junior high school I have been bullied and none of my "friends" stood up for me , my parents talked to the teachers but nothing was done . I will lose my only friend .My only source of fun . Every time my mom says how important it is to write 92.5% I get mad and imagine beating her up furiously like she did with me on junior high school with a belt when I disobeyed her . I also imagine suiciding since I have no reason to live ... Please help me ...

thegreatgatz
September 1st, 2015, 02:32 PM
I hate to be that guy...

But your parents just want what is best for you, and no offense friend, it actually sounds like you should be listening to them instead of your own feelings. Your country is in big trouble, and academic success could be your one way out of the impending storm. If you work hard, and do well enough to get into university, the world will be your oyster. Happiness right now is not work a possible entire future of happiness and prosperity, what I'm saying is don't dick around, and listen to your parents. Maybe if you do this, your parents also won't cut your internet.

Freckles
September 1st, 2015, 04:13 PM
If you're in your 2nd year of high school you'll be able to leave her soon. Do your best with the school work. I know for me math is very hard. I also get frustrated but I do the best I can. Please don't beat your mother up and and up with a police record. That would be bad for you for your whole life.

drunkbanana17
September 2nd, 2015, 12:38 AM
Yes , unfortunately I'm aware of all the shit my country is into but the pressure is too damn high for the backup I have .And this summer for the passing exams ( passing the 1st class of high school to move to the 2nd there were subjects I studied for 6 or 7 hours straight and got like 85% and my parents were mad . How am I supposed to summon all the courage I have and keep my self locked in my room like all those years but studying instead of finding stuff to entertain me and keep me from saying fuck it , end of the line for me ? I mean I studied for 3 hours 5 days and my parents act like I studied 5 minutes ... I just can't .

jennyem
September 5th, 2015, 09:05 AM
I completely get where you're coming from and see why you're annoyed...but always remember though your parents may be annoying, they want whats best for you, so dont be frustrated at them!

Meruedu
September 6th, 2015, 12:28 PM
I'm in the same boat, mate. Like really, exactly the same (including the abuse part). At the end of this year is a state exam where I'm against every single person in the county for a spot in the best high school. My parents like to imply that I'm SURELY going to get a 10/10; I can only imagine their dissapointment(and yelling and screaming and punishment) if I get anything lower than 9.80.
Since I have a long history of emotional abuse with my mom, I can't really say that they want the best for me. If I don't get a college scholarship then I might as well pay for it myself. I studied hard these past years, finished with honors and prizes in any subject that I would want, yet my mom tells me that it doesn't mean anything, that my grades and prizes are worthless and that I didn't study at all. Altough she likes to brag about my results to relatives and aquaintances.

I can only bear with the situation I'm in. I would say you could try to speak with your parents and tell them how ridiculous is to study 3-5 hours daily. In my city there's a genius kid that went to the National Maths Olympics, not even he studies that much. When it comes to studying, it's not necesarily about how much time you spend, but how efficiently you spend it.
You should definitely study, but what your parents are doing is not okay either. I lost many friends because my parents thought they weren't intelligent enough for me; explain to your parents about that friend of yours, try anything! Once I dreamed that I accidentally killed my mother while she was on a rampage, I believe that we are alike:message me if you want to talk about it!

drunkbanana17
September 8th, 2015, 02:43 AM
Of course I wanna message you but I need 100 posts :(